Do you believe commitment comes before marriage?

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  1. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Do you believe commitment comes before marriage?

    Many people say "marriage is commitment" but I wonder how many folks would get married to someone whom they felt was not already committed to them! Very few people I imagine would give the "green light" for their boyfriend or girlfriend to date or have sex with others simply because (they're not married). Are the expectations one has for a mate in an "exclusive relationship" all that different from what one has in a marriage? Does commitment come before the marriage or do you believe only after marriage there is commitment? Does no rings mean no strings? Is there cheating without commitment?

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  2. gmwilliams profile image81
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

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    Well, logic even commonsense decries that commitment should come before marriage.  Before people get married, they should be in a long term committal relationship to test the sexual and/or other relationship based waters.  It is foolhardy to enter into marriage without being committed to each other.  Those who enter marriage without testing all levels and/or types of commitment are oftentimes in for a very rude awakening once they are married.  Another suggestion is that before people get married, they should live together for at least five years to prepare themselves emotionally, psychologically, and even psychically as far as relationships goes.

    Also there should be boundaries in a committal relationship whether married or not.  What are tolerable to each other?   Is the committal relationship inclusive or open?  Is or will there be a prenuptial agreement as to who receives what when the relationship dissolves?  These are important questions that couples should ask themselves before entering into a committal relationship, whether it is marriage or live in.  Not to know a partner fully is one of the cases of divorce in a marriage.

    1. gmwilliams profile image81
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Meant to say decrees, not decries, typo!

    2. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Everyone has their own "mate selection" process.  However I tend to believe pre-marital counseling is probably more important than marital counseling. I'd rather avoid making a mistake than to be taught how to live or coexist with one!

  3. tsmog profile image81
    tsmogposted 3 years ago

    Commitment does in my view arrive before an actual formal marriage ceremony. I feel two are joined together as one well before that moment of time a public commitment is proclaimed. I hope so.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I agree Tim.
      And yet some men truly believe they can fool around with several women up until the night before they get married. Once they put that ring on the commitment (begins). If there's no commitment before the ring there won't be one after

    2. tsmog profile image81
      tsmogposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I lean with agreement dashingscorpio. I too have observed what you shared with 'up to' the time of ceremony and wandering. An interesting thought to ponder with gender differences and commitment with relationships. Thanks for the idea :-)

  4. gajanan89 profile image61
    gajanan89posted 3 years ago

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    Hi,
    It was wonderful that someone is curious about word "commitment".
    Now days, the word commitment is disappearing, especially for relationships.
    As people are getting smarter, they believe that sex is a natural physical need and they have rights to enjoy this freedom. In between open marriage, or live in relationships, such concepts appeared. 
    And people are thinking marriage is just an adjustment for a life, when times come to proof them beyond of sex they have been completely falling to manage things. and becomes mentally disturb.
    Actually the base of marriage is far beyond of sex.
    This is the way to live a happiest life by completing each others,
    The base is ultimate sacrifice of wishes for their spouse and children,
    Marriage is the commitment to care each other to help each other
    This is the commitment with LOVE; not LUST

    1. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You say: "Marriage is the commitment to care each other to help each other. This is the commitment with LOVE; not LUST"
      Generally people don't marry unless they feel there is love and a commitment to care for each other. That's BEFORE they marry.

    2. gajanan89 profile image61
      gajanan89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      In my opinion, marriage itself a commitment,
      If you inquire about India then you will know that many marriages are, where bride and groom don’t know each other before marriage and these kinds of mirages are more successful than other kinds.

    3. dashingscorpio profile image87
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Gajanan,
      Marriage is a relationship status.
      Being committed is demonstrated actions/behavior or ways people conduct themselves to uphold an agreement or promise they've made.
      It's possible to be married and not committed to one's spouse.

 
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