Have you ever been in two relationships at the same time or know someone who has

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  1. wellspoken profile image61
    wellspokenposted 10 years ago

    Have you ever been in two relationships at the same time or know someone who has?

    what was the outcome?

  2. Mazzy Bolero profile image68
    Mazzy Boleroposted 10 years ago

    I haven't personally. However, I have known a number of people who did this and I've been on the receiving end. Usually it ends in a very unpleasant way because the person cheated on feels deeply hurt, betrayed and disrespected.  I think it's always better to end a relationship in a respectful way before you start dating someone else.

    However, some people like to hedge their bets. They want to keep the first person on a string in case it doesn't work out with the second person. Or they say they like different aspects of different people and want their life partner to be a mosaic made up of parts of different people. Usually this is because they are just too scared to commit, scared to really love one person deeply as it makes them feel vulnerable. 

    I have read of people who don't care if their partner is unfaithful but I think this is where there is no love and they are together for pragmatic reasons.  I don't think you could bear it if you really loved the person.

    In matters of the heart, it seems to me you are either a deep-sea diver or a windsurfer. Windsurfing seems to be in fashion nowadays.  Many people skim the surface of life and they don't see anything wrong in there being an overlap of relationships and treating people almost as interchangeable. 

    Leaving out polygamous societies, which I just can't understand, I don't think it ever ends well. Even if the person drops one of their two partners, it will never be the same as the remaining one has lost trust and from then on they have to hold something back to protect themself.  Their image of their partner has been damaged for good.

    1. wellspoken profile image61
      wellspokenposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      thanks for your comments you raise some interesting points....i think people are sometimes just looking for love in all the wrong places and also i feel some of the ways people go about relationships stems from their DNA and the way their were raised

    2. Mazzy Bolero profile image68
      Mazzy Boleroposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I definitely agree that the way you are raised has a big effect. I would feel too guilty if I did it. I'm surprised more people haven't answered this question - maybe they don't want to admit they did this:)

    3. wellspoken profile image61
      wellspokenposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Well honestly i have been the one to do this. The reason i did it is because the two men equaled what i wanted in just one man. One was strictly for money and the other love and not sex love...it went on this way.

    4. Mazzy Bolero profile image68
      Mazzy Boleroposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I could never have gone out with a guy just for money, but then I am a romantic idealist and pragmatism isn't my forte. However, I wonder how you coped with that emotionally and whether you had to choose in the end.


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