What do you say to a guy who was gay, but is deciding to go straight?
How do you support a friend if they were gay for several years, but is now deciding to go straight?
I almost think that sounds strange, "deciding to go gay." I always felt it wasn't exactly a decision but part of someone's internal being. In other words, is being gay really a choice? Or are people just born that way? I tend to lean toward the belief that people are born that way. Maybe some people do it as a choice, who knows. I would support a friend in anything they wanted to do though (as long as it wasn't something illegal or harmful to someone else, of course).
I don't think one (decides) to be straight or gay. I have always been a heterosexual male attracted to women. There was no point where I flipped a coin or "decided" to be straight. Your friend may decide to date women but most likely his heart, thoughts, and fantasies will be into men.
I'm not even certain there really are bisexuals. Most bisexuals are probably homosexuals/lesbians living in denial. As equal rights for gay/lesbians including marriage are accepted (under the law) I believe you will see a reduction in the number of people who consider themselves to be "bisexual". My advice is be true to yourself!
The best support is to just keep being a friend and someone who is there for them without judgement!
You support them because that's their preference and it isn't something they can help. Being bisexual is just as unavoidable as being homosexual or heterosexual is; so even if that person had been in homosexual relationships for years, it is their prerogative and their right to be in a relationship with whoever they want to be in a relationship with - regardless of gender.
Do whatever you want and feel happy with. Thats the only thing that matters
This is very interesting! To start with to be a 'gay' or 'straight' is never a choice. It is a 'self-deating' scenario that is extremely difficult to overcome. 'Bisexual' is a label to describe somebody who is confused and perhaps in self-denial. They use the term mainly as to gain respect from others. We have terminologies like discrete and floppy hand gay too so its a vague thing. Back to your friend, I personally do not think that will work out especially he has done for years. But like everyone here, support him/her and see what will happen!
wow, that's weird but I think you have to support his decisions. well, that's a really hard but a good decision especially when that would make him happy. and if I were you, I think I'm gonna marry him..no, just kidding!
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