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My Ex-Girlfriend Wants To Have Sex With Me

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    Hurbermichaelposted 5 years ago

    My ex-girlfriend wants to have sex with me badly. She is in a relationship but she says she does not mind. I am temped to give in because she said she is not after a relationship but just a moment. I am confused.

    1. MelissaBarrett profile image59
      MelissaBarrettposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, that's how people get killed... or at least beaten badly.  If she is dating someone else he is not going to be happy when (and it is statistically likely to be when, not if) he finds out.  It will likely hurt him very badly. 

      If it doesn't bother you to hurt someone you've never met and who has not done anything to you (yet) for sex, then by all means have at it.

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Thanks so much. You are telling the truth

      2. Daniella Lopez profile image89
        Daniella Lopezposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Melissa is 100% correct and makes an awesome point. Could you really hurt this guy who has done nothing to you?

    2. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this



      No biggie; she wants to have sex with me weirdly...

      1. MelissaBarrett profile image59
        MelissaBarrettposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Everyone wants to have sex with you weirdly Ron...  Especially Brenda and her Carp.

        1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
          Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          Oh you had to mention the carp!!

          I'll be gone for a few minutes.

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          Deborah Sextonposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          ****************************

          Carp?  Her fish?

          1. MelissaBarrett profile image59
            MelissaBarrettposted 5 years agoin reply to this

            Yes.  Her fish.  It's really really big... or at least the pictures Ron posted of it were.

            1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
              Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

              Yeah, but it got a purty mouth (dueling banjos in background)

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            LORD ENKIposted 5 years agoin reply to this

            Carp her fish DEBORA? nice and colourful!!

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        big_smile

    3. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hubermichael - Seriously? You're confused?  Do you want sex or integrity?  If your ex wants to sportf------k with you, tell her to go take a shower.  You'll respect yourself in the morning.

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        I value my integrity so much couturepopcafe. I guess I will stay away. Thanks so much

    4. Cagsil profile image61
      Cagsilposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I would ask her why? Since she apparently already has someone to do that with. And, after she gives me her answer, I would tell her to go home.

      If you are that hard up for sex? Then all I can say is that it's your choice. hmm

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        big_smile thanks

    5. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I would mos def tap dat onion.  There are few things in life I regret, but the long list of bootie I coulda' rocked but didn't...

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        yeah, you are right

    6. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, Ron, surely you're just trying to get a rise out of someone.  Onion?  I guess you'll never how much you could have ended up stinking.

    7. AshtonFirefly profile image80
      AshtonFireflyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      What are you confused about? Whether or not you should? Her intentions? your feelings?

    8. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Just a moment?

      Try thinking about baseball or soemthing.

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      kimberlyslyricsposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      sorry buddy but I'm confused lol have fun, live a little or lot lol

    10. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
      SomewayOuttaHereposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      oh come on Michael...you posted a thread about not being turned on by your g/f (and your in luv) and you think 'bout someone else...lol

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      mizbipolarposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      ok so dude if she wants to go for it for all you know he could be cheating or she could be the other woman... o_0

    12. cobrien profile image79
      cobrienposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Do you really want to open that can of worms. She is your ex for a reason.

    13. Bendo13 profile image85
      Bendo13posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Run awaaaaay!
      She's an ex for a reason and she wants you do be some scrap of meat on the side?

      Tell her to have a little respect for herself and the relationship she's in and that you won't stoop to her level.

  2. WriteAngled profile image89
    WriteAngledposted 5 years ago

    As far as I'm concerned, if you want to, go ahead -
    if don't, then don't

    What's the problem?

    1. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      The problem is big boys don't think.  Not with their brain anyway.

      1. Disturbia profile image60
        Disturbiaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Yes, it's thinking with that little head that always gets them into trouble.  lol

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      wow guys, you have really helped me see the big picture. Its more than just a moment

      1. Johnjfernando profile image61
        Johnjfernandoposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        ah....yes....I've been in a situation like this before. Sadly, mine cheated on me for another because of his fancy lifestyle, had finished education, and money in the future from a promising degree, And what did I have? Still young, a student, and was working part-time which would describe him 6 years ago. Really, after a while like 5 months, she's trying to get back in my life when I felt like I got stabbed in the chest, below my heart. And, did the same thing and I realized it would of have worth it if it was a one night stand like in your case.

