Why is it that white men and black women are the least likely to date out of the

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   Ellana317posted 12 years ago

   Why is it that white men and black women are the least likely to date out of their race?
   
   

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   JThomp42posted 12 years ago

   That's a great question. I've often wondered that myself.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      The way I see it...beauty is beauty.  Be it black, white, puerto rican, or hatian...to name a few.  LOL...

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree Ellana.

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   DELAROSAELITEposted 12 years ago

   Well everybody has their own individual preferences. Me, for instance, as a Latino male, prefer thick ethnic women. Plenty of black men prefer dating white women(Ice-T, OJ Simpson, Tiger woods, the list goes on) for their own reasons, but obviously the same is not true for black women liking white men. Their is something lacking about the white men that black or African american women desire and or admire. Weather that "something" is aggression, spiciness, ruggedness, remains to be determined but the reality is that not too many black women like white men. Also the same is true in vice versa. White men cannot or don't find black women attractive or perhaps they just cannot handle a strong black woman. Personally, I feel that a white man may often times be intimidated by a black women and not because of the race, but more so because of the cultural differences. I have dated white women and I strongly believe that a white woman can adapt much easier and quicker to a cultural change than a white man can. That is my take.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think there's anything lacking about white men or black women for that matter.  I just think that people tend to get have problems stepping out of their comfort zones, especially if it's not something that their family would agree with.

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      Dr Billy Kiddposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Delarosealite, yes, older white men have a harder time adapting. Younger white men live in a different culture and realize that women and Mexicans, for instance, rule in Los Angeles and that's cool!

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   Dr Billy Kiddposted 12 years ago

   Not where I live. Everybody dates everybody.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Hummm... In Indy there seems to be a large population of black men who don't date black women so I am often perplexed but I for one am not bothered by interacial dating.  To each their own...

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   Mazzy Boleroposted 12 years ago

   It depends whether the decision is on the female's or the male's side. I have known black women who will not date white men for political reasons. The border between politics and racism is a narrow one, however.  A black girl I worked with had a baby with her white partner. She took the baby to see a former neighbor, a black woman, with whom she had been very friendly. This woman opened the front door, saw the baby was mixed race, and slammed the door in the girl's face.  Maybe black women fear this kind of disapproval from other black women?  As for guys, it may be more important for men that their children look like them and their family. Or maybe I'm being unfair to them there.  Recently, I've noticed more white guys with black girls, so maybe things are changing.

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      Ellana317posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You bring up good points.  I'd agree that the disapproval might be a huge put off but if you're in love why not take the risk???  You'll have to give me more details on the political reasons though. I don't quite understand that one.

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      Mazzy Boleroposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I guess what I mean is they don't date white guys on principle. It's kind of solidarity, but if they guys don't do the same, I can't see the point. I live in the UK - most British black people are descended from West Indian immigrants of the 50s-60s

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      Dr Billy Kiddposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Mazzy, in the United States, 1-in-10 marriages if of mixed races. The most common is Mexican-Caucasian. People seemed to be concerned more and more about money, rather than love or race.

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      Mazzy Boleroposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      That's an interesting point, Dr Billy Kidd, if a depressing one. In the UK in the 50's, many Jamaican men arrived alone - it was white women or nothing. When the Jamaican women arrived, they had black men to choose from. Maybe that influenced things.

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   Laquishatby23posted 12 years ago

   Probably because, for some, they may be afraid of what their families or whoever might think of that person they are with. For example, I am in an interracial relationship with my boyfriend and although it doesnt matter to us what his family thinks of me because Im black, it matters to them. I am just now also experiencing racism because his parents dont like me and the fact that they're son is dating a black girl which kind of makes it a little tough for us. I think some people might avoid dating out of their race to try to avoid any complication. But for some, like me and my boyfriend, would rather deal with the complication because we love each other and when you do, nothing else or no one else really matters.

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   Levertis Steeleposted 11 years ago

   Association is the main link to dating. Look at the COMMON work world. White women and black men work together more than Black women and White men. Check out the average nursing home, dollar store, family restaurant, fast food restaurant, Wal-Mart, Target and similar stores, numerous factories, and many more. You will find more Blacks (both sexes) and White women working in these places. White men tend to shun these places unless they have managerial positions or other higher job assignments. You will find White men assuming common employment at places like these: electrical companies (outside work), telephone companie (outside work), large construction companies (big business buildings, bridges and highways), just to name a few. These jobs pay much more money than the jobs where you'll find many blacks and White women. White men work a lot of common jobs where there are very few or no women because the work is dangerous or physically challenging.
   
   To say that White men find Black women unattractive is true and false. To say that Black women find White men unattractive is true and false. White men do not all think alike and neither do Black women. Every race has unattractive and attractive people according to the norm of what attractive is. Yet, even unattractive individuals look attractive to some others. It would be narrow minded and childish to say otherwise.
   
   There are many reasons why White men and Black women do not generally date. These are just a few:
   
   1. They prefer their own race.
   2. They do not believe that races should mix.
   3. They are timid.
   4. Society, in general, frowns upon it.
   5. They are the strongest in race preservation.
   6. They are uncomfortable due to the negative issues surrounding WM/BW and
       slavery.
   7. Blacks have already seen, from slavery to maybe the 60's, White men and Black women coupling and some had at least one child together. Practically all of the White men abandoned the mostly secret affair and the child. These children were mostly fatherless, except a few, and almost no marriages occurred. Blacks have used that as an example to Black women of what White men would do if they allow them. 
   
   A prominent difference between White men and Black women relationships then and Black men and White relationships now is that the latter's relationships are not secretive, and some of them marry. This has been used as a lesson to Black women.

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   lone77starposted 10 years ago

   I find the whole race idea nonsense. Most black people are not "black," either; they're mixed, so the terms are messed up. President Obama is white! But he's also black! He's mixed. And if someone has 90% white and 10% black, are they still considered "black?" In some circles, perhaps. But what does it all mean? Nothing!
   
   In the mid-80's, I dated a woman who had a medium-dark-brown skin and the loveliest smile I had ever seen. Alas! I didn't move fast enough. That was Los Angeles.
   
   Now, I'm married and live in the Philippines. She's dark -- a nice medium brown, but the color means nothing. She wishes that she was white. I tell her that she looks beautiful just the way she is.
   
   What really matters is Love. These bodies are temporary anyway.
   
   God created us in His image and likeness and He is definitely not Homo sapiens. So, what does that say about the real us? We don't have color, because our Father in Heaven doesn't have color.

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    Andy Flaniganposted 10 years ago

    Who says this is the case to begin with?
    Is there quantitative data to back this statement up?
    Certainly not a given (I'm white have dated three black women for extended periods) but more to the point, how are you able to establish your theory that black women and white men are the least likely to date out of their race?

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    Ms Data Divaposted 8 years ago

    I have dated white men and it has been a wonderful experience. I am waiting for my prince to come along so that we can get married.

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