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How to know if its still love?

  1. profile image51
    bella0426posted 3 years ago

    How to know if its still love?

    How to know if you still love your partner? Or you are just staying in a relationship for the seek of the baby? For her to have a complete family.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    You have to (know yourself) in order to determine whether or not you're just in a "lull" or if you truly don't want to be with her .
    No relationship or marriage is going to have everyday filled with sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes when we're unhappy in other areas of our lives we look to shakeup things in our relationships because it's easier than changing ourselves in order to pursue our dreams/calling.
    We convince ourselves that it's the relationship/marriage that is "holding us back". In other instances it's having regrets over choices we made such as getting married or having children too soon.
    This is especially true of the age 20 (something) crowd. They may have friends who are single going to college, partying, doing weekend getaways or taking vacations together and always seem to have a new hot girlfriend. Their lives are carefree and the attached individual starts to feel like his life is pretty much over. He has become "his parents". From now on it's all about being responsible, working, paying bills, taking care of his child, being supportive of his mate, planning for the future by saving money to buy a house, having healthcare and life insurance in the event something goes wrong, worrying about how your family would survive if you lost your job...
    For guys in this position it's not that they don't love their girlfriend or wife. They don't love their life! It has very little to do with her and everything to do with the choices they made that led up to their current situation.
    Ultimately whether you leave or not you have a child to support and raise together. Young people who get married too early or start a family before they've figured out (who they are) or have established a career path are bound to feel depressed from time tot time. Nevertheless if the couple are on the same page. They can work hard together to (build a wonderful life) together.
    You did not mention any "negatives" about her thus I have to assume she is a "good woman". When your single friends get ready to settle down they'll be envious of you because you will have what they'll be looking for. Is it her you don't love? or Is it (you) that you don't love?
    If it's (you) then start working on yourself and figure out what you want to do with your life and pursue a worthwhile goal/dream.
    Best wishes!

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      bella0426posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thankyou @dashingscorpio. I think im the only one who will be avaible to know the answer of the real status of my love for him. Maybe im just overthinking, and expecting too much for him. To tell you were not yet married. Just have baby and llive tog

  3. peeples profile image94
    peeplesposted 3 years ago

    In my opinion, if you have to ask, you are no longer "in love".

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Good point! However sometimes people confuse the end of the "infatuation phase" of a relationship with not loving the person. They breakup because they're "bored". Afterwards they're trying to "get their ex back". It's best to know for sure!