Try not to think that God see's you as married. Just think of yourself as in a serious relationship. It is easier and doesn't cause as many problems for the relationship. Does your boyfriend think of you two as married? It takes two to have a marriage union. As a couple that is dating or engaged, you two are bound to each other by those simple words of who you are two each other. (Something modern teenagers don't understand or just forget for their own gain.) Remember that God says to follow the laws of man. He says to pay taxes, he says a man cannot lay in bed with another man (but what of two girls?), he turned water into wine (so we can drink that and get drunk). Etc. Focus on what he says about the situation. The main point is to "follow the laws of man".
I don't understand what you mean by being married only "in God's eyes." Do you mean that you had some kind of religious wedding ceremony and took wedding vows but didn't sign the paperwork?
Or are you having sex, or living together, and are currently unwed? I think in your heart, you know the answer to your question.
Also, there's a word for being in a serious, committed relationship that has a wedding date in sight: Engaged.
I realize that I am sounding really harsh in this answer. I don't mean to condemn and I'm actually an accepting person. If I knew you in person, I'd be your friend, and I wouldn't offer an opinion on your relationship status unless you asked for it. If you're really looking for guidance, go to the Bible. As far as I know, God doesn't have a Hubpages account! : D
Agreed! The Scripture is "harsh" especially if one desires to continue in sin! But Gal 6:1 told us to "..restore such an one in the spirit of meekness, considering thyself.." Yes, we have all "fallen short," but the Bible gives instructions for ma
NORINE . People have always gotten married. Mt 24:38 For as they were in those days before the Flood, eating and drinking, men marrying and women being given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark,
Thankyou both for your answers: Kate: I am currently unwed living with and have sex with my partner i am happily engaged and have been with my partner for 7 years. We are planning to get married in 2013. I just wanted to know what people's view were on the subject. We have looked at the Bible and are happy for what God has planned for us... I didnt needed guidence i just wanted to know people's views and used myself as i'm in that situation. I hope i have cleared that up
iburmaster: As written we are in a serious relationship and us thinking that we are married in the eyes of God cause No problems to the relationship.But thanks for the comments.
I hope you do both pray and repent, because living together without getting married is a sin, and I know you know that. Using in the eyes of God, will never save you from sinning. But I am so glad you are getting married. Christian should abide God
Rock on, Rachel. Telling these Bible thumping hypocrites that you were living with your partner and having sex with him before marriage is called living in the 21st century. Waiting for marriage before having sex is being a gambler beyond reason.
Serious, that is the stupidest thing I've read... And that's saying something. "Fruit" of good people who have a happy healthy sex life comprise of pretty much everyone born in the 21st century. Spouses who can't satisfy the other are bad.
"..having sex with him before marriage is called living in the 21st century. Waiting for marriage before having sex is being a gambler beyond reason." Living in the 21st century has NOTHING to do w/what is WRITTEN in His Word! If GOD joined together
Spiritually speaking "nothing has changed!" My GOD (Jesus Christ) is the same yesterday, today, & forever (Heb 13:8)! Ecc 1:9 says ""...there is no new thing under the sun." Unless "material" but we're talking "Marriage" which is "Spiritual!"
You should be more concerned about what God has to say about a person living in sin without the benefit of marriage IAllEars....man and woman living together, or same-sex gender living together is detestable in God's eyes.
Your attitude in asking this question clearly shows that you are really not interested in what is truly right or wrong about your relationship. You have already made up your mind that your behavior is acceptable to God and therefore have made YOURSELF the standard for what is right. How can you know or care what God thinks about something if you yourself decides beforehand that it is right or wrong?
The term "Christian" means "Christ-like." For the sake of Christ's name, please do not identify yourself as a Christian if you are determined to live in disobedience to God's Word. Please realize your sin and obey the Scriptures in this matter.
what verse? Can you support it by giving us the verse, I don't think that is true. Because laying with a woman who is not your wife is detestable to God. From Genesis to Revelation, that is God's command.