        So to answer you, all I have to say is, what do you got to lose in a one night stand. wink Go for it!

        1. Johnjfernando profile image61
          Johnjfernandoposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          Actually, on a second thought, its best if you dont since it might hurt you again and its not going to help you or her in any way. In my case, I didn't bother with mine becasue I was back to living my life happily and when she came back, some of my old wounds started to sting. Its best to move on. Thats why its called a breakup and an ex.

          1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
            Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

            Wow man, that is just so....

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          Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          Johnjfernando your are real. I will try not to go for it! big_smile

          1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
            Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

            You should post her phone number

  3. Disturbia profile image60
    Disturbiaposted 5 years ago

    She's an ex for a reason.  What's her motivation?  Do you really want to go back there?  Obviously, you're thinking about it.  If you weren't you would have just told her no and not brought such a personal thing up in a public forum.  Just prepare yourself for whatever the consequences, because there will be some, especially if she's in a relationship.

    1. Marlena Oechsner profile image59
      Marlena Oechsnerposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed...she's your ex, leave it that way. When you rip open these old wounds, you can't help your feelings. That's when things get ugly and people do kill one another. If you want sex, find someone else. If she wants it, tell her to crawl in bed with the guy she's with. And if she's that unhappy, she should leave him. Why screw around with everyone's emotions? Sex is far more complicated than just the physical act.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks

  4. ole GRANDSon profile image60
    ole GRANDSonposted 5 years ago

    Melissa said it best and Lifetime premieres movies about this type of thing everyday. You never know what she is telling her boyfriend man. Women can be devious when trying to obtain what they want.... most usually attention.You have to look at it like this.. Why should you give her the pleasure of having you? Don't make it easy on her, she's with another man for a reason. At least hold out until she breaks up with her current boyfriend to be with you. The statistics are your side, they're more women than men and just think about how many are locked up or gay. That cancels out a whole lot right there, find another woman or better yet, wait for the next woman to find you.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You have said it all. Thanks

  5. Ron Montgomery profile image60
    Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years ago

    I'm back

    1. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      How was it?

      1. MelissaBarrett profile image59
        MelissaBarrettposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        It was a cold fish... but that's to be expected.

      2. Ron Montgomery profile image60
        Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Not dry that's for sure

        1. MelissaBarrett profile image59
          MelissaBarrettposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          I just threw up a little in my mouth.

          1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
            Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

            She gives great gill...

  6. Jaitto Jeffrey profile image61
    Jaitto Jeffreyposted 5 years ago

    Dont do it. Its bad. Simple.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks

  7. Jaitto Jeffrey profile image61
    Jaitto Jeffreyposted 5 years ago

    Dont do it. Its bad. Simple.

  8. Sneha Sunny profile image84
    Sneha Sunnyposted 5 years ago

    You don't want to be a part of a "cheating". Do you?? And if it is confusing for you then simply think that your ex-girlfriend wants to "USE" you for her pleasure and then afterwards she'll dump you! I think this thought is enough to prevent the confusion!

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks

  9. chicagoguy profile image75
    chicagoguyposted 5 years ago

    You can ask yourself !! better than anyone else !! as you were in relationship with that girl !!
    you will make a better decision !

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks chcagoguy

  10. jcmayer777 profile image73
    jcmayer777posted 5 years ago

    Sounds like you're like she's your EX.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      she has been trying so many tricks to get a hook up again. We broke because she was insecured when i went to campus.

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        jenuboukaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Hi,
        Let me put it to in a few ways.....
        One: If she is with someone at the moment it would be like sleeping with him too.  Think about it, you are sleeping with not only her but the person she slept with possibly less than 24 hours ago. Hmmm. No thanks.
        Two: Insecurity loves comfort, and if she was insecure before think of all the ideas that will pop her head after the "hook up".
        Third: Is it worth 15 minutes of pleasure? OR are you worth more than rechecking in all that baggage again?
        If you are looking for some human contact well hit the scene and find someone else for Mrs. Right Now if  you are not interested in Mrs Right at the moment.  Nothing wrong with that at all.

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          Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          Three clear points. I Like them so much. I will stay away from her

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        mizbipolarposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        i wonder does she still love you she could b trying to find a way back to you

  11. Ron Montgomery profile image60
    Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years ago

    Are you aroused by the image?

