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What are the challenges of being in a marriage?

  1. Rakim Cheeks profile image61
    Rakim Cheeksposted 2 years ago

    What are the challenges of being in a marriage?


  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago

    The challenges vary from person to person and couple to couple.
    Clearly a couple who has lived together for 5 years would a different experience than a couple who had never lived together or had sex.
    Among the basic challenges is (choosing) the "right mate" for oneself.
    This would entail {sharing the same values}, wanting the same things for the marriage, naturally agreeing how to obtain those things, and last but not least having a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
    If any of the above are not in place it's bound to be a rocky marriage.
    Like attracts like and opposites attract divorce attorneys.
    Spenders and savers clash, neat freaks and slobs drive each other crazy, low sexual libido paired with someone who has a high sexual libido is likely to lead to frustration or possible infidelity.
    Couples who naturally agree on the major things in life and want the same things for the marriage tend to be happier and stay together longer. Who knew?!
    It's "differences" and "deal breakers" that lead to divorce.

  3. dohn121 profile image82
    dohn121posted 2 years ago

    I especially like what dashingscorpio wrote and so would like to add to it:

    I'm not married and have never been married but plan to one day.  Over the years I've been witness to some amazing marital disasters and only two or three successful marriages (in which the couple are just as happy now as they were on their wedding day).  In truth, I think that there are two very strong proponents that will challenge any and every marriage:

    1) Money
    2) Children

    With money as a challenge in a marriage, it's usually a lack of it.  Rarely do you find that married couples have a problem coping wih too much money, except perhaps in Hollywood which then leads to divorce any how.  As dashingscorpion put it, you can't have couples clashing with one another, such as one being a spendthrift and the other a miser.  Most likely, the miser is going to file for divorce as the money will soon run out.  I had a friend who became addicted to gambling and so was divorced by his wife.

    In another scenario, one partner wanted children and the other did not. But because the wife loved the husband so much, she agreed to have just one baby by him.  In time, she didn't take on motherhood as she thought she could and so ran out on him leaving him and the baby.

    I have other stories as well, but these two factors seem to be marriage killers.  Perhaps my word isn't worth its salt, being that I lack the experience, but you be the judge!  In parting, I'd like to say this, in the words of Sheryl Crow:

    It's not having what you want
    It's wanting what you've got

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    peter565posted 2 years ago

    Without a doubt, the biggest challenges of being in a marriage "Your wife is an angry yell machine with no off switch."