Do you think dating is changed over the years?

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Do you think dating is changed over the years?
   
   Modern dating  sounds complicated and not so enjoyable . Do you think meeting your partner twenty years ago was easier than today?

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   peachpurpleposted 10 years ago

   ah yes, nowadays dating is pretty different. Girls chasing after rich guys with big fancy cars and loaded with $$$

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Correct! Money is everything in modern dating

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Absolutely! Things are moving at light speed when it comes to dating and relationships. Also expectations have changed between the genders as well. There are a lot more options with regard to meeting people via social media, online dating, speed dating, single networks, and hobby groups such as Meetup.com in addition to traditional ways.
   The sexual revolution and better birth control methods have made it possible for women to have sex much more on par with men when compared to past eras. First time marriages are being delayed.
   Some people have embraced the modern times and others long for days gone by. One group sees dating as strictly the business of finding spouse. They are afraid of "wasting time" and want to (rule people out) as quickly as possible. They hate the dating process. While others see dating as a casual fun social activity. They don't feel an urgent need to find out if a person is "the one" each time they go out. They enjoy being single and having lots of options
   The trick is finding someone who is on the same page.

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The urgent need of a partner is long gone thank you

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   realtalk247posted 10 years ago

   People had a better shot at love 20 years ago. 
   
   Women and men are way too sexually promiscuous (and irresponsible) confusing sexual gratification with genuine connection and love.  Relationships are shallow, women pursuing men with money caring nothing for them while attempting to arrange to be baby mother, if they can't be wife, to get paid.  Men who are so focused on validity by other men that they chose women who are nothing more than eye candy and then are disappointed with how women run through their money practically bankrupting them before divorcing them and moving on.
   
   So many people refuse to be themselves. The good people with good values seem to stay inside mixing with others randomly between laptop glances at Starbucks or Barnes and Nobles. 
   Dating has turned into a reflection of our society-people out for themselves caring only for their wants and needs. 
   Twenty years ago there were women that saw their husbands working in the yard and would bring him a cool glass of water.
   Twenty years ago encountering a nice person with a good heart meant the world
   Twenty years ago you both went to college, saved up money to buy a house and had a reasonable lifestyle.  Now everyone is supposed to spend tons of money to look fabulous and live like rockstar's although they can not afford it. 
   
   Now people invite the dysfunction of reality tv into their personal lives and wonder why their lives are full of madness and unhappiness. Things were better 20 years ago because now it just seems like anarchy in the dating game today. Twenty years ago there was less guessing of sexuality and wondering if your date was born a man or a woman. Now you want to casually want to ask some people to see their baby pictures(lol). 
   
   People seemed more realistic 20 years ago with their expectations. Just because your man can't buy you $500 purses and $200 shoes does not mean he does not love and value you in his life.  If you can't buy those things yourself why should you require it of others?
   
   What can I say, I'm biased. Twenty years ago was wonderful.  Guy like girl, girl likes guy, they get married and have a family -simple but beautiful.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      The 1990s were not all that much different. Herpes and HIV/Aids were exploding on the scene. The "sexual revolution" or "free love" actually began in the 1960s. The term "shacking up" was used for cohabitating couples. Dating was never easy.

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      realtalk247posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      True but twenty years ago it was "frowned upon" to be shacked up.  The rates of diseases were less in the 90's than they are today.  Yes, the sexual revolution did take place in the 60's but "free love" didn't go on for decades.  Something changed.

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I so agree with you when you say ''Twenty years ago was wonderful''  just as I thought so. I was in college then and really enjoyed those years thank you,

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      realtalk247, I guess it depended on where you lived and how old you were with regarding to (living together). I was living in Southern California during 80s and 90s and there was No Stigma at all! Most couples who got married had lived together.

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   Lybrahposted 10 years ago

   Yes.  There used to be a formality, and there were rules. But the woman's liberation of the 1970's, although necessary, ruined it. Nowadays people prefer the no-strings attached and have sex before they even know the person, or even bother to know him or her.  I suppose a lot of women are marrying because they don't want to end up "old maids."  Nowadays people are afraid that something or someone better will come along.

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      incredible answer! Most couples don't want to commit your answer got me thinking of life and dating twenty years ago.

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Incredible answer! Most couples  don't want to commit your answer got me thinking of life  and dating twenty years ago.

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