Why do our own loved one hurt us badly???

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  1. Seema Berwal profile image59
    Seema Berwalposted 4 years ago

    Why do our own loved one hurt us badly???

    My own sister deceived me, I'm hurt... My mind is a spaghetti , it seems impossible to get out of this depressing series of thoughts... Plz help

  2. fernandoper profile image60
    fernandoperposted 4 years ago

    because we love him or her. Your own feelings hurt..

  3. Penny G profile image69
    Penny Gposted 4 years ago

    People always hurt those closest to them. It is much easier to lash out at loved ones as it seems forgiveness is more likely. They also know you best and can count on the response the will get. Many may notice that a certain family member is repeatedly the target, usually because they know they can get away with it with that person over other family members.

    1. Seema Berwal profile image59
      Seema Berwalposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Penny

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    Dave36posted 4 years ago

    Her mind made her do it Seema, & at the time she had no control over it..No matter what you think she didn't know she did it, or rather she doesn't realize how she is turning out..Does anyone really set out in life to hurt other people, or do they become that sort of person over time?..The same mind that makes your mind a spaghetti as you call it, is the same mind that made her deceive you..That mind is called our ego mind or our emotional mind & like fernandoper touched on, that's what caused your feelings of hurt not what your sister did..You caused your own feelings/emotions to be hurt, by how you reacted to what your sister did..Put it like this if starting from tomorrow you can accept that your sister is a deceitful person, but she can't realize that because her mind has control of her..You should then be able to expect that sort of thing from her, & so don't take it personally when she does it again..To get out of your series of depressing thoughts which again is what your own particular ego mind is coming up with, you should learn & practice mindful meditating & emotions/feelings control..Try juggling 3 apples or oranges etc, & your depressing thoughts will vanish just to prove distraction works..So mindful meditating will be the best thing you learn't in your life, & no more stress.

    1. Seema Berwal profile image59
      Seema Berwalposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Dave ,
      I'll certainly try mindful meditation .


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