Being married is a symbolsim in my opinon you dont need a ring and certificate to show loves authenticy god knows what is real and what isnt this is between you and god no one esle has the right to judge not even me wish i could be more helpfull
Jas: So marriage is "symbolic?" Not according to Scripture! Marriages & weddings are in Scripture. Didn't Jesus turn water into wine at a wedding (His 1st miracle)? Why bcuz marriage was intended to b as Christ is to the Chruch-HOLY-& IN HIM
what if the place we live, the laws are immoral. God wants us to be married in his eyes, and although he said man should witness it, but I don't think evil. I read on a long article once, I wish I can find it, it made my hair stand in the air
Marriage in a states purpose is just union for taxing and census purpose. The word MARRIAGE isn't necessarily the same connotation as held in the bible. Like she mentioned in her original post, who married Adam to Eve or Sara and Abraham. God did.
Now, I have a question for you. How can you be certain that God sees you as being married? I do not know the particulars of your "marital" relationship so I cannot say for sure, but I make it a general rule not to think for God or say that He sees something this way or that.
I know nothing of your relationship with your "husband" or the vows you have taken before God. But, what makes you think your relationship is acceptable to God? Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Please advise.
I ask this because many "Christians" tell themselves they are married in God's eyes just so they can justify having sex before their wedding. They may be able to fool themselves, but God is not fooled nor is He mocked.
The Almighty knows what you are thinking and why you do what you do. One may be able to convince themselves, but lying to God is pointless. I do not know the circumstances surrounding your "marriage" before God, so I'm flying blind here, and can only respond in generalities.
Having said all that, I have a problem with the States who issue marriage licenses. How can they issue a marriage license if they do not know what marriage is? They will let anything get married these days and will allow anyone to get divorced without proper cause.
So, on that note, I would be tempted to consider marrying a woman (hypothetically) without the consent of the State. Marriage is a Holy institution given to mankind by God to be conducted within a proper context, but the State has no idea what they are doing and have lost their moral compass, providing they ever had one.
Another question I have for you, is if you are married in God's eyes, why go through the formalities and great expense of getting married in the eyes of the law? It just seems to me that there is more to this story than meets the eye.
Exactly!! why marry in the eyes of the law when it is evil as you said C J The law has made a mess with their immoraltiy & I think God may say, if your married in a church & the witnesses, what do you want the immoral US law involved for?
Look the other way. What's to say God accepts a marriage that was done in the eyes of human law and even Church? It's a leap of faith and an honest covenant that has to be made with God, followed by years of proving each other's love.
Marriage is only a legal contract. Relationships should not have to be sanctioned by anyone whether man or gods. There is no proof that Adam and Eve even existed. The earth is more than 6000 years old and humans have inhabited the earth much longer than the Bible claims. Too often people make others business their own. It is your choice whether or not you should get married. There is nothing wrong with testing the waters with someone before agreeing to a lifelong contract. Good luck to you!
She is asking from a Christian point of view so we should all have the courtesy to answer with the assumption that, in this situation, the bible is fact. As for your point, I agree, too often we look to society rather than self-acceptance.
Then Lois you would be pretty annoyed because it sounds like nonesense to you. That is why Atheist have the same reaction. Not surprised they speak their own language of what they believe. The problem is they attack you for the same right they have.
It does seem that you are biased in your question. That in itself shows a willfulness that has ego written all over it. If only your question had been more humble...
God's law is always the most important. In the Bible, it doesn't condemn premarital sex between two unmarried adults. It only says that the man has to marry the woman. He can't go sleeping around; by his act of sex, he has committed himself to the woman. The thing is, he needs to live up to that.
Getting married by the "law of the land" is only a secular formality.
In the Philippines, where I currently live, people frequently commit themselves to each other, but cannot afford to pay for a formal wedding. Many of these families thrive with lots of children and lifelong devotion. Some do not. In a land where divorce is illegal, things seem to work fairly well.
Who married Adam and Eve? They did, of course. They were committed to one another. That's all it takes.
Bless you. But let go of defensive ego. You don't need it.
Totally agree. Marriage is in the heart not a piece of paper. Many people who live together have truer, more loving, and more respectful relationships than those who are conventionally married. Many use that conventionality as an excuse. They are not loving nor respectful towards each other. They marry for appearance sake.
