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How to tell if an older guy likes you or not?

  1. SilentMagenta profile image73
    SilentMagentaposted 3 years ago

    How to tell if an older guy likes you or not?

    Their is an 8 year difference between us. We have been dating for 3 months. I get a sign that we are friends sometimes and I sign that we are more others. We sit and watch tv, talk and debate. Next we are kissing, going on dates, sending cute good morning and good night texts. Im confused.

  2. Aime F profile image85
    Aime Fposted 3 years ago

    You ask him.

    It's really that simple. He'll either say "we're just friends" and then you'll have to think about how many other friends he's kissing/taking on dates and if you're okay with that. If you are, then you can carry on at least knowing where you stand. If you're not, then you can cut out the flirty stuff and avoid getting hurt by thinking it was something it wasn't.

    Or he'll say that you're dating and you'll have the opportunity to discuss if that means exclusively or not.

    Communication is good. Being confused about relationship dynamics is not.

    1. SilentMagenta profile image73
      SilentMagentaposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you. I hope we feel the same.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Generally speaking men do not invest time and money on women they aren't at least physically attracted to.
    You said: "We have been (dating) for 3 months."
    If guy is not always trying to "jump your bones" and enjoys having debates, watching TV, having conversations, kissing, and going on dates then there is a very good chance he (likes) you!
    Maybe what you call "confusion" is just that he's "different" from the type of guys you normally date. Unless there has been talk of you being in an "exclusive relationship" I would not make any assumptions.
    You could tell him that you feel yourself emotionally getting close to him but have no real idea of what (his intentions) are. Afterwards listen to his reply. Men are not indecisive when they want a woman all to themselves.
    Lastly I have to mention this as a side note. A female friend of mine several years ago met a man who was kind, loving, and affectionate but was religious and clearly pre-marital sex was out of the question.
    They got married and she learned he was impotent. He had cancer a few years prior and his first wife had left him. My friend knew he had cancer before but she had no idea he was impotent. She faithfully honored her vows and stayed with him.
    His cancer returned and he died. They had a 5 year "sexless marriage".
    Sometimes an older man may have a sexual dysfunction or a very low libido which causes him to have less or no interest in sex. One can't also rule out the possibility of having a non-curable STD and not wanting to risk passing it on.
    In this day and age if you've been dating someone for 3 months without sex that's very rare! Hopefully he's healthy, "into you", not married or seeing other women, and just believes in slowly getting to know someone.

    1. SilentMagenta profile image73
      SilentMagentaposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you. I will just take it slow and see where it goes with him.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      SilentMagenta, After 3 months of dating you deserve to know how he views your relationship. Are you a "couple" or just good friends who ":hang out"? You don't want 3 months to turn into a year! If he doesn't want what you want then move on.

    3. SilentMagenta profile image73
      SilentMagentaposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Okay thank you.

 
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