Why is it that the divorce rate is high, 51 percent end up in divorce specially

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   alexandriaruthkposted 12 years ago

   Why is it that the divorce rate is high, 51 percent end up in divorce specially celebrity divorces?
   
   Marriage has an increasing trend, people still marry and remarry, but divorce rate is high.
   
   In the US, one out of two marriages end up in divorce. Why do you think this is the case? What can couples do to stay together?

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   ChristinSposted 12 years ago

   I think people focus more on the wedding and romance and the thrill.  When the thrill wears off it becomes work and that requires effort and dedication that many people are lacking. 
   
   I think people marry for the wrong reasons - it isn't about finding a life partner, it's more about filling a void or loneliness or wanting the "illusion" we present as marriage.  Marriage is very rarely depicted as it actually is.  It is glorified and romanticized to get people to buy into the weddings etc.

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   screamingposted 12 years ago

   Simply because it's too easy to get a divorce these days. Much harder to work it out!

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   I believe the number one cause for divorce is and always has been selecting the wrong mate. There is no amount of "communication" or "work" that can overcome being with someone who does not want what you want for the marriage.
   There are numerous reasons why people pick the wrong person for themselves. Sometimes it's because they don't know themselves well enough to determine what they want or need in a life partner. They haven't done any introspective thinking. Other times they fall for "bait & switch" tactics which is when their mate "acted" one way when they were dating and changed dramatically after they got married. Lastly people often let "circumstances" dictate the reason for marrying. (age, biological clock, pregnancy, number of years invested in a relationship, or was given an ultimatum...etc)
   A marriage based on circumstances rather than love is likely to fail. One final thought that may be behind increased divorce rates is having more "options" and "opportunities" especially financially/career. We don't "need" each other which makes it easier to walk away when we are unhappy. It has been reported that (women) file for 66% of all divorces. Apparently unhappily married men are far more likely to cheat than run to the courthouse to file for divorce. A while back I wrote a hub listing 5 Reasons why men should not get married which could be applied to women as well. http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … et-Married

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   connorjposted 12 years ago

   Perhaps it is because people expect to stay in (romantic) love when married. It is most difficult to stay in (romantic) love with your partner for their whole life-span. Now, what I really mean by staying in love is somewhat complexed. If you can have your love evolve (I am not sure that is the correct word to use here) to a more of what would be termed agape love then perhaps marriages would indeed be long - term...

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   alexatomasposted 12 years ago

   I completely agree with screaming. When getting a divorce was so sort of taboo topic, people fought to be together until they couldn't anymore or they would have to face the shame. Nowadays, you're not "forced" to try, so people give up facing the first problem.

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   Globetrekkermelposted 12 years ago

   Several reasons why the divorce rate is high:
   1.Very easy to get divorced.Think Las Vegas.Divorce paper can be signed sealed and delivered in 15 minutes practically.
   2.People these days don't view marriage the way it was meant to be or at least the way my parents viewed marriage.
   3.The epidemic desease of COUPLES having short attention span on their partners.i.e.- monotony of the marriage.That happens to everybody though and a lot of couples do not divorce because of this reason.
   4.Rapid change of lifestyles excacerbated by the technology we are exposed to.It is amazing that everywhere now, you go to a restaurant ,being in a plane, at home or at work, people hardly talk anymore.Everybody is all glued to their own Ipads,laptops smartphones.Couples pounding away with their Ipads in a supposedly nice special dinner.Sad isn't it? what happened to open communication.
   what you have agreed and concurred previously may not hold true anymore therefore that causes a rift and eventually build overtime, and finally divorce.
   Not a positive outlook these days but look at marriage and divorce as the yin and the yang.It is almost expected these days. LOL!

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