Why socioeconomic class and educational background SHOULD MATTER MOST in terms of
friendships, dating, and/or marriage? The most harmonious relationships often occur in couples who have similar socioeconomic and educational backgrounds. Such couples have a commonality in terms of values, desires, and goals. It is usually couples with discordant socioeconomic and educational backgrounds who encounter the most difficulty in terms of relationships.
There would be a greater incidence of envy and jealousy in any relationship if there is a wide gap in socioeconomic and educational background. The less educated the person the higher is her/his need to be understood, just as the lower the socioeconomic condition a person has, he tends to get more attention by emphasizing, knowingly or unknowingly, his/her needy behaviors. These situation gradually affect the relationship in the long run. Eventually, the person with the higher learning and higher social and economic standing will be bored and even get angry with the less fortunate buddy.
There is no common ground for them to go through for a lasting and satisfactory, if not happy relationship...except maybe for sex in the case of marriage, gossip in the case of friendship and dating. And all these are just momentary whims.
Jynzly, you are so on target as usual. I have written hubs on the same topic and I was verbally crucified because I stated the same thing. You are my kind of person, brilliant analysis!
gmwilliams, this is a very difficult aspect of my life. I am dirt poor. However, I grew up relatively wealthy, attended the most exclusive schools, with servants in my home, and a driver on call if I went anywhere. In addition, there was a very high level of education in my home, and everyone was well traveled.
Here's the issue,
As you all know, I'm dirt poor. I have no means of mixing with the type of people who I best relate to. When I went to a community college here, I could not relate to the people. One of the school professors sought me out and said, "Your problem is that there is a class difference." I knew he was right, but I didn't dare to admit to it because people will hate you even more if you say something about it.
One of the major reasons I stopped dating is that I could never go out with someone who doesn't come from my early socio-economic class. But I'm not in that class anymore because I don't have the money. I do, however, have the culture and education.
I'm very lonely where I am. I have tried harder than you can believe to get on with people who don't have my roots but people see things differently depending on their earlier roots, and I know from experience, it doesn't work.
Sophie, you are a beautiful, educated woman. Cultivated men would be glad to date you! You are the epitome of class and elan.
Thanks, but one needs to meet them first, and my economic situation precludes that. It's not a good place to be. This has been going on for 20 years.
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