What's your view on long-distance relationships?

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 12 years ago

   What's your view on long-distance relationships?
   
   

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   djashburnalposted 12 years ago

   It can work if both parties involved are willing to try. Proof to that point is military members, thousands are down range at any given time and plenty of them are married and come back to open arms
   
   While that mindset may be semiexclusive to the military, modern technology, like skype can soften the blow that a long distance relationship can create.
   
   From my own personal experience, this works, along with programs like magicjack and gmail phone can make it easy to keep in touch.

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   jennshealthstoreposted 12 years ago

   I am a success story with this one. I had a long distance relationship that turned out to be wonderful. It is very possible, but you both must have strong feelings and a lot of trust with one another or it will never work. You have to be able to communicate often and make time to talk about what is going on in your lives. Without being able to see each other all the time, talking is the most important part of the relationship. In a way I think it makes for a wonderful relationship that will be strong later on when you decide to move closer together or when the distance is removed. Because of so much communication, you would have learned a lot about each other and have had many intimate conversations which is needed in a strong healthy relationship.

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   You must define what is "making a long distance relationship work." Do you mean it leads to a marriage or is it just a certain amount of time as in a year, two years, or three years...etc? One major error people make with LDRs is confusing (calendar time) with (actual time together). A couple that has been together one weekend per quarter will say they've been "together" for a year but in truth their "actual time" together would be (8) days.
   Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary. The goal is to be with the person you love. When there is no "count down" towards the day when one person moves it's likely one of you will eventually want to throw in the towel. At some point someone has to make a move. A long distance relationship without “a light at the end of the tunnel” is likely to fail. It’s the counting down the months, weeks, and days until you are finally done with the inconvenience of being in a long distance relationship that keeps it strong.
   The only reason for being in a long distance relationship is the belief she or he might be “the one”. If you’re just passing the time with someone you might as well do that locally.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio,
      Your answer is well thought out. It makes a lot of sense. Thank you very much.
      Lisa

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   That they do not usually work out well. It's like a friend more than a boyfriend or girlfriend. Being in their presence is something that cannot be imagined and connects two individuals.

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   mackyiposted 12 years ago

   Hi lisauniquevoice, first let me say that this is a rather interesting topic, and of course one which is going to be greeted with several different opinions. Suffice to say, everyone has his/her own specifics that he/she is expecting out of relationship. Some people may be okay having an intimate friend hundreds of miles away, and is okay with seeing that person whenever it's convenient, while for others, that's not acceptable. Thus, I would say, if you are taking about a serious committed love relationship, that I seriously doubt could work when if two people are distant apart.

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   theluckywriterposted 12 years ago

   My husband's in the military. We've been together for 12 years - although if I did the math, we've probably been apart as much as we've been together in the same house.  We're perfectly fine with being apart for weeks or months (well, of course we'd rather not, but it's very doable) - but there HAS to be an end in sight. I don't think I'd want to do an unlimited long distance relationship, where we'd be living apart for years and years, just visiting on the holidays.

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   petenaliposted 12 years ago

   A true love story that spanned an ocean... read more

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