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How can I be and is it possible to be more intellectual with my significant othe

  1. Crystal Lowden profile image58
    Crystal Lowdenposted 3 years ago

    How can I be and is it possible to be more intellectual with my significant other

    After 2 months of getting to know and fall in love with eachother online. Drove 3,000 miles to be with me. My fiancé and I have been together for about a year now. Recently i've been told by him that All of the things I talk about are repeats of stuff I've already mentioned, explained or told to him before. It seems as if he's become uninterested in even conversating with me period and has recently been pointing out every flaw in everything that I say and/ Or how I'm saying it. Has he become uninterested in me all together. Is there a way to spark his interest in conversating with me again?

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    Natasha Stevensposted 3 years ago

    Get yourself some stuff to do.  Join some meetups or take up new hobbies, go have experiences without him.  Then at least you can fetch home some new tales.  Make sure he has his own life too - maybe he's cranky because he left everything behind and has only you there, and just needs to feel more rooted in his new community.  So each of you do more fun stuff, but don't feel like you need to do everything together. 

    If that doesn't work and you break up, at least you'll have a bunch of friends and fun things to console you smile

  3. Rodricklewis profile image42
    Rodricklewisposted 3 years ago

    Read books then discuss them with each other. Go explore the world as a team while you're learning new things.

    1. Crystal Lowden profile image58
      Crystal Lowdenposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you and the second idea has definitely got to be One of the Best Ideas, I've Only had the pleasure of dreaming I'd get to do someday!. This was Very helpful though and hopefully that dream will become a reality, One day!.

  4. krillco profile image95
    krillcoposted 3 years ago

    Your problem is not intellectual conversation, it's about reactivity. Look up this author and READ: David Schnarch.

 
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