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Do opposites really attract and have healthy relationships?

  1. Singlesstreetlife profile image69
    Singlesstreetlifeposted 8 years ago

    Is this just a saying or a reality?

    1. compu-smart profile image67
      compu-smartposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Just a saying in my experiences!!

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      cosetteposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      no. well, they might attract but as far as healthy relationships go, no.

    3. prettydarkhorse profile image65
      prettydarkhorseposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      just a saying

    4. de'Arab profile image47
      de'Arabposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      It would be fun only for a little while until they both think of each other as repulsive.

  2. mcacreate profile image61
    mcacreateposted 8 years ago

    I don't know about most, but it ddin't prove to  be true to me. I had a girlfriend and it seemed like whatever I liked, she didn't like. I'm talking about things like movies, music, that kind of thing. And I used that excuse. "Hey, they say oposites attract. The relationship lasted 3 months. Then I met someone that we both had common likes and dislikes. I really found how untrue that saying is. We have a house together and have been togehter for almost nine years.

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    sarah dawkinsposted 8 years ago

    I think opposites can attract and have healthy relationships.  I am an extrovert, my hubby is introverted.  I am confident, hubby has low self esteem.  I like a lot of sleep, he doesn't.  He is quick to temper, I am calmer.  I use "products" he doesn't (haha).  We have been together for 19 years, married for 18.  I think that we bounce off each other and get a happy medium.  We have 3 kids between us.

    Don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs like most couples, but we always find a way to resolve them.  We talk things over and don't take each other for granted.  We both work hard and have done many things in our lives.  I think that is the secret, doing things together but having separate interests as well.

    1. Singlesstreetlife profile image69
      Singlesstreetlifeposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So love conquerors all rather than opposites attracts?

      1. Mikel G Roberts profile image80
        Mikel G Robertsposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        IMHO, opposites don't attract, and they don't last long together.

        Being with yourself in the body of the opposite sex (or same sex if your gay) might be easier and emotionally safer, but I think it would also be boring...

        The subtle differences, that are just different enough, to open a new way of thinking or a new life experience, is what I think really makes things work, and last. Being just a little bit different while having a healthy and stable amount of sameness, so that a strong foundation and comfort zone exists, is to me what makes a relationship last, without it becoming a complete bore.

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    blatvaposted 8 years ago

    I feel like... differences can bring people together. I am a 19 year old bisexual member of the green party XD  and my boyfriend is a 26 year old republican. I feel sometimes theses differences defiantly attracted us to one another. But underneath it all,  We are very similar in our tastes and Even our beliefs.

    So, maybe something different and unlike yourself is attractive, but it doesn't make it right for you necessarily.

  5. Metta's iPhone profile image56
    Metta's iPhoneposted 8 years ago

    I have been married 20 years.  We lived together 3 years before we were married.  We are totally different.  From tv, food, cars, friends, the list goes on.  I learned that we cannot change each other, just support one another.  When there is a problem, instead of arguing, each one of us have a corner of the house we go to until our next conversation.  We have agreed to disagree and that is the way we handle it.

    If I had someone like me, I wouldn't like it, they will always be in my SPACE!!!

  6. Lita C. Malicdem profile image59
    Lita C. Malicdemposted 8 years ago

    Opposites attract- there are scientific evidences to this, but not all the time. In my opinion, happy relationships are usually  attributed to similarities not differences.

  7. adsensesecrets profile image60
    adsensesecretsposted 8 years ago

    yes, opposites teach eachother new things and keep eachother interested!

  8. cupid51 profile image74
    cupid51posted 8 years ago

    Yes, in my opinion it is true that opposites attracts and it is also possible to maintain a long lasting relationship. But I like to add a few clarifications to this:
    We may have interest in separate subjects but we should have respect to the subject in which my partner has the interest.
    We should never try to disparage or show disgrace to the partner’s interest.
    We should be patient in listening about partner’s subject.
    I like to add one more thing that sometimes people from the same interest or profession may face problem in their relationship due to professional rivalry and ego.

  9. Black Lilly profile image60
    Black Lillyposted 8 years ago

    Opposites attract - definitely yes. But that's just attraction, nothing more.
    When it comes to relationships, it's like a road to hell - sooner or later there will be some clash of values, personalities, etc.

