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   sangreposted 10 years ago

   Have you ever confronted a person about their bad behaviour towards you are others?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Yes, I would imagine everyone has spoken up to someone in their life. If one has an ounce of self-esteem they're not going to allow people to continue to mistreat or walk all over them.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      True, I think sticking up for yourself is vital. No one else will.

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   liesl5858posted 10 years ago

   Yes, I stood up for myself when a Supervisor at work mistreated me. He took the medicines that I was about to administer to patients without telling me first. The patients were waiting for their medications and I was trying to find them. Later after I got so stressed the Supervisor told me that he did not know it was mine and that he took it because I am not suppose to leave them lying around. Okay I might have made a mistake by leaving them somewhere but to take it and hide it in their office without telling me is wrong. To this day I can't forget the incident. My manager took me in her office to ask me why I made the supervisor a baddie by telling every colleague what he did was wrong. But I still think I was in the right. I gave him a piece of my mind and I am glad I did because I was livid for what he done to me. I am not afraid to stand up for myself if I know I was right.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Hi liesl5858, hopefully he learned his lesson and the next time he won't take something without clearing it with the staff first. I think bosses are sometimes the worst at it.

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      liesl5858posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      He thought I was weak because I don't say a lot unless I had to, well he was wrong.

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   Express10posted 10 years ago

   Yes I have. I can unfortunately report with 100% honesty that when I have been courteous or even nice about it I got absolutely no results, no change in behavior or even an agreement to. But, when I gave them a dose of their own medicine verbally or through my actions, that made them stop their bad behavior.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I used to be like that too. But you learn the hard way that they don't get you respect or results.

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      Express10posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      As I grow, I find that those who treat others with unprovoked bad behavior are not people I want to be around or have in my life, life is too short. Also, I am lucky to work from home & have much more control over who I "must" interact with.

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   Link10103posted 10 years ago

   Not so much in day to day life, since i apparently give off the impression of someone not to royally tick off.
   
   The interwebs on the other hand, its basically a daily thing. No results as of yet, even when i give specific examples of x person's behavior. I have found it quite surprising the amount of denial that goes on even when you have such evidence.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Hi Link10103, lucky you. That's good for you though because it a lot of hassle having to deal with crappy people.

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   brakel2posted 10 years ago

   Yes, unfortunately to relatives. People take things out on the ones they love at times. I do not know why that happens, as my parents taught me to be kind to others. i hate confrontation but learned to do it in my work. Some people have angry streaks or jealous streaks, and we hope they keep these tendencies in control. My daughter is also kind and gets frustrated at the way people in customer service and sometimes coworkers treat her.When we become frustrated, with others, being assertive and in control is the only way for me to handle bad behavior in others.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      In some workplaces I think the behaviour of others can be atrocious. And calling people on their behaviour is totally the right thing to do.

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   fpherj48posted 10 years ago

   Certainly.  If I may use a famous quote, however a bit looser than it's original wording...."The best way for bad (evil) to spread is for the good to say or do nothing."  I'm sure you are familiar with the quote I'm rephrasing here.
   In my career, more often than not having been the Supervisor or Manager, In keeping with my responsibilities I had no choice but to confront.  Being in charge of others and responsible for a smooth-running operation, it's fairly easy to know what we must do, like or not.
   In my personal life, I could never and would never stand idly nor silently by as an adult mistreated or even spoke harshly to a child...or for that matter an elderly/frail individual.  What sort of a person would simply choose to "avoid a confrontation" rather than step in between a bully and a victim?  Not I, that's for certain.
   As for someone's behavior toward me? It's very rare that anyone is intentionally rude or insulting toward me, because I treat people with respect.  However there's always that one misfit who likes to give it a try.  I will make sure I look them directly in the eyes....and then laugh hysterically at them as I walk away.  They aren't worth any more effort than that.

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      sangreposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      I like your style and I agree with what you say. Some people just need to be called on their behaviour.

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