What holds a relationship together?
Relationships can be problematic for many couples do you know what holds a relationship together? Do you think love is all you need to form a bond in your relationship?
Trust is one of the biggest things that holds a relationship together.
What (holds) a relationship together is both people deciding that no matter what happens in their relationship they're not going to walk away! This can be unhealthy or lead to a life of unhappiness.
We make the assumption that only (happy) couples stay together.
However it' not uncommon to learn of someone who has stayed in an abusive relationship for 20 years, or with someone who cheats frequently on them, has a domineering controlling personality, jealous/possessive, withholds affection and sex, lives in separate areas of the house, one person is raging alcoholic/drug addict or completely financially irresponsible.
If being "happy" is not an important requirement for one to stay in a relationship then it's easy to simply take what comes.
On the other hand if you do have "deal breakers", believe in standing up for yourself, have boundaries, expectations, and certain requirements then it can be a real challenge to stay in any relationship when you're unhappy/not getting what you want/need.
"Unconditional love" in relationships is a myth for most of us. In fact we're told it's healthy for us to have "deal breakers" in order to maintain our own self-esteem and love of self. I suppose the question everyone really wants the answer to is;
How do couples remain happy in long-term relationships?
Besides love there has to be trust and respect for each other if a relationship is to last.
Love is vital to a stable relationship but some people have their own definition of what love really is! Perhaps nowadays many individuals think love is having material wealth, or enough cash to exist on, or thrive on. Having 'things' like cars and a decent house and enough money for a family's needs is important but for me it's not the most important aspect of a stable relationship. You can have a zillion things in your life but if you don't have a common core of natural love for each other your relationship will struggle and eventually become emptied.
Natural love is a form of spiritual love based on mutual trust, respect and compromise of the ego. Relationships need to be balanced and must be worked on to achieve the balance, where both partners are individuals yet working hard together as a team. Natural love I think functions best when there's common ground between a couple ....this could be a mutual interest, a sense of destiny, a love of something greater.....it can even extend to a sense of humour.
If you can keep this energy alive then there's nothing can break it but the ego has to be controlled and the love become a sharing in practice.
by ShanteD 5 months ago
Can you really have a relationship with someone you don't trust.You can love them and want your relationship to work but if you don't trust them can it? Do you give it time and hope for the best?
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by Lisa Brown 11 months ago
How can you say you really love someone if you don't trust them?
by rikabothra 7 years ago
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by Kharisma1980 11 months ago
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by worldgrandeur 9 years ago
Now, married or unmarried yet, what is a sucessful marriage and how do you think it can be successful? What are the factors behind a successful mariage.............?
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