I BELIEVE WORD! I Cor 7:39 says "ONLY in the LORD" of second marriage! How much more the first? Why don't y'all READ what WORD says before attacking me because WORD goes against your "belief" and/or "lifestyle?"
Lois in general when a christain comments on spiritual things they really are talking to other people that share the same experience. The same language. IT would be annoying if you spoke in english.and I was speaking to you in Chinese with a quotes
Lois is correct example there are customs where people marry off their children before they reach maturity mentally and physically. In such case it is basically binding by paper not of the heart of a developed relationship of the two married.
Lois: No u don't blv WORD r u would blv I Cor 7:39 "...ONLY n the LORD!" 2nd - Why not 1st? Then u say "heart" which is TOTALLY against I Cor 7:39! ANYONE'S (same sex 2) "heart" can b n "obtaining a license to sin!" K&T: U need to "STUDY!"
Ideally, God sanctions marriages by bonding spouses in his indivisible image of divinity. When this is disobeyed, legalization is Plan-B for the purpose of protection of the wife's rights. (Matt. 19: 1-12)
That was before, but God already give Authority to certain people to conduct a wedding ceremony. And living together without "marrying" is abomination to God. There is no other people to marry eve and adam.
Your question indicates inner conflict and some other stuff also. Please forgive me. My own view point is that if you want to get married and your partner is willing, then do so. I note a reference to the legal side and I dare say that there are some other angles too, but this is not my area.
From the spiritual standpoint, Paul encourages you to marry as it hopefully will lead to a life of self-control. At a certain stage of this earthly sojourn, purity is essential and paramount. But we are not all made for this and so a life of marriage or one partner, will hopefully encourage a slow and steady approach to the sensual life and avoid promiscuity.
There are also so may other reasons for marriage, I know. Here I wish to stay with the spiritual angle. Purity is the life-breath of God and will attract the divine Light through interior and exterior prayer. Christianity or no Christianity, the spiritual life will urge you to go higher at some point and a degree of self-control will be necessary for your inner vessel to hold the inner Light.
Do not worry right now. A slow and steady approach is what's needed for many until one feels ready or blessed by the Divine.
I'm an officiant who is currently writing a ceremony for a same sex couple where one bride is Catholic and the other is non-denominational Christian and stumbled on this.
Personally I'm an atheist, so my answer to this is one people here are neither going to agree with or like but here it goes.
First off, I don't know what you mean by "but in God's eyes I am". The way I understand it in order to be married in God's eyes you need to have a ceremony performed in a church by a priest. That's not something I agree with, but I'm talking about Christian rules, not my own.
Now, it seems to me that I come across this sort of thing when talking to Christians all the time. Christians generally know what is or isn't against the rules of their bible or what is technically deemed acceptable for that religion. But it seems most cannot follow those rules to the letter. So in their own heads they justify their behavior by reinterpreting some part of what is written in the bible to fit their own personal needs. They do this for themselves but then don't extend the right to do that to those around them, particularly to those who aren't Christian at all. This gives Christians the ability to remain Christian in their own head, to live their own personal life the way they see fit despite the fact that they break the rules of Christianity, and at the same time maintain the ability to judge others for breaking other rules of Christianity that they happen to agree with.
It's probably now a moot point, because you're probably already married legally.
I personally don't think you were doing anything wrong. But I do think you broke the rules of your own faith and then justified doing that in your own head.
I'm sorry you have this view on Christians. However, Christians do not claim to be perfect. NO ONE is perfect. We only want to lead others to Christ because he loves us and you. I felt led to share this with you.
Eva is right! It's called "itching ears" in Scripture (II Tim 4:3). When TRUTH is told, "Christians" do NOT want to hear if it affects there lifestyle! See how "Atheist" perceive us? We should be "ON ONE ACCORD!"
I second the tax purposes as incentive, however, to answer your question it depends. Different denominations have different views on the issues of marriage; Catholic, Orthodox, and even Lutheran faiths believe that marriage is a Holy Sacrament. For a marriage to be truly official in the eyes of God means it has to be official by the eyes of the Church. Church and God are inseparable in these denominations.
