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Do men and women cheat for different or the same reasons?

  1. jaydawg808 profile image90
    jaydawg808posted 4 years ago

    Do men and women cheat for different or the same reasons?

  2. stclairjack profile image83
    stclairjackposted 4 years ago

    the chief reason someone cheats is to fill a need that is not being met within the confines of their official relationship,... pretty simple,... that doesn’t discriminate between men and women,... its gender neutral to seek what you need/want,.. until you find it,... weather within the confines of your relationship or not.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Absolutely! Human beings are driven to (feel good) about their life.
    The "goal" of any cheater is to (hold onto all that is good) in their "primary relationship" while addressing their other "needs" (on the side).
    They are too cowardly to make the decision to divorce or breakup with you BEFORE they start anew with someone else. Much like someone who wouldn't dream of quitting a job before they have another one "lined up".
    Cheaters don't want to go through the upheaval, drama, and oftentimes expense that comes with walking away. Naturally their act of cheating could lead to the breakup they want to avoid.
    The reflex or rhetorical question a betrayed person asks a cheater is "Why?" The truth is we really don't care (why)! It's not as though there is anything they could say which would cause us to say, "I can see why you did it now. Thanks for explaining it to me." The answer to "why?" is "I didn't think I would get caught."
    That's the only real HONEST answer to the (why) question. The "goal" as I mentioned from the start was to (hold onto) the good in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. Those "needs" will vary from person to person.

  4. NikiDiva profile image60
    NikiDivaposted 4 years ago

    Most of the time people cheat because something is missing in their relationship. That could be lack so sex, support (emotionally) or even general interest. They clearly have something in the relationship that keeps them around, which is why they cheat vs breaking up. People even cheat for the thrill of it. It's new and exciting like how things were when they first entered their relationship. And the thought of getting cought excited some even more. Do they necessarily want to get cought and deal with all that comes with that? No, not usually. Just the selfishness and greadiness of human nature.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Very true! Some people bore easily and seek the "excitement" that comes with getting involved with "new people". As you pointed out they don't want to breakup with the person they have a relationship with. I call this type "Incessant cheaters".