    That is the only criteria.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile

  12. Cardisa profile image93
    Cardisaposted 5 years ago

    If I was the girl and wanted to have sex with my EX outside of getting back together then that would mean I am not being satisfied sexually by the one I'm with. It would also mean I want to use you for sex which was better than what I'm getting now.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are right Cardisa

  13. Greek One profile image76
    Greek Oneposted 5 years ago

    I would make her beg for it and then charge her a ridiculous sum of money

    1. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Good one.  I'm wondering, if she wants to 'have sex badly' as he says, why he spent time asking us about it.  She may have been waiting in the wings and he said "Wait, let me go see what the folks at HP think and I'll let you know."

      1. secularist10 profile image88
        secularist10posted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Always my strategy before making major decisions, lol.

    2. Cardisa profile image93
      Cardisaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Greek One you are too bad lol lol

    3. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Tell Mrs. One to quit calling me.

  14. secularist10 profile image88
    secularist10posted 5 years ago

    Normally I would say if a girl in a relationship is interested in having sex with another guy, she will have sex with someone, so it might as well be you.

    But the fact that she is an ex-girlfriend complicates things. There is a reason she is an ex, as others have said.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      True

  15. Lisa HW profile image81
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    I pretty much see someone like that particular ex-girlfriend as a giant can-of-worms that you'd be better off not even talking to.  Maybe that's just me, though.  I see the fact that you'd even think about considering her "proposal" as a sign that you may be someone who should not trust your own ability to detect can-of-worms-kind-of-people.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks. I actually asked her yesterday not to be coming to my house and it is very important. We meet in a public place, only if it is very important. She has not reacted back

    2. cheaptrick profile image74
      cheaptrickposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Hmmm...sticking it in a can of worms...how intriguing...and what a visual...reminds me of a night in Tijuana...many years ago...

      1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
        Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        I remember that night too.  As I recall, you lost a bet.

  16. Ron Montgomery profile image60
    Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years ago

    First tell her she's gotten fat and that it was never that good with her anyway, then go for it.

    Angry sex with an ex is as good as it gets.

    1. Lisa HW profile image81
      Lisa HWposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, good Lord!   roll   roll                   (lol)

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile big_smile

  17. S Leretseh profile image61
    S Leretsehposted 5 years ago

    I would expect this situation from an 18-year-old. I would advise him to consult his mommy.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile

  18. wonderful1 profile image82
    wonderful1posted 5 years ago

    They become your "ex" for many reasons-- remind yourself of them. And yeah, you owe it to yourself to look in the mirror and like who you see. Knowing there's an innocent person that could get hurt from your actions is not something a man of integrity would want on his conscience.

    By the way, I would rather have a root canal without Novocaine than be intimate with my ex. Just thinking about it gives me the creeps!

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      wow I like your answer. Thanks

  19. psycheskinner profile image80
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    The way it is represented she wants sex to re-establish a connection to help with the abusive boyfriend.  having sex while not planning to help would be a kind of low down thing to do.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      You are right

  20. capricornrising profile image61
    capricornrisingposted 5 years ago

    Michael, I guess the only thing I have to add is this: have you thought at all about her current boyfriend's feelings? What if you were in his shoes? Does this change things at all?

    I guess the reason I could never cheat nor help anyone else cheat is that I've been through all that, on both ends, and it wasn't fun. Now, I personally make all women my sisters and that kills every urge I ever had to participate.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Wow, that touched me. I am not the kind of guys who want to break an innocent heart or a happy relationship. It would kill me.
      THANK YOU ALL. I HAVE FOUND A TRUE HOME WHERE I CAN SHARE MY CHALLENGES. HUBBERS ARE AMAZING WITH SO MANY ANSWERS. THEY ARE EYE OPENING. AM SO THANKFUL AS I CAN NOW SEE THE MATTER MORE CLEARLY. IT GOES BEYOND A MOMENT, BEYOND A FULFILLMENT. IT IS SOMETHING SERIOUS.

  21. psycheskinner profile image80
    psycheskinnerposted 5 years ago

    I am not sure a girl who may be experiencing domestic partner abuse really deserves having her situation poked fun at.

    1. Ron Montgomery profile image60
      Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      How about people who bring their personal problems to an internet forum?  Is taht OK?

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        Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        We have to learn the hard way. Best things are not easy and you cannot be dying or doing a wrong choice just because you want to protect yourself.