As for other protestant based faith groups, ones faith is more personal. A marriage between you and your love can be official if pronounced in the eyes of God. As only through prayer and a personal relationship with God is your salvation possible. Holt works or sacraments aren't outlawed but hold a more symbolic nature in these such churches.
EH: We all are if not "IN THE LORD!" Didn't God estab it this way? Were not both Adam & Eve sinless, Holy, & "in the Lord?" There's our example! Did Script not say "...we WERE as some of these..?" I Cor 6:11Marriage is ONLY recog by God if
"Age" doesn't matter! Being "in the Lord" is the ONLY thing that matters. Otherwise, one has only acquired a "license to sin!" For Scripture says marriage should be Holy & "only in the Lord!" I Cor 7:39. 2nd & 1st MORESO!
GM: Study Scripture! Marriage is as "Christ is to be Church!" Christ=Holy; THE Church=Holy (not church)! If not HOLY, not a marriage! This is an ISSUE for none is ALIVE unless "IN THE LORD!" SPIRITUAL!
God loves you. He allows certain circumstances in your life, but that doesn't mean he 'accepts' 'living-together' as 'right' in his eyes. I have that unsure feeling too, I have marriage like relationship at the moment, but not married by state law or am I joined in a legal marriage in the eyes of God. Live your life. When the right time comes, and you can get married, you will. Talk to God, I'm sure he understands what's going on in your life at this time!
If the "abstinence till marriage" camp are so God worthy, then why are most of them so miserable? Most are sexually incompatible, frigid, or might suffer from ED. Don't buy a car without kicking the wheels. Don't marry without premarital sex.
In my humble opinion it really doesn't matter what I believe to be "Acceptable". This is a matter of great significance and one which should not be viewed from merely a preferential perspective. (i.e. what I think or agree with, etc) In regards to the sub comment..."Who married Adam and Eve?" , I think we would do well not to justify potentially sinful behavior on the basis of an incomparable scenario. In other words, clearly God established and agreed with the relationship between Adam and Eve and it was a scenario which could never be fully duplicated. However, the principles underlying the relationship with Adam and Eve can and should be duplicated and for the minutia in between God has provided us with a pretty helpful book to assist us in making God honoring and beneficial decision.
Here are just a few helpful passages, taken mostly from 1st Corinthians, to consider when dealing with this and other question regarding Christian living.
* Is this action going to be helpful in my life? - 1 Cor 6:12, 10:23 * Is this action going to potentially enslave me? - 1 Cor 6:12 * How will this action affect others who may be looking to me for direction in life? - 1 Cor 8:13, 1 Cor 10:24,32 * How will this action affect my ability to rightly reflect the Gospel in my life? - 1 Cor 9:12, 19-23 1 Cor 10:32-33 * Will engaging in this action be a violation of conscience? - 1 Cor 10:25-29 * Will this action reflect a healthy honor towards my body which ultimately belongs to God? - 1 Cor 6:19-20 * Will this action glorify God? - 1 Cor 10:31 * How will this action be viewed in the eyes of the law which i am told by Scripture to submit to? - 1 Peter 2, Romans 13
Amen! But one MUST "marry" according to what God established Holy/sinless (as Adam & Eve's) and "only in the Lord!" I Cor 7:39. Second & first most importantly! We were DEAD in our "sins" Eph 2:1;Col2:13 so how could one marry according t
Dear Norine when Noah family was saved by God's hand that was his divine actions. They lived . The name of Jesus was not at work then. So marriage was still honorable. If not they would have died in the flood.
K&T: U defy Scripture AGAIN! Why did Jesus LIE & said "Give me the GLORY I had w/You BEFORE the world was if "He was not in existence" ("One Spirit")Jn 17:5? Why do u cont to LIE on JESUS? Marriage was honorable w/Noah & family for they K
K&T By ur own admission JEHOVAH=IS/WAS/IS TO COME; There's JESUS or "I AM" who is "ONE SPIRIT" (Eph 4:4-6)! U looking for Word Jesus then u cont to look "carnally" when it's ALL Spiritual! Jn 4:24 or U r LOST!
