Why do people cheat when they're in a dedicated relationship?

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  1. Loving_Life profile image60
    Loving_Lifeposted 12 years ago

    Why do people cheat when they're in a dedicated relationship?

    Why do men or/and women cheat in a relationship?
    Whats the point of cheating?

    And they lie about it if asked?  Don't they feel guilty about cheating?
    If you want to cheat then why not break up with the person you're with first and then go be with someone else!

  2. profile image57
    Ace-1posted 12 years ago

    i think it's becuase maybe they've never had a true relationship before and all the love may be overwhelming and too much for them that they think they don't deserve and do stupid things. or they just plain and utter stupid and just enjoy breaking peoples hearts x

  3. hair2nv profile image59
    hair2nvposted 12 years ago

    dedication means different things to different people. so really its not about the dedicationit's about what a person really wamnts. I do agree that you should break up with one person then move on but it is not always that simple.  The lying was explained to me that it is used to save the other person feelings.  i think that it is the cowards way out.  speaking from experience yes you do feel guilty.

  4. stricktlydating profile image86
    stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

    The people who keep romantic ties to others while they're in a romantic relationship, or cheat on their partner each would have their own reason to try to 'justify' it, and level of guilt (if any) however most often the only reason why someone will cheat is because they believe they can get away with it.

  5. god and humanity profile image61
    god and humanityposted 11 years ago

    Hi dear,
    There can not be any dedication in this earthly world. What matters is trust and compatibility. You can not only blame your man/woman. There is always a chance for provocation and attraction from the other side. Your man/woman got into the celestial trap. If we want our man/woman not to get trapped in compelling circumstances, then we need to have lots of mutual trust and compatibility. Please go through my hubpages on "god and humanity", you will get relief.
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  6. dashingscorpio profile image85
    dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

    Asking “why” someone cheated is pretty much a rhetorical question.
    Generally speaking no answer they give us is going to cause us to say, “Oh, I completely understand.” We pretty much don’t give a damn about the “reason” or “excuse”.
    Like you I have often wondered “why” didn’t they just end the relationship?
    Here are some of the reasons often sited.

    (Most people are willing to stay in a relationship that is “Not All Bad”.)
    For example the mate/spouse takes care of all of the major things one could want however they are boring sexually or their sex drive is lacking.
    (I have a friend that married a virgin and she never developed an interest in giving him oral sex. They have been together for over 20 years and he has cheated off and on for much of that time.) Other than the sexual issue they have a great time together, travel, and enjoy a good life.

    Not many people are going to file for divorce and go through all of the drama it entails simply because there is of lack of sex, no oral sex, intimacy, romance, passion, or excitement. The whole notion of monogamy and "foresaking all others" is based around the belief that you Have Someone "Commited" to taking care of your physical needs and therefore you don't need to be out and about seeking it from someone else.

    It is also difficult for the cheater to breakup/divorce someone his/her family and friends loves. The more ingrained the relationship is in the minds of their "community" of loved ones the more difficult it is to walk away.

    The cheating person hopes to be able to (secretly fill that missing gap) while holding onto all that is good in their primary relationship.

    It takes “courage” to quit a job without having another one lined up.
    Unfortunately this is also how a lot of people are when it comes to relationships.
    They aren’t willing to give up a “known” for an “uncertain future”.
    It’s very common for a person to have someone “in mind” or on the horizon to potentially date before ending a relationship.

    The first lie in cheating is the one the cheater tells him/herself.
    It’s the lie of “justification” which gives them permission to move forward.
    No one who feels “justified” doing anything is going to feel “guilty”.
    This explains why most cheaters blame the person they cheated on for their actions.

    In all honesty there are a variety of reasons and circumstances as to why one cheats.
    Sometimes it just comes down to being bored, an unusual opportunity to be with someone “out of their league”, an ex comes to town and stirs up old feelings, or as often is the case someone “stopped” doing the things that caused their mate to fall in love.
    Again if you are the person who was betrayed or hurt then there is (no answer) that will make it alright in your eyes so why bother asking “why”?

  7. benashiraz profile image58
    benashirazposted 9 years ago

    People cheat because they are not getting some specific thing that they're in need of in their relationship. So they try to sneak out and fulfill their desire from some place else. Some people don't get enough amount of love and care so they change their direction. Most people cheat because they get bored of the relationship cause of the shine that has faded out of the relationship so as we're aware that in the begining, a relationship feels great to be in, so the cheater start to feel such intense feelings with someone else they just met, so they end up cheating. Cheating doesn't mean you no longer love the person you're in relationship with, it means you don't know how to be loyal to someone.


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