Some are habitual cheaters and that is way to go for them. They would do it for the fun of it.
Some cheat because that is the best way they can make money out of it.
Some cheat because they do not have a choice.
Some Cheat because they are tempted to do so. The last category one needs to be careful of because they will remain around you at all times and yet you will not know what to do with them.
Cheaters generally are not looking to replace one relationship with another. People cheat because they don't want to breakup or go through a divorce! However bear in mind if they get caught they're likely to breakup. Most cheaters don't believe they will be caught!
Most cheaters want to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side. Unlike others who accept the fact that no one person can fulfill 100% of your needs cheaters try to (make up the difference) by seeing others.
Essentially cheating is a selfish and cowardly act to make an attempt to "have it all". It requires deception and secrecy.
There are some people though who do treat relationships like jobs. They won't leave one until they have another "lined up". It takes courage to end an relationship without having someone "waiting in the wings". The "Why" question is really unimportant.
The truth of the matter is we really don't care (why) they cheated! Asking (why) is a "reflex" or "rhetorical" question.
If cheating is a "deal breaker" for you then it won't matter what explanation or reasoning is given. There is nothing that person can say to you that would cause you to say: "I now see why you did that! It makes a lot more sense to me now. Thanks for letting me know."
There are 3 basic types of cheaters.
1. The Incessant Cheater (They've never been faithful long-term)
Their motto is "Variety is the spice of life!". They get bored easily and always are on the look out for "new adventures".
2. The Unbelievable Opportunity Cheater
Unlike the Incessant she/he is not on the look out to cheat. However they cave into temptation when a secret crush or person they admire suddenly makes themselves available or hits on them. Usually it's also a scenario where their mate is not likely to ever find out. Maybe while on a business trip. Sometimes these folks later end up confessing weeks, months or years later if they have a wonderful mate. They simply hate carrying around the guilt.
3. The Discontented Cheater - (They've "justified" their cheating based upon the way you mistreated or neglected them in some way.) "If you had done this or not done that I would not have had to go else where for...etc" (Monogamy and cheating are choices one makes).
In the end you have only two options: Forgive or Move on.
by optimus grimlock 8 years ago
If your with someone and dont want to be with them then dont. That simple dont cheat on them it makes things worse!!!
by Anna 7 years ago
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by Mariko Lewis-Davis 7 years ago
Why do people CHEAT?
by Loving_Life 20 months ago
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by Wunmi olugbode 2 years ago
Why do men cheat ?Men ain't committing and being faithful to their partner.just wonder why.
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