What do u do when u you feel that you are so badly screwed that there is no way

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   sameer.anandposted 13 years ago

   What do u do when u you feel that you are so badly screwed that there is no way out of it?
   
   Sometimes in your life you feel that you are so badly screwed that there is no way out of it.
   Maybe you are dumped or fired or not able achieve something you made your destiny for survival or may be two of them simultaneously.
   
   What do you do/have done in such a situation?

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   legitimoposted 13 years ago

   I Picked up my big girl pant's and brushed my self off,when something doesn't work one way you try it another way.you just feel that way for a moment.those words shoulda,coulda,woulda ,don't even equal up to part.

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   dan-1posted 13 years ago

   I think the most important thing  is to stay calm and not loose your head.  It is ok to feel upset but try to channel that energy into thought.  By staying in control of your emotions you can focus more on learning from your unfortunate situation and since you can't do anything to change the outcome why burn more bridges in the process.   
   This reminds me of my hub "Projection Lost". I wrote it about losing my job as a projectionist because of things beyond my control.

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   Silverspeederposted 13 years ago

   Consider yourself at the bottom of the ladder and tell yourself that you are going to have fun climbing it this time.
   If its relationship related you will find having fun before becoming serious will give you a stronger relationship.
   If its work related try as many jobs as you can and the one you have most fun with or feel the most satisfaction doing will be the one for you.
   There are very few things that cant be overcome but fortunately the mind isn't one of them.

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   lburmasterposted 13 years ago

   You are asking two different questions. It is not "destiny for survival". It is either "destiny" or "survival". I do not believe in destiny as we choose which path we can take. Survival on the other hand is highly important. You listed getting dumped, fired, or not achieving something you think is necessary. Now, what does it take to survive?
   According to Maslow's Heirkey of Needs (a psychology term used in marketing and speech), the basic needs of survival are food, water, oxygen, and (depending on the person) sex. Nothing you listed would effect those. Sure, you might lose your job or a partner might leave you. But you still continue on entirely. You can live on the streets. Without a home, without a partner, without security, and survive.
   Use this when you feel down. No matter how bad it gets, it can always be worse. So consider yourself lucky.

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   Moms-Secretposted 13 years ago

   Many people see reality as a sour pill to swallow, but it can be an amazing blessing especially in these types of situations. 
   It is especially easy these days to find amazing stories of human strength and endurance.  Our ability to move forward against the odds is something that has gotten us past some of the worlds darkest days.
   
   Our cyclical nature makes it especially easy.  Just think hard about the last impossible time in your life.  Reflect on how far you have come since then.  Situations right now do not need to be permanent.

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   jasper420posted 13 years ago

   I try to focus on the sollution not the problem I pray and remind myself things will get better that one day this wont matter i try not to let circumstance steal my serinity

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   nabeelplusposted 13 years ago

   I do not feel obliged to believe that the same God who has endowed us with sense, reason and intellect has intended us to forego their use.

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   Cathy Iposted 13 years ago

   This is all part of the journey of life.  There will be mountains and valleys...highs and lows.
   
   Just know that nothing lasts forever and don't ever quit, for the end may be closer than you think.
   
   When life hands you a lemon, make lemon juice out of it.
   
   Stay positive....always see the glass as half full rather than half empty.
   
   Pray, reflect, and meditate.  We all need quiet time so we can see the big picture of life in its fullness.
   
   Be grateful for what you have...count your blessings.  If you list all you have to be grateful for on a sheet of paper, you will realize that things are not as bad as they seem.
   
   Don't sweat the small stuff.
   
   Last but not least: seek help if you need it.  You may need counselling or a Life Coach or just a friend who will listen only.
   Don't try to do it on your own.

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    SubmissionWorkposted 13 years ago

    Simply go for a walk or go for vacation.
    
    Gather your energy ... evaluate yourself ... find out your mistake and join this jungle again ... but this time to beat ...

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    LittleStashposted 13 years ago

    First, I let loose a few obscenities, just to blow off the steam. 
    
    Then, I do something wild and fun.  Depending on who you are, this could be trying a new sport, heading out to the pub with your pals, or maybe, just buying and eating a jar of macadamia nuts. 
    
    Then, I assess the situation and try, really try to embrace the learning experience that is no doubt hidden in there somewhere.
    
    If you think you've lost hope of something you felt was your destiny, a little reevaluation might also be in order.  In any case, you will eventually need to move on.  Do it with conviction.

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