No. Who married Adam and Eve? In Genesis 2:24 it says, "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." I have always understood this to mean that at this point, God married Adam and Eve. They didn't have taxes to worry about or licenses to fill out, but marriage is a sacred act and sexual relations outside of marriage are not condoned by God. He would not have left Adam and Eve unmarried. Remember, God's law came first then man's law.
Agree! By God's law of INDIVISIBLE UNITY, the first marriage was "Made In Heaven", i.e., in the image of God, a.k.a., "life-giving breath", prophetically pouring out from "the tree of life", or the cross of Christ (Gen. 2: 7-25). Back to square one!
The institution of marriage is a man-made endeavor created to control women and their inherited wealth and to allow a man to keep track of his offspring so he can be sure they belong to him and not some other dude. As far as God recognizing a union is concerned, all you have to do is exchange vows with your significant other, invoking the name of God. Ceremonies like this can be practiced in the privacy of one's own home with no religious representative required. That's how I see it.
DA: One can't"invoke the name of God" if DEAD! Eph 2:1; Col 2:13! Just bcuz 1 is breathing doesnt mean they're ALIVE in the sight of God! Marriage is "Spiritual" as "CHRIST is to THE CHURCH" both HOLY/SPIR
Marriage is a civil ceremony to establish the legal status of two persons. Holy Union is something you can attribute to your god or what/whoever you like, A couple can be married without any reference to a belief system.
For the difference, see the perfect ROLE MODEL of indivisible marriage between Adam and Eve based on the mutually shared "image of God", a.k.a., God's life-giving breath, or the Holy Spirit which is misplaced today away from the "tree of life".
The whole thing is completely irrelevant. You can do whatever you like with each other and there will be no judgement on either of you. Don't let religious dogma make you feel guilty about being in love. It's fine. Really.
CP: We (society) have moved so far from truth that "ANYTHING GOES!" Abortions, same sex marriages, so why not have a "trial run" before marriage? It's "what you & your partner make it!" But have you heard of the word "fornication?" SAD!
It is amazing how many lies and deceptions we tell our self when we want something to be real or true!Jesus turned the water to wine at a wedding, I would say that this is an example that would say God acknowledge a marriage. But, to say one is married with no wedding or documentation; I do not believe this to be true.
I disagree - marriage is about committment, not paper. When you & your partner have vowed this committment through covenant with one another before God, this is the 1st step to a spiritual marriage. Paper finalizes it leaglly but God is above law
Yes, God is above the law, but that does not entitle one to break the law. As seeking God's approval one must not deceive ones self to make things fit into one's own perspective. The paper give legal claim to keep what is built together. Seriously?
The real question is, do you think being married in the eyes of God is acceptable? If you do, then why question it? Being married is about commitment to another person. It's about being so completely and utterly in love with someone, that you choose to give them the power to break and heal your heart for the rest of your life. God gave us the power to choose our mates, and as long as you are committed to your partner, and they to you, you have a right to start your life together. That being said, I do suggest you get married under the law, at least for tax, healthcare, and other rights. Congratulations on your marriage. May you both have a long and happy life together.
Scripture says "What GOD has joined together..." not we ourselves. He did not give "us" the power to marry! We were DEAD prior to being IN CHRIST, if we married not being "in the Lord" God didn't "join" we did!
I am not god so I cant answer that. Within the relationship I have with god the answer is yes, because for me a marriage is a spiritual affair between me my god and the person I love not something the courts have any reason to be involved in.
It's not about the court, but it is all about God's rule and standard when it comes to marriage. The couple who obey his commands at the present times are will be blessed, the rest is punishment.We can't justify our own thinking. Bible reading.
Jen: We must obey the laws of the land so says Scripture! I Agree that "marriage is a spiritual affair" as God estab it in Genesis. Since spiritual, we must be IN THE LORD to be a candidate for marriage otherwise we're DEAD in our sins-No Marriag!
