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Why do you think people cheat on their significant other?

  1. atlovesbm profile image75
    atlovesbmposted 6 years ago

    Why do you think people cheat on their significant other?

  2. kb24fanatic profile image59
    kb24fanaticposted 6 years ago

    because they are no longer happy with their partner.

  3. L. Spikes profile image90
    L. Spikesposted 6 years ago

    That question has a lot of answers, but I'll tell you what I think is the most universal. Most people cheat because the other partner becomes lacking in some quality that the new person provides. Compared with the totality of what the non-cheating partner has to offer, however, that missing quality is usually not enough for the cheating person to just end the relationship with the non-cheating partner. On top of that, the missing quality is usually something very simple that the non-cheating partner once had/did but now either ignores or doesn't realize that it's missing from the relationship. Unfortunately, by the time cheating actually occurs, there is such a lack of effective communication that the problem will likely never be adequately addressed or remedied.

  4. paladdino profile image54
    paladdinoposted 6 years ago

    That's simple my dear.
    People, mostly, unable to cope with a problem ... and believe that revenge will bring some pleasure. When in fact they are leaving is the huge learnings of the mistakes of life, pass before your eyes and do nothing ..
    Do not follow anyone other than your own heart!

    = D

  5. Hollanda profile image55
    Hollandaposted 6 years ago

    My take on this one is simple: boredom.  Once that "first flush" has gone, and reality sets in, some people really just cannot cope with it.  They realise that their partner has faults and that real life is full of real struggles, good times and bad.

    Of course, it can be more complex than that: there are other situations that can drive people to cheat, such as domestic violence or lack of support within the relationship, not to mention life-changing events such as death within the family. 

    Then you have the people who cheat just because they can.  These people are incapable of holding down a monogamous relationship and this scenario is common in people who have seen similar behavioural patterns in their own parents.

    I personally would choose not to cheat, rather I would encourage people to work on the relationship they have and discuss issues. If they don't do that, then the problems will follow them through every relationship they ever have.

    I hope this helps!

  6. profile image47
    gladys jonesposted 6 years ago

    Actually I think  the reason people cheat is because they really don't love their mate.  When the relationship was new and the desire was there,  they thought it was love.  Whenever the relationship lost it's glitter they began to think that it was a passing fancy. That is when they begin to look around for something exciting, therefore they feel like the marriage was a 
    mistake.  Maybe they are pleased with the marriage institution but just want to see what else is out there.

  7. stclairjack profile image83
    stclairjackposted 6 years ago

    when the significant other is no longer significant..... they will get cheated on.

  8. ShoppingWithSusan profile image59
    ShoppingWithSusanposted 6 years ago

    selfishness. They view the relationship only through the lens of what can they can get out of it and not what they can put into it.

  9. Santoshwrites profile image60
    Santoshwritesposted 6 years ago

    I think this is in the faith of every one it set by time and change is a rule of nature if some one cheat it is get cheated some day but there is no answer of why? It may because they are selfish who thinks about their own gain and benefits and not other what the partner will think if I cheat… Only those kinds of ‘Cheap Minded People’ cheat their significant.

  10. kknde profile image60
    kkndeposted 6 years ago

    I agree with L. Spikes , but we can consider as answer also that, sometimes, some of us want to escape the routine...and they just do that, by cheating.

  11. Chouji-Von-Lycan profile image60
    Chouji-Von-Lycanposted 6 years ago

    because they don't appreciate what they have, they are spoilt and think they can betray people without consequence

  12. ThunderKeys profile image68
    ThunderKeysposted 6 years ago

    I've worked with 100s of couples and individuals in my private practice, on relationship issues. Both my clinical experience and the relationship science prove that sexual and/or emotional infidelity takes place because one or both partners are unable to effectively communicate and meet their partner's core-relationship needs. If the needs aren't met in the relationship 80% (50% of men and 30% of woman) will have an affair to get these needs met elsewhere. If these issues at the heart of an affair are addressed effectively, then the affair can be a relationship transforming, strengthening and affair-proofing experience.
    - Duddy.

  13. RealHousewife profile image80
    RealHousewifeposted 6 years ago

    I would guess they are either unhappy or need to feed their ego in a messed up way.  My mother always said, "dance with the one who brung ya!"

  14. akuigla profile image59
    akuiglaposted 6 years ago

    If the partner is significant one,there is no cheat.

  15. Colby Alan profile image59
    Colby Alanposted 6 years ago

    Because they aren't treating their other right, and not being treated right by the other.

    Everybody expects their other to invest in them before they invest back. When they feel like they aren't being invested in (time spent, love, respect) they move away and look for someone else.

    Want a great relationship? Invest in your significant other. After time, they'll invest back. But beware: It takes work, time and energy. It's not easy all the time.

  16. dkroskens profile image58
    dkroskensposted 6 years ago

    I think they have a few reasons, some are because they are unhappy and unfulfilled in the relationship ( maybe  late in the "dying" phase). They may  cheate because they feel it is a familiar thing in their family of origin or social circle ( not that I am approving of it myself). They may feel more valued and loved in a moment of weakness, in the right circumstances ( what I call the perfect storm) or they may just want to end the realationship, be selfish, or feel they are above the "law" of consequences ( i.e. Tiger Woods phenomena). Some people are simply addicted to sex as well.  BTW there are many ways to cheat; emotional, mental, and physical.  Just as there are many ways to be absent or present in a valid relationship.  We all seem to go through phases, degrees of being present fully in any relationship. It's that over the line thing that seems to get us pulled in and over our head in trouble.

  17. nickshamrock profile image76
    nickshamrockposted 6 years ago

    A number of reasons. Biologically, men cheat because "They are genetically predispositioned to reproduce as much as possible." Or, if science isn't your thing, they get bored. Or they're unhappy. There's too many reasons. They could just be jerks. I find it that women tend to migrate towards cheaters for unknown reasons. Maybe they want to "fix" them. Who knows?

    I see a lot of people saying that the person who is cheated on is to blame (not in those words) but let's face it, there are a lot of people in this world who are simply d*cks.

  18. ddkrharris profile image57
    ddkrharrisposted 6 years ago

    When a person cheats on a mate, it's because he/she has lost the love and respect for the other person. He is no longer committed to his marriage. He allows other things to creep in. Also, there's a measure of selfishness and lack of self control. Bottom line is lack of love for the other person. Because if you love a person deep down, you'd never hurt them by cheating. Let's not forget lack of love and obedience to Godly principles.

  19. Kamalesh050 profile image79
    Kamalesh050posted 6 years ago

    Some people cheat when there is no real love and respect for  the partner. A true good and healthy relationship  between partners is something very special where cheating is unthinkable.

  20. DaveysRecipeRead profile image59
    DaveysRecipeReadposted 6 years ago

    Probably because they want something significantly other than that who they've already got. Or if the S.O is nice and sympathetic then it's a matter of boredom, the prevailing question; "is that all there is?" the S.O. becomes so-S.O without even realizing it...Pretty brutal.

 
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