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Who is to blame Adam L or the one who shelter him, knowing he had mental issues.

  1. Darknlovely3436 profile image81
    Darknlovely3436posted 5 years ago

    Who is to blame Adam L or the one who shelter him, knowing he had mental issues..

    I know that someone who knew him, had to see signs of unsual behavior,
    Why nobody close to him picked up on it, or report it to the authorities.

  2. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 5 years ago

    The problem is not knowing when common mental illness has crossed over to dangerous. By all I have heard he was autistic. My son has Aspergers which is similar. I would not be able to predict if he will become a threat to society. All I can do is see to it he is provided with the right tools to become a good person. However I can not make those tools work.
    With that, based on what has been released so far I would say Lanza was not at fault. His mother was partly at fault for having the guns available to him. Who should the rest of the blame be placed on? Well for starters his father. Was he in his life? If he was what was he doing to help his son? If he wasn't in his life then he failed as a father. The parents divorce could have played a big part on a child with autism. They do not take change well. All in all I just hate no one helped him. Chances are he was a good person that could have never taken so many lives if someone would have just stepped up.

    1. Darknlovely3436 profile image81
      Darknlovely3436posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WAfWfsop1e0    to know about this condition .. ones need to know about it.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    It seems in America we are always looking for (someone else) to blame other than the triggerman. Quite a few parents give their children all kinds of chances with the "hope" that things will one day turn around. Mothers of so called "gangsters" or "drug dealers" seldom if ever do they turn their sons or daughters over to the police.
    I believe Adam knew right from wrong. I believe he plotted to kill his mother, brother, and commit the shootings at the school. Yes he had mental problems but then again most mass murderers have mental problems. Truth be told it's NOT "normal" to kill (one) person unless it's in self defense.
    Maybe the reason why society looks for scapegoats is because murder suicides rob us of getting "closure" from their actions.
    The first couple weeks we grieve and soon afterwards the lawsuits will start rolling in. Someone or an institution with "deep pockets" will be charged with neglecting their responsibilities. It's always someone else's fault other than the dead killer.

  4. Sue St. Clair profile image72
    Sue St. Clairposted 5 years ago

    You ask a tough question. When mental health enters the situation, the waters get murky. With mental health laws in many states, you may see the problem, but that does not mean that you can do anything about it. When a person is committed, they are often in treatment for a period of time, yet they still have the choice of whether or not to take their medications and follow treatment protocol. That raises the question of whether the person prescribing mind altering medications be held responsible for the actions of their patients. When the mentally ill act out, there are often questions about who is to blame or what is to blame. Is it the parent, those friends closest to them, the physician who prescribed the mind-altering chemicals, the television/video games/movies, the social environment in which they live, the mentally ill person or the laws which often protect or interfere depending on what the issue is?

    In the case of Adam L., there is the frustration of not knowing who to blame. There are also many unanswered questions as well, like why he had his brother's ID, when his brother claimed not having seen Adam for a while, how a police officer lived next door to his mother, yet nothing was done in terms of getting help, why his brother is still in custody or why, or who prescribed his medications,...Until these questions and many others are addressed, we will not know who the real person to blame is. You can make Adam the scapegoat, but that is only taking a short-cut that avoids many pertinent questions that need answering before assigning blame with a clear conscience.