Why are so many men in their 30's looking for older women?

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  1. Cindy Cinnamon profile image55
    Cindy Cinnamonposted 9 years ago

    Why are so many men in their 30's looking for older women?

    A couple of years ago, I became a single middle aged mother. When I started dating again, I was surprised at how many younger men asked me out and I mean REALLY young, like, 15 to 20 years younger! It began to feel like it was a generational thing. Like there was this whole generation of people that were raised in such a liberal environment, age really didn't matter any more.

  2. peachpurple profile image83
    peachpurpleposted 9 years ago

    Younger men prefer older women as partners to gain experience about sex life

  3. AnonimusAdvice profile image59
    AnonimusAdviceposted 9 years ago

    Well, I'm not sure of your age, but I'm assuming you're between 45 and 50 if men in their 30s are 15 to 20 years younger. I can speak for myself as I will be 30 in a couple months, and I don't think there's anything wrong with older women. There's something about the maturity, the wisdom, the fact that it's taboo, the excitement is a turn on, not to mention women reach their sexual prime later. Most older women know what they want and know who they are as a person as well... the stability is refreshing. Just a few reasons that I can think of for me, and there are numerous others...

  4. dashingscorpio profile image80
    dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago


    This has actually been going on for a couple of decades now. When I was in my late 20s and early 30s I also pursued dates with women older than myself. Most older women have different expectations than younger ones.
    While older men have never had problems dating much younger women it has been a challenge for a lot of older women to consider dating much younger men. Some of them wonder what would they have to "talk about". The reality is most conversations people have do not start off with "remember when?". We're usually talking about the weather, what was on TV, current events, issues at work, and so on.
    The next concern they have is wondering why a younger man would be interested in "them". They may be insecure based upon observing the desires of men their age.
    Women in their 40s and 50s today don't look like women from previous eras! Just look at Halle Berry (48), Sandra Bullock (50) Jennifer Aniston (45) Jennifer Lopez (45), Vanessa Williams (51) and Christie Brinkley (60)! And it's not just celebrities who look good!
    Another thing about older women is they've normally been married before and therefore looking for a husband is no longer a priority.
    Dating for them is about having FUN and good times!
    They're not out to play any games to figure out a way to "make a man propose". They know the "fairytale" doesn't live up to the hype.
    Oftentimes these women are more sexually liberated and confident than their younger counterparts.
    Where as men their own age might be "spent" after one round or relying on Viagra to get going an older woman may find it refreshing to be with a younger man who can sort of speak "climb the mountain" more than once a night. Odds are he'll also be more open to listening to how (she) likes things done. She'll show her appreciation as well.
    This oftentimes makes for a very passionate coupling. She is not likely to mistake sex for love.
    Lastly the vast majority of older women understand and accept the fact that this type of arrangement is primarily temporary. Odds are if a guy is in his late 20s or early 30s and has never been married and doesn't have children he may one day decide that is what he wants and move on.
    She's also aware that eventually "father time" will catch up with her. The older we become we're likely to have some health issues or require daily medications. A 50 year old woman and 30 year old man can be great together without feeling any major age difference. However when she is 70 and he is the one who is 50 things change.

    1. Efficient Admin profile image87
      Efficient Adminposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Wow that was awesome!

  5. The Examiner-1 profile image60
    The Examiner-1posted 9 years ago

    Probably because they worry about growing old and want something to make them feel young.

  6. Express10 profile image86
    Express10posted 9 years ago

    I imagine that there are many reasons such as the possibility that you are right, maybe age doesn't matter any more. If men can date younger women, why can women do the same with younger men? Also, some of these men may finally understand that they need someone who is independent and drama free. They may know they don't want drama-filled, insecure or clingy types and some of them may assume that older women is where they can find these traits.
    Maybe some of these men have encountered younger women who were looking for a sugar daddy while some of the men in their 30's are looking for a sugar mama? It's also possible that these men know that an older woman has a number of attributes that younger women often do not. Some are curious while others prefer older women simply because they are often beautiful inside and out, stable, accomplished and/or successful.

    1. Efficient Admin profile image87
      Efficient Adminposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Wow that is an awesome comment!


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