Then you overide Gods law with your own. Also the words fornication , pornea, adulty, would have no point of use or meaning, they exist when you overide the laws of God who created the marriege bond. there is a difference.
In God eyes ,you are marry until you get marry according to the law of God that was reveal to his messengers.All you are doing now is fornicating with is a sin. But does !marriage have it's original meaning anymore?
Believe it or not, almost all Christian traditions, and even Jews, accept God the Father as the first "marriage celebrant". There were no other people on the earth to organize an official service with music and the Hokey Pokey at the reception. But, in reality, Adam and Eve had the coolest "wedding" of them all. Here’s why… God wed them through the creation of Eve – she is physically part of Adam and Adam is incomplete until she arrives. Adam then says, "At last, this is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh." They didn’t need a "ceremony" to ask God to unify them; He already did it for them through Eve’s creation. The rest of us have ceremonies, a sacrament, to experience the same type of unity given to Adam and Eve.
The MISSING LINK is the "deep secret truth" about the indivisibility of man and his spouse if and only when mutually sharing the “image of God" made present in the “tree of life” and updated by the cross of Christ. (Gen. 2: 7-25; Lk. 23: 40-43)
Isn't "marriage" supposed to be a union as "Christ is to the Church?" Aren't both Christ and Church Holy (or Church is supposed to be & "on one accord")? Do our "marriages" resemble a relationship such as this? If not, not as God intended!
I'm sorry but, have you read the Bible? Even in other religions, marriage is not a social creation but an institution provided by God. Unless you are referring specifically to the legal marriage process and status. But to be married, spiritually, you
Pete: Not according to Scripture! What "religion" calls "the church" is! THE CHURCH consists of disciples of Christ, "on ONE accord" w/rightly divided Word of God! Not all of these denominations with own interpretations of Scriptures (Gal 1:6-9)!
Pete: Well, "science" needs to "catchup" doesn't it? That's what I've always believed, unspiritual ppl are "immature!" They won't move fm the natural to the supernatural enhancing POWER fm w/in then ask for "proof" while sitting on it! LOL! SAD!
Pete: "Sitting on your POWER?" As GOD is my witness, I've touched 1 & the PWR of the HOLY SPIRIT caused him to fall in the Spirit! U too could have PWR (IN Christ) but "sitting on it" not allowing IT to work!
Mmmm...that goes both ways my friend. Do you personally obey every single thing depicted in the bible? Guarantee that you dont, yet you seem to think yourself more Christian than the poster of this question.
No it is not fornication, not as defined at the time the bible was written. Fornication comes from the greet root ""fornex" which translates to archway. In ancient times, prostitutes would gather in the archways.
Question: what validation or assurance is there that two people just living together are married in the eyes of God, without the entering into a marriage covenant? It's more than just a piece of paper.
A very interesting study is the Hebrew blood covenant. The word "covenant" means "to cut."
- there is an exchanging of blood - there is an exchanging of names - there is a ceremonial meal
Typically, in ancient Hebrew study, there is a "cutting" of each man's arm in which they mix their blood. Typically, animals were used, being cut in two and both parties walked through the midst of the animals while reciting the terms of the covenant. God did this with Abraham using the blood of animals. There is an exchanging of names. Abram becomes ArbraHAm, the "HA" representing the name of God, and God becomes "the God of Abraham." God uses the word "covenant" meaning that He "cut" an oath/promise/agreement with Abraham. Abraham then "cuts" the foreskin as a sign of the covenant.
The marriage covenant is based on all these things. There is a ceremony. Both the bride and the groom walk down the "middle" of both sides of the family seated on either side. The terms of the covenant are then recited. Rings are exchanged as a sign of the covenant. In ancient times, a band of skin would be cut on the third finger of the left hand as they believed there was an artery that went straight to the heart. It would then be smeared with ashes so as to produce a very visible scar. It was a sign of the covenant. We do this with rings now. Names are exchanged - The bride takes on the name of the groom and the groom is know as the husband of _______. Usually, there is a ceremonial meal, and in a Christian wedding there is cake and juice/wine/champagne. This signifies the communion elements of the body and blood of Christ. We should not be smearing this in each other's faces. This is a sign of the covenant. It symbolizes the body and the blood. Finally, upon consummation of the marriage, there is an exchange of blood. Not trying to be graphic here, but it is fact that the bloodline is in the semen of the male. Also, when a female virgin engages in intercourse, there is usually blood present. This is the exchanging of the blood. It is a marriage covenant.