  22. Gregoryy profile image60
    Gregoryyposted 5 years ago

    Don't do it!! She is your ex, and only wants to use you becuase the sex is not as good with her current partner. Let her know that she has to earn sex from you, and you only give sex to your partner. Make sure she knows that you are not easy,or a pushover,  and once you brak up she gets no more sexual favors from you.

  23. deidrehernandez profile image61
    deidrehernandezposted 5 years ago

    Don't worry, your ex-girlfriend is confused too. Move on. She has issues that you don't need to be a part of.

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      I wish thing were as simple as you say. Sometime your heart and mind do not work together

      1. deidrehernandez profile image61
        deidrehernandezposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Well then, if you are not married and have nothing to lose go with your heart. Your mind will follow later and soon enough your heart will catch up to it. Not sure how old you are but by your picture you look fairly young and this it the time to dive in head first and make mistakes. Go for it.

  24. Ron Montgomery profile image60
    Ron Montgomeryposted 5 years ago

    Is she hot?

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah. She is very hot

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      Hurbermichaelposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah. She is very hot

      1. couturepopcafe profile image59
        couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        It's funny how that word is used to describe so many things.  Hot - stolen
        Hot - temperature   Hot - sexy person   Hot - sexy person with a temperature (due to being overheated or in heat) who is being hunted as in wanted

  25. eye say profile image83
    eye sayposted 5 years ago

    that's how guys wind up with kids they don't want and disease ... steer clear unless you are looking for long term involvement with her ...

  26. adultsearch profile image60
    adultsearchposted 5 years ago

    If she's asking for sex only then go with it. As a man there's nothing to lose. Just do it safely!

    1. couturepopcafe profile image59
      couturepopcafeposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Just your self respect you numb n--t

  27. couturepopcafe profile image59
    couturepopcafeposted 5 years ago

    So here's the bottom line.  You started the forum 5 days ago.  Have you given in yet?  We need an update.

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      jenuboukaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      LOL.  That is a good question.

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        mizbipolarposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        XD i agree UPDATE US PLEASE

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    mours sshieldsposted 5 years ago

    If your in a relationship you got t ask your self is it worth the risk of being found out and losing your relation ship. if not then you got to ask yourself is it safe or is the other person safe if they find out about the afair if every things good and your ok with your answers then go for it but realize some one will probily will get hurt

  29. passthejelly profile image81
    passthejellyposted 5 years ago

    Honestly if she is that open about cheating on her boyfriend with you, the chances are that she is going to cheat on him no matter what.  If she does not do it with you then she will most likely find someone else who will or she already has.  Does that make you a bad person for doing it?  Does it make her a bad person for doing it? She is going to cheat on him no matter what. If its with you or another guy is up to you.

    1. anonimuzz profile image84
      anonimuzzposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      "Well, that soon-to-be-serial-killer will kill 10 people, no matter what. Are you dumb for being one of the 10 killed? 10 people will have to die anyway, you know? Hm.... up to you." Better yet: "Why don't you help the potential serial killer, since he's going to kill anyway?"

      1. passthejelly profile image81
        passthejellyposted 5 years agoin reply to this

        Because serial killers are so similar to intimate partners.  Weak analogy.

        1. anonimuzz profile image84
          anonimuzzposted 5 years agoin reply to this

          It's just an over-the-top version of what you said. The basic moral standards are the same, if they even exist.

  30. steveamy profile image61
    steveamyposted 5 years ago

    If she is an ex .... she is an ex. Behave like an adult.

  31. bruzzbuzz profile image59
    bruzzbuzzposted 5 years ago

    Sounds like maybe the sex was good but nothing else was and she wants the good part of your relationship. If you feel the same way and can do it without anything else, go for it.

  32. freefogging profile image78
    freefoggingposted 5 years ago

    Don't do it! You will regret it and so will she. You will be the one who get's hurt if your feelings for her get serious. If she is already in a relationship, then of course she isn't looking for a relationship!! She already has one!!!

  33. freefogging profile image78
    freefoggingposted 5 years ago

    You also say you are confused...another reason not to do it!!!

  34. profile image0
    Arlene V. Pomaposted 5 years ago

    Who cares?  This Hubber no longer exists.  Gee, I wonder why???

    1. ajayshah2005 profile image75
      ajayshah2005posted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Really <Sorry that user no longer exists> This hubber no longer exists.

 
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