Basically, I find any manifestation of an "us vs. them" mind set to be ignorant and totally lacking in worth. Everyone experiences self doubts at one time or another, just as we all act like boneheads from time to time. We are human, all of us, without exception.
When it comes to relationships I really don't buy into "right" or "wrong". It's usually a matter of "agree" or "disagree". Ultimately everyone wants to be with someone who (naturally agrees) with them on the major things in life. There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. No one is "stuck" with anyone! The beautiful thing about a door is it lets those that want in (in) and those that want out (out). We are always where we (want) to be!
If it's someone I know very well, it can go either way. When it's a stranger, I tend to wonder if it's me who is at fault, unless it's a situation that's really obvious. Does that make sense? (See, already I am doubting myself, lol).
For me, I start with "What is wrong with me" first, simply because I don't want to be unreasonable. If I can't find anything wrong with me, then I would ask "What is wrong with them". So theoretically, "What is wrong with me" would be more than "What is wrong with them", simply because I start with "What is wrong with me" first.
Just in case some readers don't get me, let's say I ask "What is wrong with me" 10 times. If 2 times, I find something wrong with me, then I would be left with only 8 times to ask "What is wrong with them". Of course, it could be that something is wrong with both me and them. But why bother with them, if I myself find something wrong with me?
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