It is MORE than just a piece of paper. There is no marriage without the marriage covenant.
If two people are truly committed to each other then there should be nothing that stands in their way. However, to get the real life tax benefits as well as being recognized ad "next of kin" you should see an officiant and get a license.
If God "joined" you together with a female, you better believe, It's a Marriage! If God said and he (spouse) KNEW her, you best believe they had sex! Gen 4:1 Why would God call Eve "his wife" in same verse if not "Married?"
No. Because everything we do should be 100% acceptable to God, and but obeying him 99% is disobedience and detestable to God. You are a Christian, you should already know that. Relationship is not a half serious thing, and everything that God bless are all legal and 100% obedience to His words.
Does this mean you Were you married in the church but just do not have the Marriage license?
If this IS the case Then having went to CCD classes I believe yes you are seen in the eyes of your god as being married (I no longer believe in those teachings)
If You haven't been married by the church (doing the whole I Do's thing in front of who usually officiates over them) then no you are NOT married in the eyes of your god.
From my time as a catholic in CCD calsses and going to church (as well as having to read that) it's funny Adam & Eve I've never found being noted as being married , and if you think about it being Eve came from a rib of Adam's Pick one.. he's either her father or her brother so one way or another there's some serious incest going on there.
Two people marry each other - God is optional. There are tons of atheist marriages that are healthier than some of the Christian marriages out there. It's built on mutual respect and love. If you have that fuck the scripture.
CP: Scripture only applies to "believers!" It's available to all, but no one shoves it down one's throat! I'm only telling ALL what's in Scripture. All have "free will" to do as they please! (Matt 10:14-15)
If you are a Christian and not legally married then your union is not recognized according to biblical standards. Adam and eve had a special union created by God as they were the catalyst for the human race. All thoughout the bible you have men taking and working years to marry.
If it's not legal on paper then you are still "ol girl I stay with" or "my girl" but placing the title of wife without earning it in real life on paper seems like hog wash.
I see people get married for the right reasons and be miserable... And they are sure to spread their misery. I also see people that think they know each other and then find out it was not what they signed up for. The people that smile the most know each other right away and don't care what any piece of paper or tradition tells them.
CP: Going to "a building" has nothing to do with Marriage! All I'm saying applies to "believers" not what "ppl have joined together" or what they think of each other! A blvrs "Marriage" should be as Christ is to the Church - Holy and in the LORD!
How are you not married legally? Is your "spouse" still married or can't get out of his current marriage? Outside of that, there shouldn't be many reasons why you two can't tie the knot.
Okay, for argument's sake, let's say you and your spouse are living together and having kids (why not - one commitment is as good as another). You are their mother and he is their father. You two have taken a vow of fidelity without a marriage, church, or justice of the peace making you man and wife - depending on what state you're in, you may already have a common-in-law marriage.
In reality, marriage is an agreement between to people to be true to one another for the rest of their lives. God does not give a marriage and the law doesn't either. The priest, reverend, justice, or judge is there to witness it, along with the congregation. Two people marry each other.
If you both agree to that without any kind of legal officiant, you're married - Mazel tov. For all intents and purposes, you're a couple. While I would got short of introducing yourself as Mrs. Marriedperson for legal reasons, unless you're looking for a divorce your unofficial civil union should be good until one of you dies.
But then again, I'm not God to most people. If it's good enough for him, who am I to argue?
Norine, you're freaking insane. Two people marry each other - with witnesses. Screw your scripture. I don't need a person dedicated to a book of myths to tell me that I'm married. Common-in-law states recognize marriage by cohabitation.
