My ex-girlfriend wants to have sex with me badly. She is in a relationship but she says she does not mind. I am temped to give in because she said she is not after a relationship but just a moment. I am confused.
Yeah, that's how people get killed... or at least beaten badly. If she is dating someone else he is not going to be happy when (and it is statistically likely to be when, not if) he finds out. It will likely hurt him very badly.
If it doesn't bother you to hurt someone you've never met and who has not done anything to you (yet) for sex, then by all means have at it.
ah....yes....I've been in a situation like this before. Sadly, mine cheated on me for another because of his fancy lifestyle, had finished education, and money in the future from a promising degree, And what did I have? Still young, a student, and was working part-time which would describe him 6 years ago. Really, after a while like 5 months, she's trying to get back in my life when I felt like I got stabbed in the chest, below my heart. And, did the same thing and I realized it would of have worth it if it was a one night stand like in your case.
So to answer you, all I have to say is, what do you got to lose in a one night stand. Go for it!
Actually, on a second thought, its best if you dont since it might hurt you again and its not going to help you or her in any way. In my case, I didn't bother with mine becasue I was back to living my life happily and when she came back, some of my old wounds started to sting. Its best to move on. Thats why its called a breakup and an ex.
She's an ex for a reason. What's her motivation? Do you really want to go back there? Obviously, you're thinking about it. If you weren't you would have just told her no and not brought such a personal thing up in a public forum. Just prepare yourself for whatever the consequences, because there will be some, especially if she's in a relationship.
Agreed...she's your ex, leave it that way. When you rip open these old wounds, you can't help your feelings. That's when things get ugly and people do kill one another. If you want sex, find someone else. If she wants it, tell her to crawl in bed with the guy she's with. And if she's that unhappy, she should leave him. Why screw around with everyone's emotions? Sex is far more complicated than just the physical act.
Melissa said it best and Lifetime premieres movies about this type of thing everyday. You never know what she is telling her boyfriend man. Women can be devious when trying to obtain what they want.... most usually attention.You have to look at it like this.. Why should you give her the pleasure of having you? Don't make it easy on her, she's with another man for a reason. At least hold out until she breaks up with her current boyfriend to be with you. The statistics are your side, they're more women than men and just think about how many are locked up or gay. That cancels out a whole lot right there, find another woman or better yet, wait for the next woman to find you.
You don't want to be a part of a "cheating". Do you?? And if it is confusing for you then simply think that your ex-girlfriend wants to "USE" you for her pleasure and then afterwards she'll dump you! I think this thought is enough to prevent the confusion!
Hi, Let me put it to in a few ways..... One: If she is with someone at the moment it would be like sleeping with him too. Think about it, you are sleeping with not only her but the person she slept with possibly less than 24 hours ago. Hmmm. No thanks. Two: Insecurity loves comfort, and if she was insecure before think of all the ideas that will pop her head after the "hook up". Third: Is it worth 15 minutes of pleasure? OR are you worth more than rechecking in all that baggage again? If you are looking for some human contact well hit the scene and find someone else for Mrs. Right Now if you are not interested in Mrs Right at the moment. Nothing wrong with that at all.
If I was the girl and wanted to have sex with my EX outside of getting back together then that would mean I am not being satisfied sexually by the one I'm with. It would also mean I want to use you for sex which was better than what I'm getting now.
Good one. I'm wondering, if she wants to 'have sex badly' as he says, why he spent time asking us about it. She may have been waiting in the wings and he said "Wait, let me go see what the folks at HP think and I'll let you know."
I pretty much see someone like that particular ex-girlfriend as a giant can-of-worms that you'd be better off not even talking to. Maybe that's just me, though. I see the fact that you'd even think about considering her "proposal" as a sign that you may be someone who should not trust your own ability to detect can-of-worms-kind-of-people.
They become your "ex" for many reasons-- remind yourself of them. And yeah, you owe it to yourself to look in the mirror and like who you see. Knowing there's an innocent person that could get hurt from your actions is not something a man of integrity would want on his conscience.
By the way, I would rather have a root canal without Novocaine than be intimate with my ex. Just thinking about it gives me the creeps!
Michael, I guess the only thing I have to add is this: have you thought at all about her current boyfriend's feelings? What if you were in his shoes? Does this change things at all?
I guess the reason I could never cheat nor help anyone else cheat is that I've been through all that, on both ends, and it wasn't fun. Now, I personally make all women my sisters and that kills every urge I ever had to participate.
Wow, that touched me. I am not the kind of guys who want to break an innocent heart or a happy relationship. It would kill me. THANK YOU ALL. I HAVE FOUND A TRUE HOME WHERE I CAN SHARE MY CHALLENGES. HUBBERS ARE AMAZING WITH SO MANY ANSWERS. THEY ARE EYE OPENING. AM SO THANKFUL AS I CAN NOW SEE THE MATTER MORE CLEARLY. IT GOES BEYOND A MOMENT, BEYOND A FULFILLMENT. IT IS SOMETHING SERIOUS.
Don't do it!! She is your ex, and only wants to use you becuase the sex is not as good with her current partner. Let her know that she has to earn sex from you, and you only give sex to your partner. Make sure she knows that you are not easy,or a pushover, and once you brak up she gets no more sexual favors from you.
Well then, if you are not married and have nothing to lose go with your heart. Your mind will follow later and soon enough your heart will catch up to it. Not sure how old you are but by your picture you look fairly young and this it the time to dive in head first and make mistakes. Go for it.
It's funny how that word is used to describe so many things. Hot - stolen Hot - temperature Hot - sexy person Hot - sexy person with a temperature (due to being overheated or in heat) who is being hunted as in wanted
If your in a relationship you got t ask your self is it worth the risk of being found out and losing your relation ship. if not then you got to ask yourself is it safe or is the other person safe if they find out about the afair if every things good and your ok with your answers then go for it but realize some one will probily will get hurt
Honestly if she is that open about cheating on her boyfriend with you, the chances are that she is going to cheat on him no matter what. If she does not do it with you then she will most likely find someone else who will or she already has. Does that make you a bad person for doing it? Does it make her a bad person for doing it? She is going to cheat on him no matter what. If its with you or another guy is up to you.
"Well, that soon-to-be-serial-killer will kill 10 people, no matter what. Are you dumb for being one of the 10 killed? 10 people will have to die anyway, you know? Hm.... up to you." Better yet: "Why don't you help the potential serial killer, since he's going to kill anyway?"
Don't do it! You will regret it and so will she. You will be the one who get's hurt if your feelings for her get serious. If she is already in a relationship, then of course she isn't looking for a relationship!! She already has one!!!
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