How do you feel about the lifestyle of a Trophy wife?

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  1. DDE profile image25
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    How do you feel about  the lifestyle of a  Trophy wife?

    The trophy wife sees her life as less problematic and seeks the best only. Do you think  the trophy wife deserves this kind of lifestyle? Do you think the marriage is about  convenience?

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    Shelly Elliottposted 4 years ago

    I have this problem, big problem with the word "trophy wife". I blame Hollywood once again for making men think this is the way we hard working women want to live. I worked in the beauty business for over 12 years and now that I am older I could care less about what people think I should be. I have never had surgery and I believe all women are beautiful. I am insecure with my body and have often wondered that if I got bigger breast it would make me happy, but really all that pain for what? No one deserves this kind of lifestyle, it is a choice, whatever makes women feel valid and accepted should be motive enough. Marriage is for raising children, not for a man to pay his way so he can show off his "trophy wife" like some new sports car. I call madness!

    1. DDE profile image25
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Your answer say it all and you are right  trophy wives certainly have lots to deal with and should not be addressed in such a manner. Marriage is a big step and should be treated with respect. Thank you

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You said; "Marriage is for raising children." Suppose people are just "in love" or want to legalize their union without having children? I believe people should only have children because (they) want to. The same goes for getting married.

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      Shelly Elliottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Marriage is a big step and depending if you are a child of divorce it usually ends the same way. I was married to my sons father for over 10yrs. I loved him but he cheated and I was not  pulling a Hillary Clinton for anyone.

    4. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      With a divorce rate in the U.S. hovering at 50% it appears it makes little difference as to whether one is a child of divorce. At best they have a 50/50 shot. Maybe a child of divorce has learned not to put up with any crap such as cheating/abuse

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

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    I believe our society is oftentimes too judgmental of others. Not everyone is blessed with the same gifts, talents, or mental capacity. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses are key.
    Long ago I had an instructor who stated: "Intelligence is the ability of an organism to adapt to it's environment." Or in the words soul singer James Brown; "You have use what you got to get what you want." This is the strategy the trophy wife uses.
    Essentially there are two ways get the lifestyle that we covet: We either earn it ourselves or we find someone who is willing to share such a lifestyle with us. As long as both people are happy with what each other "brings to the table" who are we to judge or criticize?
    Not long ago an 86 year old Hugh Hefner (founder of Playboy Magazine) married a 26 year old former centerfold model. Naturally  there is immediate speculation about their union. Clearly the average 26 year old is not attracted to the average 86 year old person. It's also clear that a man who has run a successful business enterprise for many years is not delusional enough to believe that if he were broke or living the lifestyle of the average person his age the marriage would have taken place.
    Many of us actually (envy) the "lotto winners of life" whether they hit the jackpot by selecting the "right numbers" or get married to someone who is rich. We may say, the old man is a "fool" and the young lady is a "gold digger" but both have gotten what (they) wanted without breaking any laws.
    The ultimate goal in life is to be able to live your life the way (you) want to! The fairytales usually end with a prince or a knight who sweeps a young beautiful but disadvantaged woman off her feet and they live happily ever after. We applaud this "romantic ending" in books and movies but we're very cynical about it when we witness it in reality. A strange irony indeed.

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      Shelly Elliottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Porno caused all this mess for women. The last birthday card I got from my ex wrote, "thank you for being my trophy wife".. Oh the joys!

    2. DDE profile image25
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right and you approached this question with great skill thank you

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Shelly Elliott, Long before porno became so rampant older generations pursued marriages where women didn't work. They were to (look good) for their husbands and take care of home. Home economic classes were taught in schools for girls to learn this

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      Shelly Elliottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Us women are groomed for this, we just wish it wasn't so fake. I love beauty but high standards are hard to keep up with, most women just want to be ok in their own skin.

  4. tsmog profile image81
    tsmogposted 4 years ago

    A spontaneous response is sad. I feel with a moment of thought usually that attribute is given by an observer and certainly that is quite naturally discovered with today with its popularity. I feel it may represent two or more thoughts. Trophy wife is a label and not a lifestyle. Next it is assigned as an action of jealousy rather than envy. Another is being the result of comparison and a justification for jealousy. It is fluid and dynamic not always present.

    The lifestyle of a trophy wife is the imagination of the observer and not the knower. Maybe without oddity the knower may be an observer and rarely will the observer be a knower. A puzzle? It comes down to what a person is compared with to receive the label long before knowing the lifestyle. I know of many labeled as a trophy wife that really are pretty good moms and that is the lifestyle choice.

    1. DDE profile image25
      DDEposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You have mentioned helpful points here ''Trophy wife is a label and not a lifestyle,'' and ''I know of many labeled as a trophy wife that really are pretty good moms and that is the lifestyle choice.'' thank you

    2. tsmog profile image81
      tsmogposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Hello DDE. Socially I know its usage with the media and TV shows. Personal interactions I discover with recall it used more with male friends than a female friends. I discover it is a negative comment of the said 'trophy wife's' partner's attitude.

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      Shelly Elliottposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      tsmog thank you and good discussion DDE.

 
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