CP: Screw your "common in law states" (Man-Made Law)! "Two ppl" perform UNHOLY RITUAL & obtain "license to sin" (man's law) but r not married in the sight of GOD; bcuz marriage is HOLY as "Christ is to THE CHURCH" both HOLY as we should be in Ma
I believe the Love between you and your partner is what matters most to God. God is love, and when you truly love someone, you have made the commitment to them long before you take the vow. The energy of love is what is keeping you together. God knows this
How can you be married in the eyes of God but not legally? Who married Adam and Eve is a good question. I suppose if you were one of the first two people created by God and were created for the purpose for being together, I would say that is being married in the eyes of God. I don't think that is a standard most of us could meet.
CP: How can a "believer" show a "non-believer" anything? Just as you think I have JESUS "sitting @ the kiddie table," so I think your "non-belief" is "at the kiddie table!" Continue in your "free will," w/o "believing" Scripture! Consequences r gi
Romans 13:1-7 says we should "obey the laws of the land" [paraphrasing]! Neither fornication nor adultery is EVER acceptable in the sight of God! But let us consider what "Marriage" is in the sight of God according to Scripture!
Marriage was established by God in Genesis! God "joined them together" who were BOTH (before their fall-sinless) and "in the LORD!"
That's the way a "Marriage" should be today according to Scripture but who does this? We go out and "marry" according to "our" motives, i.e, handsome/beautiful, good sex, money, status, etc. of which God is not a part and; therefore, HE has not "joined us together" but we ourselves! Consequently - divorce!
I Corinthians 6:9-11 tells us that actions such as these "will not inherit the Kingdom of God." It goes on to say that we were "ONCE" sinners as these but have been "...washed, sanctified, and justified by the Spirit of God..." Did you notice "fornicators and adulterers?" We WERE! However, once you are "in the Lord," all is forgiven! Whether only ONE is IN THE LORD is OK for I Cor 7:14 says "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by his wife..."
Ephesians 2:1; Romans 5:6; Colossians 2:13 all say that we "were DEAD in our sins" before coming to Christ! If DEAD, how can one marry according to Scripture which should be "ONLY IN THE LORD?" Marriage is a "Spiritual" union, established by God and is NOT for self satisfaction but reproduction!
Religion would have one believe that ALL MARRIAGES are "IN THE LORD," which is a LIE! Why do you think the divorce rate is high? Because WE "join ourselves together" with a spouse and it doesn't work unless they become "IN THE LORD" during the "marriage!"
That's why Scripture says "What GOD (Not us) has joined together, let not man put asunder." (Mark 10:9; Matthew 19:6)
I am not religious but do consider my self spiritual. If god even care if your married or not, it would not matter if you aren't legally married, as long as you are married in the eyes of the lord. In the days of Joseph and Mary, if a man had a woman live with him, they were considered married. Legality has nothing to do with things of the spirit.
People who are reincarnation of the gods/angels(Same thing).AbrahamLincoln,WindsorChurchill,GeorgeWashington,NelsonMedulla,Confucius,Napoleon,ThomasJefferson,BarackObama(he become President, when we need 1 that know of Muslim and MiddleEast)
How do you know if you are really married in God's eyes?I am aware of what the bible says about marriage but I am not aware of how a marriage is suppose to happen, according to God. Marriage today is not so much about two people's love as it is about their wallets. I know that God didn't intend...
Where does someone like me, with psychic ability, fit into Christianity? Do you think I am evil?I believe in God & Jesus & God's Holy Spirit. But I was born psychic. I see dead people and I talk to dead people. It is a God-given ability. I help people. Yet I cannot label myself as...
With so many options to choose from nowadays, would/did you get married? Why or why not?Now that it's socially acceptable to live together, is there still any reason to get married? What do you think? If you're married or think you would like to be, why? If not, what made you take that choice?
Do you think that marriage is really necessary?My parents got married because "it was the right thing to do" not because they were in love with each other. Now after a nasty deparation and 27 agonizing years, they are finally happy.
If you were to stand before God today and He should ask you, "Why should I let you into Heaven?"...what would your response be? Looking for serious soul searching answers. Would love to help anyone seeking true understanding.
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