I would contemplate the inexperienced may "coin" it as either good or bad depending on their exposure to it; I suggest they are wrong and have prejudged it. Being happily married for approximately 28 years of a 30 year marriage I would think it is truly a fine and pleasant journey packed with ups and inevitably downs not unlike a half-decent roller-coaster. At moments it will take your breath away (either in a good or bad sense). At moments it will be challenging not unlike a game of ice hockey or perhaps a battle (I am going to go with the War of the Roses, Richard III comes to mind). At moments you may want to throw it away and simultaneously at moments you will be enveloped in ecstacy where you will want time to stand still. None the less is a journey of discovery that has the potential to change you for the better and actually can meld you with your spouse to become one being with a greater purpose than you ever will realize...
A marriage is a (legally binding contract) that grants certain rights and financial benefits especially in the event the relationship ends. Essentially it is a government sanctioned pre-nuptial agreement.
Once you get beyond the legalities marriage is two people who decide to commit to build a future and spend the rest of their lives together.
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the marriage that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who does not want you want! Like attracts like in the long run and opposites attracts divorce attorneys.
"Men marry women hoping they'll never change and women marry men hoping they'll change overtime." Both are being unrealistic!
There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Stay or move on. The choice is up to us!
There is no hard and fast rule. Some do excellently in marriage and some do excellently in single life. Marriage can be a sacrament. Some people are brought together by virtue of their karma and live that way as long as the Divine finds it necessary to fulfil its purpose. Others choose the single way or the way of monks. They all have their merits. Marriage was also meant to encourage self-control.
Marriage is coming to be seen more and more in terms of legal and financial safety; a home for support of the family network and moral values. It also offers an attractiveness in the form of emotional support and a way to deal with loneliness, especially as people get older.
Marriage is not the Divine Union of which scriptures speak. This is something mystical and different, has no need of sensuality and is a ceaseless awakening or merging of Love in God.
Historically marriage always had some element of "financial security" associated with it. A dowry (property/money brought by a bride was given to the husband.) A man who was considered a "good catch" came from a "well to do" /successful family.
Thanks, I know. many women openly admit to this. Others don't.
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