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Did you wait for marriage before having sex?

  1. emilyzeinert profile image60
    emilyzeinertposted 3 years ago

    Did you wait for marriage before having sex?

    Do you regret it or cherish it even more? Was it for religious reasons? Did you remarry?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    No and I have no regrets for not waiting.
    Virginity is unique in the way that unlike other things we "value" on earth it tends to go (down) with age in the eyes of society. A 50 year old woman who is a virgin is not revered as much as a 20 year old woman. In fact after one reaches a certain age people start to wonder if there is "something wrong" with her or him. Most people appreciate a talented and skilled lover.
    I have read articles though which "claim" virgin couples have lasting marriages. It probably has more to do with religious beliefs than sex.
    However I've yet to meet anyone who has blamed a divorce on the fact that they had pre-marital sex or cohabitated before marriage.
    Generally speaking divorce comes about because there was a mistake made in the (mate selection process) or one spouse committed a "deal breaker" of some kind in the eyes of the other.
    I suspect couples who don't believe in having pre-marital sex also don't believe in getting divorced no matter how unhappy they are.
    Sex is better when you're having it with someone you're "in love" with regardless of your marital status as a couple. How one feels about another is more important than their relationship title.

  3. no body profile image71
    no bodyposted 3 years ago

    My answer, to my shame, is no. I did not wait for marriage. I had always known what the Bible said about it but I was unable to keep myself from that sin. I was not saved and I really tried for a long time to keep my virginity intact but when I was 18 I succumbed to the temptation. I had the instant regret because after I was "satisfied" I recalled how God's Word said what God felt of my actions. I regretted because I had waited so long and then gave in some months before my wedding. I could have waited and should have waited. Hindsight is 20/20. I realize now, that without the indwelling Spirit, I didn't have the strength on my own.

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    IslamWashiaposted 3 years ago

    I never made sex before marriage, yes, it was for religious reasons, and I think this is the normal life, now, I am married.

    1. no body profile image71
      no bodyposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I think that is admirable. I wish I could have said that. It is a good thing to do because it is how God wishes it to be.

  5. chaitanyasaivb profile image76
    chaitanyasaivbposted 3 years ago

    A person must not think of having physical contact, before marriage. If his only intention to get married, is to have a physical contact with his/her spouse. Then, There exists no importance in their relationship.