Do you think overweight people who are good looking get passed over on dating websites?
I believe everyone gets passed over and everyone passes over people! We all have our preferences when it comes to appearances. As the old cliché goes: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Some women won't date men who are shorter than them. Everyone has their "list" of desired traits.
One great thing about getting passed over on a website is it hurts a lot less than it would in person. Still there are some people who become so frustrated that they use an outdated photo from their youth or when they were thinner and then lie about body type. Their goal is to make a connection online with the hope that by the time they meet someone face to face they will overlook the deception. More often than not it backfires. People tend to dislike liars and they hate being played. One is better off taking their time to allow for the right connection as oppose to trying to force one. Another option is join a (niche) site where people go are seeking a "specific type" which describes you. Too often there are people who don't want the people that want them!
They certainly get passed over by anyone looking for someone thinner. But it wouldn't be any different in person.
One big mistake people make is using an older or modified photo or misstating their description.
If people do this they are telling a lie and when they meet in public it's a dead deal right from the start, at least with me.
Just remember that there are lots of those who don't care so put the truth and be better off in the end with someone who is better matched.
I don't think you can narrow down to such a specific reason to be honest as like others have said, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. The same reason thin people get overlooked, people with red hair or smaller than average people. We're all so unique that to worry about something like this isn't too productive for our own sense of health.
If I posted a picture of a model online then actually met someone in person... well there's no trust straight away and you can't build a relationship on dishonesty. Being yourself and portraying the true version of you is the best way.
One thing I would say is that the healthier you look, the healthier you feel and this comes across in your personality. If you're truly worried that being overweight can be a dating factor/becoming a roadblock for potential happiness or for finding someone then little changes can have a big impact. I used to be a big guy so know this from experience and it's insane how much better you feel in yourself:-)
Efficient Admin,
Yes I do think they get passed over by very fit people. Most of the time if you're in good shape you choose someone who is also taking good care of their body.
Lisa
Yes I have noticed that is very true and most men say they want someone in good shape. These were all very good answers. Thank you everyone for your responses.
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