If a guy doesn't kiss you is that a bad thing?

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   SilentMagentaposted 10 years ago

   If a guy doesn't kiss you is that a bad thing?
   
   We have been dating for 4 months. We go on dates and hang out. We are taking things slow. We are sexually active. Be completely honest.

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   Arco Hess Designsposted 10 years ago

   Yes, but maybe not a bad thing regarding your relationship. It could be psychological. Just talk to him about it.

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   connorjposted 10 years ago

   I consider that personally a good thing and I would not allow it to happen to me...

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   bethperryposted 10 years ago

   You've been dating for months and in a sexual relationship. Unless he chews tobacco or has no tongue, yeah I would wonder what the heck is up. You should ask him why no kissing? Because in all honesty if a guy I'd been seeing for 4 months felt he was too good to kiss me, then he damned well wouldn't get anything more than a kiss.

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   Aime Fposted 10 years ago

   Wait, sexually active with each other, or just in general?
   
   If you're having sex with each other but he doesn't want to kiss you, then I'd think that's a bit strange. At that point it's not about "taking it slow" because, well, you've already had sex... that's not exactly a precursor to kissing.
   
   If you mean that you've both been sexually active outside of this relationship then I suppose it's not a bad thing if it's something you're both comfortable with. I'm not sure I could date someone for 4 months without kissing them, but that's just me! If you have other ways to show affection and be intimate then I'm sure it's all fine.

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      SilentMagentaposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I'm not use to this at all. I just recently noticed that he does it. We cuddle, go on dates and all. He just hasn't kissed me yet.

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   You said; "We are sexually active" but he doesn't kiss you?
   Have you ever attempted to initiate a kiss? If so did he turn his head or push you away? To be quite honest with you it's hard for me to imagine a couple dating who go from conversation to sex without (ever) having kissed one another!
   If you're having sex that isn't exactly taking things "slow" just because there is no kissing. A kiss was considered "first base".
   I could understand it if one person was a prostitute and the other was a paying client. When I was growing up the we use to say:
   "The kiss is the persuasion to lower invasion."
   In other words kissing was part of the foreplay! As a man the only way I could imagine never kissing someone I was dating would be either she has bad breath or I suspect that I have it. Either way I would not be involved with anyone who I felt was not kiss worthy!
   I remember watching the movie "Pretty Woman" with Julia Roberts many years ago. She plays a prostitute and refuses to kiss Richard Gere (her trick) early on because kissing is "too personal" and intimate. Everything else was available for him to do whatever.
   No one I know of envisions having a relationship with someone who refuses to kiss them. Next thing you know sex is (always in the dark) with your back to him! Essentially any woman in that scenario is being dehumanized to the level of sex toy. One man's opinion

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      SilentMagentaposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      I finally figured out on our last date why he didn't kiss me. I will admit the first time we had sex was me starting it. He was waiting on me to make the first move. I did.

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