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Is interracial dating still a sore spot for black women?

  1. kellysgirl profile image70
    kellysgirlposted 4 years ago

    Is interracial dating still a sore spot for black women?

    Obviously anyone can answer this question, however, I'm curious to know how huge of an issue this really is in 2014. I, personally, have never cared one way or the other. If you find love, does it matter what color the person is. Although, as a black woman, I'd prefer my sons find someone 'like' me, but if they don't, and as long as their happy, that is what's truly important.

    So, what say you? Is interracial dating still a sore spot for many?


  2. Alphadogg16 profile image92
    Alphadogg16posted 4 years ago

    Very Interesting question kellysgirl. Being the product of interracial parents, my father was Black and my mother is Puerto Rican, I generally was more attracted to women as you say "like my mother" who happens to be Latina. I've dated all races and like you said, Love doesn't have a color. However in my own personal experiences, some Black women did have issues with some of my choices. I would hope everyone has moved past this by now.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    There will always be people who are against interracial dating. Generally speaking the larger and more metropolitan areas tend to take it in stride. I did however once hear a black woman say: "I wish God gave me he power to destroy all interracial relationships." We had a debate about it.
    Personally speaking I wonder why anyone would care who dates or loves whom? Life is a (personal) journey. If (you) don't want to do something then (you) don't have to. However to want to CONTROL who another person dates, loves, or marries sounds kind of scary to me.
    I've dated women of several races. As far as I'm concerned a Mercedes 600SL in any color is still a Mercedes 600SL. I can't imagine meeting someone who shares my same values, wants the same things for a relationship that I do, naturally agrees with me on how to obtain those things, and there is a mutual desire for one another....etc It's inconceivable for me to say; " Sorry, it's too bad we're not the same color."
    It's human nature to want to EXCLUDE rather than INCLUDE when it comes to finding love. We then complain about how hard it is to find someone. There are over 7 billion people on this planet. If I said "the one" has to be of my same race it's possible I could be eliminating 6 Billion people sight unseen!
    We then say this person must already live in my country. If that country is the U.S. with a population of 340 million we have eliminated almost 6.7 Billion people, We then say he or she must live in my same state, city, or town. Even if you lived in New York, NY you'd still be eliminating another 330 million people. This is all BEFORE we get to height, weight, education. occupation, hobbies/interest, personality, sense of humor, and sexual compatibility. Last but not least we say our friends and family must like "the one" and vice versa!
    Is it any wonder people have such a difficult time finding a mate? Clearly the less options one leaves for them self the more difficult it will be to find a mate. The way I see it, if you're in the same space/time with someone and blending in each other's inner circle of activities then race is unimportant. You were meant to meet.

  4. DDE profile image26
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I am Indian and married to a white and believe it or not it is still a problem where I come from Republic of South Africa. It depends where you  live now I am living in Croatia and don't have a problem with  racism.

  5. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 4 years ago

    I don't know if it still is for black women, but I've been finding out the hard way just how many people in general DO still have a problem with it. I live in Wyoming, which is REALLY "white washed," so I just never had cause to see firsthand how people react. When my stepson was here to visit, I couldn't believe how many complete strangers felt they had every right to offer opinions or make disparaging remarks just seeing us walking together. My husband is 27 years older than me, so no one passing ever assumes he's my husband. My stepson (whose mother is black) is 8 years younger than me and looks old for his age, so everybody and their dog felt the need to speak up about their personal opinion on interracial relationships. I don't even know if it toes a "color line" or if there are just still a lot of people out there who like to hate for no good reason...I occasionally hear disparaging remarks aimed at my friends who are half Native American or half Mexican too. My husband is white, but raised in an adoptive black family in Detroit -- needless to say, he let me know right away how naive I was to think that maybe racism is dying out. Hopeful thinking? It's alive and well in this little backwater, at least sad. I personally don't see what skin color matters since each and every person is different anyway, so no one is going to be "like the rest of the family."