    I've once made an impulsive decision, without taking into account the differences, and it ended up in huge drama, finally reaching criminal court.

  10. Flightkeeper profile image73
    Flightkeeperposted 8 years ago

    Opposites attract, but for it to work out they should complement and look at life with the same values.

  11. ASHWINSPGA profile image61
    ASHWINSPGAposted 8 years ago

    Opposites do attract and makes things interesting in the relationship.

  12. Mamelody profile image61
    Mamelodyposted 8 years ago

    Nah they don't..  I find those with more similarities last longer than differences...

    1. ASHWINSPGA profile image61
      ASHWINSPGAposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      if both have the same likes and dislikes share the same views won't that make things boring? How are the both going to explore one another when there is nothing there to find?

      1. Black Lilly profile image60
        Black Lillyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

        The thing is we're talking abuot OPPOSITES here, not just minor differences.

        Person A - smoker, bold and blunt, party every other day, manual work, modern views on family, wayward, satisfied with current life, untidy, though good communicator;

        Person B - non-smoker, subtle, shy, writer (poetry), religious, can't stand the mess, a loner.

        How do you think these two would "explore one another" in, let's say, 3rd year of their relationship?

        1. ASHWINSPGA profile image61
          ASHWINSPGAposted 8 years agoin reply to this

          Guess i was indeed talking about minor differences. thanks for pointing that out to me.smile

  13. theirishobserver. profile image59
    theirishobserver.posted 8 years ago

    Pokey is attracted to fire....that cant be good smile

    1. Hokey profile image60
      Hokeyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      too funny!  lol lol

  14. theirishobserver. profile image59
    theirishobserver.posted 8 years ago

    Come on girls...can you do the Hokey Pokey smile

  15. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 8 years ago

    I think as far as relationships go it's fundamental similarities that get along the best, but with opposites in some areas that work well together. For instance:

    My husband is very good at talking to people, keeping a conversation going, etc. while I prefer to hang back and listen until I have something to add, which works to keep me comfortable in social situations.

    I am a very business-minded person who likes to keep track of finances, household business, etc. to make sure everything is running smoothly, while my husband is very easygoing and will go along with budgetary guidelines, which means that as a couple we can actually stick to the plan.

    My husband reacts quickly to things whereas I tend to think things through and respond, then break down later if need be...in this way, one or the other of us is well-equipped to deal with any crisis or emergency that comes along, and then the other is ready to support the responder later on when the aftershock hits.

    I tend to be rather "fussable" in day-to-day life, while my husband is extremely steady and patient...he keeps me on an even keel and puts up with me when I'm irritable, but then when he's having a hard time am easily able to give him emotional support.

    As far as interests, music, lifestyle, etc. we are very much the same, but there are those little opposites all throughout our lives together that really make the difference.

  16. Mr Nice profile image80
    Mr Niceposted 8 years ago

    If the opposites are attracted physically, emotionally and intellectually then relationships could be everlasting.
    Attraction can be only physical, emotional or intellectual but in order to develop long lasting relationship all three are must.
    This is my personal opinion you do not have to agree because you might have a different meaning of relationships.

  17. WriteAngled profile image82
    WriteAngledposted 8 years ago

    I lean more to the left politically, he leans more to the right.
    I tend to pacifism, he was in the Territorial Army.
    I'm very shy and always on the edge of things, he is very outgoing, relaxed in company and usually the centre of attention.
    I cannot function before 10am, he often gets up before 7am.
    I love baroque music, ancient music and folk music from around the world, hate most jazz, rock and heavy metal. He loathes the music I love and he loves rock, heavy metal and a lot of jazz.

    We do have a common interest in Egyptology and share a spiritual path.

    We've known and loved each other for 12 years, although have only been able to be together for the last 2 years. In the time we've known each other, we have moved slightly towards each other politically.

    I leave him to make most of the conversation when we are with people I don't know. He leaves me to sleep in the morning.

    We still hate each other's music LOL!

    Neither of us could imagine being with anyone else now smile

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    akringle1215posted 8 years ago

    I think that it depends on the people. But in my experiences the answer is no. I have been with people who are my exact opposite. It was fun for awhile but it soon turned sour.

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    aashiq_majboorposted 8 years ago