My boyfriend don't comfort me anymore what should I do?

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   Amanda Cardwellposted 7 years ago

   My boyfriend don't comfort me anymore what should I do?

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   J Marie Singhposted 7 years ago

   I am supposing from your question that he used to and he stopped. My boyfriend stopped 3 weeks ago as well. Only recently today I finally got up the courage to talk to him about it. He said he was overwhelmed and spent in his own life and felt like he had nothing else to give.
   
   Comfort is supposed to be give and take. If he is not giving, then its a sign that it may be your turn to "make him a sandwich" or give a neck rub or see if he needs to just unload while you listen.

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   JustinCasevaposted 7 years ago

   As a guy, I feel I can easily answer this question. I have been in numerous relationships some where I neglected my significant other and some where I was the one being hurt. This lack of affection could have to do with lack of trust, or fear of being hurt due to past relationships. You never want to hear it but there's always a possibility there is someone else, but don't go to assuming.  Talk to your significant other, lack of communication is what pulls people apart. If you're not giving him/her attention they'll find somebody that will. Last thing I'd like to add is never take the moments you have together for granted. I went through multiple relationships where I was hurt and neglected, and now I've fallen for a girl who lives states away. Not seeing her for weeks at a time but it makes me appreciate the seconds we have together so much more. I wish you the best with your relationship and hope my rambling helped in some way.

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   dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

   
   
   You listed this question under the category of "Am I in love?"
   Everyone has their own idea of what love is supposed to "look like" and "feel like" as well as how people in love would treat one another.
   Ultimately it comes down to finding someone who expresses love (the way) YOU want to be shown love.
   When your expectations are (unmet) you don't feel loved.
   I suspect {when you first got together} he was very comforting!
   Having said that in the beginning of most relationships there is an "infatuation phase" where both people bend over backwards to impress one another. They don't want to "blow it'.
   They make each other's happiness their "top priority"!
   During this time there are often romantic gestures, lengthy conversations, laughter, token gifts/cards/spontaneous getaways "just because", holding hands, hugging, an eye to eye connection, and the sex is off the charts!
   Rarely is the word "no" ever uttered regarding any suggestion and there is a feeling you've found your "soul-mate". This usually lasts for 3-6 months or possibly up to one year.
   The turning point is usually after the first major disagreement/fight. This is when we start to reveal our "authentic selves", our "boundaries", our "deal breakers", and "expectations".
   The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.
   However you always have the option to ask your mate for things you consider to be important. There's two reasons why he may not give it.
   1. He doesn't have it to give. (It's not who he naturally is.)
   2. You are not "the one".
   There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.
   Compatibility trumps compromise!
   Only (you) know what your "must haves" are in a relationship.

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   Ruhanika Singhposted 7 years ago

   Dont go for comfort dear... understand his point of view.. what he want and y he is not interested in you anymore... first find out reason and give him some space so that he can feel ur importance in his life...!!!
       All the best

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   Oscarlitesposted 7 years ago

   Simplicity Rules in this question. Its not complicated.   Why do want to be comforted?  Love isn't based on filling anothers need. Does he not love you? Is that what you are saying? Or have you quit loving him?  If you are that needy, to always need comforted, then perhaps no one will ever fill that.  I suggest reading the 23rd Psalms as an antidote. read it over and over.. it will comfort you your entire life. there is someone who can bring comfort in our lives.  come on, read it and find out.

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