Is it better to marry when you're younger (20's) or wait until your 30's or 40's

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  1. SoundNFury profile image81
    SoundNFuryposted 10 years ago

    Is it better to marry when you're younger (20's) or wait until your 30's or 40's?

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    Deepes Mindposted 10 years ago

    It is best to wait until you are stable and secure enough to be able to take care of your family as well as mature enough to understand compromise

    1. dashingscorpio profile image81
      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Very true!

  3. Andy McGuire profile image74
    Andy McGuireposted 10 years ago

    Ohmigerd! Wait!!! (At least until youre 35)

  4. freedomsthoughts profile image59
    freedomsthoughtsposted 10 years ago

    There are a lot of things that need to be considered for this question. Are both people completely ready to settle down? Have they, "sowed their wild oats?" I'm not saying that this expression applies to everyone but this is why I say this.
    I met my husband at seventeen.  For a long time, we were so deeply in love, but in reality neither of us so called,  "experienced life."  It doesn't mean that love wasn't there.  We separated for a time.  During this time it gave us both space not just know other people but to live and experience life. I married him at the age of twenty four.   Nine years later, we still have small marriage quarries at times, that make neither of us happy.  We learn how to work through them and move on. I think we both thrive in our relationship together.
    Also one should consider that a marriage is a full commitment.  Trust, devotion, and communication are key aspects.  To break it down I don't believe age applies here. I'm sure others might disagree.  I think it depends upon each couple differently and the commitment that they  are willing to devote to one another.

  5. ExpectGreatThings profile image76
    ExpectGreatThingsposted 10 years ago

    I see no harm in waiting until you're older. Youth tend to jump into things without understanding the full ramifications. I don't think it's bad to get married young, I just think it will be a harder marriage - since both people are still forming goals and dreams.

    Honestly, though, I think it is more important that a person has a good support system (loving extended family, deep friendships, church family, eg) than it is that he/she is a certain age. Marriage is hard, and having encouragers and people around me who aren't afraid to tell the truth has been a life-saver for me. I got married at 30 and have no regrets.

  6. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 10 years ago

    I married young (19) and it has worked out just fine - but generally speaking I think people should wait until they are older and more sure of what they want out of life.  There a lot to see and do out there.  Everyone is different but I would say late twenties or early thirties would be good.

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    Larry Wallposted 10 years ago

    Older is probably better. I was 29. However, the most important aspect is who you marry and not when you marry. You need a certain amount of maturity to separate love from sexual desire, but that is a personal decision. My wife and I were married almost one year to the day after we met. I knew immediately==she required a little convincing. That was 32 years ago and I think we will be together until the inevitable separates us.

  8. klidstone1970 profile image60
    klidstone1970posted 10 years ago

    It would depend on how mature the couple is and how well they know one another.   I married my husband at 22 and have been with him since 17.  We will be celebrating a 20 year anniversary this year and it hasn't been without some pitfalls.  But marriage is like that, whether you do it when your young or old.  It takes hard work to make a successful marriage and when children, work or just plain life gets thrown in the mix, that's when people find it stressful or want to throw in the towel.  But when you make an effort and treat your spouse with love and respect, then it's all worth it.

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    khmohsinposted 10 years ago

    Age is not important. Your ability to provide for your family, your ability to commit for a lifetime, your maturity and ability to respect and love your partner are the important things. Some people aren't ready at age 30. Some people are ready at 20.

  10. gosupress profile image59
    gosupressposted 10 years ago

    Obviously do it when you are 20 and then you can do it again when you are 30 but better smile

  11. minikitten profile image74
    minikittenposted 10 years ago

    Marry or choose a life partner?  Whatever age you are has little baring on the sutability of a relationship, however marriges tend to cost a fair amount of money and an older person is more likely to have that money without getting into a pile of debt.  But there is no reason why a young person cannot have a long-term cohabiting relationship which will last, they just probably can't afford a wedding.

  12. dashingscorpio profile image81
    dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

    Some young people believe if they have "adult responsibilities" it will make them an adult or the world will view and (respect) them as adults. Immaturity is all about "short-term" thinking.

    The main problem with getting married too young is not knowing what you don't know about (yourself, about life, what you want and need in a partner for life). You usually have not thought things through and don't have a "plan" for their future. "He who fails to plan, plans to fail."

    Getting married without having embarked on a strong career path makes it difficult to handle the responsibility of paying a mortgage, car notes, insurance, food, clothing, and if a young couple starts having children too soon they really set themselves up for highly stressful times. Awhile back I wrote a hub on this topic which applies to both men and women.

  13. Brisbanelocksmith profile image64
    Brisbanelocksmithposted 10 years ago

    If you are going to have kids, it is better when you are younger.
    You do not want to start having kids when you are 40.

  14. vinayt89 profile image60
    vinayt89posted 10 years ago

    I feel one should wait for atleast 25 because 20 is too early and 40 is too late
    But sometimes situation makes you to marry early, so its tough to get over such situations.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image81
      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      40 is too late? Hugh Hefner (founder of Playboy Magazine) is 86 years old and just recently got married to a 26 year old woman. It's never "too late" to get married. People over age 40 get married all the time. Albeit for most it's not their 1st time

    2. Brisbanelocksmith profile image64
      Brisbanelocksmithposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Are you getting married to have children.  Children should be a consideration and there is a best time biologically to have kids for both men and women.   86 year old sperm is not ideal.

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    AccumulateAmericaposted 10 years ago

    Short answer, I wish I waited, but I couldn't. I married when I was very early twenties. With current time and social patterns. It is completely acceptable to have a long relationship, and to live together. It is quite normal to be like married with out being married. Sometimes it takes years of doing such things to learn the real person you are paired up with. From my experience I would say it is better to wait. It can be done younger, but it is usually far more difficult on you and the significant other.

  16. kikibruce profile image71
    kikibruceposted 10 years ago

    I am unmarried and in my forties. I wish I had gotten married at 23, had kids at 25 and  had taken a more 'normal' route. Life is harder now, still on my own.

  17. OutWest profile image57
    OutWestposted 10 years ago

    I think it is better to wait until you are ready, regardless of age.


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