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Is battered husband exist?

  1. Ronilo Blanca profile image68
    Ronilo Blancaposted 4 years ago

    Is battered husband exist?

    I am curios, we always heard all about battered wife. Is there any possibility that husband can be a battered husband? And how? we all know that husband is a physically strong than their wives.

  2. Lisa HW profile image72
    Lisa HWposted 4 years ago

    Yes.  There is such a thing as battered husbands.  Battered wives are more common, but some men find themselves in that situation.  Anyone who batters a spouse is a bully, and one reason SOME men can become targets can be that even though they could physically get the better of a violent wife, they know that what it would take to do that would be to cause serious physical injury.  Because they aren't willing to do that they end up being physically bullied.

    Also, men or women, people who are understanding and realize that sometimes others "lose it" under stress are often likely to overlook some bad behavior because they think it's a one-time or short-term thing the other person is going through.

    Emotional abuse is a whole other thing.  Both men and women are very capable of intentionally or unintentionally being emotionally/psychologically abusive to someone else.  Emotional abuse doesn't always (but can) include the matter of being physically intimidating.  It's sometimes the emotionally stronger/most reasonable person who ends up living with emotional abuse because people guilty of emotional abuse essentially act/speak in ways that are nonsense (which means the reasonable, understanding, strong individual can't even make sense of what s/he is dealing with - which, of course, means the target of this kind of abuse is left feeling confused and not certain about what to think or do).

    Implied threats to a person, someone/something s/he cares about, etc. etc. are another kind of thing that emotionally abusive people use.

    An excellent book on emotional abuse is "Controlling People" by Patrician Evans.  She also has several YouTube interviews/discussions about the subject of verbal abuse.

    People considering the subject of emotional/verbal abuse (or any form of abuse) should keep in mind that abusers are not "emotionally strong".  They're aggressive, manipulative, controlling, and out-of-control.   The person who lives through, puts up with, leaves, an emotionally abusive situation is often actually the "emotionally strongest" person (even if s/he has come to feel ashamed of not being able to stop the abuse and/or has had some of his/her confidence eroded.  In other words, keep in mind the very different definitions of "emotionally strong" versus "aggressive".

    1. Ronilo Blanca profile image68
      Ronilo Blancaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Wow! nice answer very well said LISA.. now i clearly understand it. My curiosity is now answered. Thanks a lot..

  3. edhan profile image60
    edhanposted 4 years ago

    Yes. I do believe it exists. It is not something you will hear about in every day life but such thing does exist.

    1. Ronilo Blanca profile image68
      Ronilo Blancaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for your answer edhan

  4. jlpark profile image85
    jlparkposted 4 years ago

    Yes it does.  Not necessarily in the form of physical abuse, but occasionally this happens also.

    ANYONE is capable of abusive behaviour - male or female.  It's just that MOST of us know it's inappropriate, and downright nasty and actively choose not to act in this way.

    This means that battered husbands exist just as battered wives.  But it also means that it exists in homosexual relationships as well - a man abusing his male partner, a female abusing her female partner. 

    Just because it isn't happening to you (anyone) or anyone you know, doesn't mean it isn't happening for someone, somewhere.