I like it when someone opens a door for me, or offers me their seat. Am I politically incorrect? I expect to give up my seat to an old age pensioner, pregnant lady, child, but don't often see it happen. Why doesn't it? Isn't it just polite?
Good to know I am not the only one who does it. Sometimes I think maybe its a bit of fear. Certainly in London where we are always told to be on high alert for suspicious things/people it doesn't really encourage any interaction - however innocent.
Although some many years ago, the first person who had opened the door for me found himself holding it for approximately 1 minute. (No kidding!) His persistence paid off, for I finally went through that door totally shocked, but at the same time awed. My dad had never done that, so I did not know what to expect, but I liked it.
So in summary, some people may not understand it, but give them time. Then they will, and they will like it. What will they like? They will like the courtesy and respect shown in this very act of kindness. It shows a placing of others before oneself which is opposite the way the self-centered world thinks today. (Just drive 30 minutes on any well traveled road if you don't agree with me.)
So, I say keep it up. It may not change the world... and then again, if enough do it, it just might. Pass it on!
I do the same thing Uninvited Writer and you're right some don't even acknowledge your act of kindness. For this reason, I always make a point to give a big smile and "thank you" when someone opens the door for me.
Of course not.Is it wrong to offer me a million dollars ? Of course not. Any act of kindness should be welcomed by all. Its not every day you see someone else being courteous and thoughtful and helpful of others. http://hubpages.com/_1jlnpyoil2g4b/hub/rudepeople
I think it is really nice, polite and certainly the correct thing to do. In fact, I am shocked when I see people not being polite by opening the door or offering up their seat to the elderly, etc. If a date does not open and hold the door for me, I find it truly bizarre and see it as an indicator that the guy either has no manners and probably wasn't raised right. Also, I like it when the guy opens the car door too, although that is becoming more rare these days.
My parents signed me up for an etiquette course when I was about 12 or so and I remember the 'unit' on holding doors LOL
One of the questions was something to the effect of: If you're out on a date with someone and they do not open the door you should: a.) wait until they do. b.) ask them to open the door. c.) open the door yourself.
The correct answer was A, but I argued with the instructor that it could get awkward and I'd rather just open the door! hahaha
Anyways, I think it is a very nice gesture and there is certainly nothing 'politically incorrect' about it.
When I was in my early twenties I used to feel really bad several men who were at the bus stop and told me they were out of money, and needed help with bus fare. I gave out a few dollars here and there until one man told me he saw this scam they used to play. They would go up to people and ask for change, tell a sob story, and then walk over to the liquor store and buy booze. He said several made about two hundred or so dollars a day doing this LOL.
Yesturday my wife was in a wheel chair for the first time. We when to one of the largest shopping malls in the world. I never noticed before how nice people really can be. I never once had to worry about opening doors. It was like a competition to see who could get to the door to open it first. It wasn't only doors. People where respectful everywhere in the busy mall to make sure we could get around. (This was kids, teenagers, adults of all ages) My point is that this should be for everyone. Opening a door for anyone makes a person feel good. (handicapped or not)
Even after being married for almost 40 years, I appreciate my husband opening my door. Of course I can do it myself, but it makes me feel good and he enjoys it. As far as other people go, I always appreciate a helping hand getting through a door although sometimes it can be a bit awkward.
Thank God chivalry is not dead - at least here in the South. Men always hold the door open for me, and I always say thank you. I'm sure it's still alive in other locales, too, but I just haven't been there to see it.
Seriously, I hold doors open also for other people and I always receive a thank you. But I don't expect other people to hold the doors for me. I think that they think that I'm more than capable of barging through a door by myself what with my built and all .
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