Do opposites really attract and have healthy relationships?

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   Singlesstreetlifeposted 13 years ago

   Is this just a saying or a reality?

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      compu-smartposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      Just a saying in my experiences!!

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      cosetteposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      no. well, they might attract but as far as healthy relationships go, no.

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      prettydarkhorseposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      just a saying

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      de'Arabposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      It would be fun only for a little while until they both think of each other as repulsive.

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   mcacreateposted 13 years ago

   I don't know about most, but it ddin't prove to  be true to me. I had a girlfriend and it seemed like whatever I liked, she didn't like. I'm talking about things like movies, music, that kind of thing. And I used that excuse. "Hey, they say oposites attract. The relationship lasted 3 months. Then I met someone that we both had common likes and dislikes. I really found how untrue that saying is. We have a house together and have been togehter for almost nine years.

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   sarah dawkinsposted 13 years ago

   I think opposites can attract and have healthy relationships.  I am an extrovert, my hubby is introverted.  I am confident, hubby has low self esteem.  I like a lot of sleep, he doesn't.  He is quick to temper, I am calmer.  I use "products" he doesn't (haha).  We have been together for 19 years, married for 18.  I think that we bounce off each other and get a happy medium.  We have 3 kids between us.
   
   Don't get me wrong, we have our ups and downs like most couples, but we always find a way to resolve them.  We talk things over and don't take each other for granted.  We both work hard and have done many things in our lives.  I think that is the secret, doing things together but having separate interests as well.

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      Singlesstreetlifeposted 13 years agoin reply to this

      So love conquerors all rather than opposites attracts?

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         Mikel G Robertsposted 13 years agoin reply to this

         IMHO, opposites don't attract, and they don't last long together.
         
         Being with yourself in the body of the opposite sex (or same sex if your gay) might be easier and emotionally safer, but I think it would also be boring...
         
         The subtle differences, that are just different enough, to open a new way of thinking or a new life experience, is what I think really makes things work, and last. Being just a little bit different while having a healthy and stable amount of sameness, so that a strong foundation and comfort zone exists, is to me what makes a relationship last, without it becoming a complete bore.

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   blatvaposted 13 years ago

   I feel like... differences can bring people together. I am a 19 year old bisexual member of the green party XD  and my boyfriend is a 26 year old republican. I feel sometimes theses differences defiantly attracted us to one another. But underneath it all,  We are very similar in our tastes and Even our beliefs.
   
   So, maybe something different and unlike yourself is attractive, but it doesn't make it right for you necessarily.

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   Metta's iPhoneposted 13 years ago

   I have been married 20 years.  We lived together 3 years before we were married.  We are totally different.  From tv, food, cars, friends, the list goes on.  I learned that we cannot change each other, just support one another.  When there is a problem, instead of arguing, each one of us have a corner of the house we go to until our next conversation.  We have agreed to disagree and that is the way we handle it.
   
   If I had someone like me, I wouldn't like it, they will always be in my SPACE!!!

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   Lita C. Malicdemposted 13 years ago

   Opposites attract- there are scientific evidences to this, but not all the time. In my opinion, happy relationships are usually  attributed to similarities not differences.

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   adsensesecretsposted 13 years ago

   yes, opposites teach eachother new things and keep eachother interested!

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   cupid51posted 13 years ago

   Yes, in my opinion it is true that opposites attracts and it is also possible to maintain a long lasting relationship. But I like to add a few clarifications to this:
   We may have interest in separate subjects but we should have respect to the subject in which my partner has the interest.
   We should never try to disparage or show disgrace to the partner’s interest.
   We should be patient in listening about partner’s subject.
   I like to add one more thing that sometimes people from the same interest or profession may face problem in their relationship due to professional rivalry and ego.

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   Black Lillyposted 13 years ago

   Opposites attract - definitely yes. But that's just attraction, nothing more.
   When it comes to relationships, it's like a road to hell - sooner or later there will be some clash of values, personalities, etc.
   
   I've once made an impulsive decision, without taking into account the differences, and it ended up in huge drama, finally reaching criminal court.

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    Flightkeeperposted 13 years ago

    Opposites attract, but for it to work out they should complement and look at life with the same values.

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    ASHWINSPGAposted 13 years ago

    Opposites do attract and makes things interesting in the relationship.

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    Mamelodyposted 13 years ago

    Nah they don't..  I find those with more similarities last longer than differences...

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       ASHWINSPGAposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       if both have the same likes and dislikes share the same views won't that make things boring? How are the both going to explore one another when there is nothing there to find?

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          Black Lillyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

          The thing is we're talking abuot OPPOSITES here, not just minor differences.
          
          Person A - smoker, bold and blunt, party every other day, manual work, modern views on family, wayward, satisfied with current life, untidy, though good communicator;
          
          Person B - non-smoker, subtle, shy, writer (poetry), religious, can't stand the mess, a loner.
          
          How do you think these two would "explore one another" in, let's say, 3rd year of their relationship?

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             ASHWINSPGAposted 13 years agoin reply to this

             Guess i was indeed talking about minor differences. thanks for pointing that out to me.

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    theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

    Pokey is attracted to fire....that cant be good

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       Hokeyposted 13 years agoin reply to this

       too funny! 

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    theirishobserver.posted 13 years ago

    Come on girls...can you do the Hokey Pokey

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    wychicposted 13 years ago

    I think as far as relationships go it's fundamental similarities that get along the best, but with opposites in some areas that work well together. For instance:
    
    My husband is very good at talking to people, keeping a conversation going, etc. while I prefer to hang back and listen until I have something to add, which works to keep me comfortable in social situations.
    
    I am a very business-minded person who likes to keep track of finances, household business, etc. to make sure everything is running smoothly, while my husband is very easygoing and will go along with budgetary guidelines, which means that as a couple we can actually stick to the plan.
    
    My husband reacts quickly to things whereas I tend to think things through and respond, then break down later if need be...in this way, one or the other of us is well-equipped to deal with any crisis or emergency that comes along, and then the other is ready to support the responder later on when the aftershock hits.
    
    I tend to be rather "fussable" in day-to-day life, while my husband is extremely steady and patient...he keeps me on an even keel and puts up with me when I'm irritable, but then when he's having a hard time am easily able to give him emotional support.
    
    As far as interests, music, lifestyle, etc. we are very much the same, but there are those little opposites all throughout our lives together that really make the difference.

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    Mr Niceposted 13 years ago

    If the opposites are attracted physically, emotionally and intellectually then relationships could be everlasting.
    Attraction can be only physical, emotional or intellectual but in order to develop long lasting relationship all three are must.
    This is my personal opinion you do not have to agree because you might have a different meaning of relationships.

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    WriteAngledposted 13 years ago

    I lean more to the left politically, he leans more to the right.
    I tend to pacifism, he was in the Territorial Army.
    I'm very shy and always on the edge of things, he is very outgoing, relaxed in company and usually the centre of attention.
    I cannot function before 10am, he often gets up before 7am.
    I love baroque music, ancient music and folk music from around the world, hate most jazz, rock and heavy metal. He loathes the music I love and he loves rock, heavy metal and a lot of jazz.
    
    We do have a common interest in Egyptology and share a spiritual path.
    
    We've known and loved each other for 12 years, although have only been able to be together for the last 2 years. In the time we've known each other, we have moved slightly towards each other politically.
    
    I leave him to make most of the conversation when we are with people I don't know. He leaves me to sleep in the morning.
    
    We still hate each other's music LOL!
    
    Neither of us could imagine being with anyone else now

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    akringle1215posted 13 years ago

    I think that it depends on the people. But in my experiences the answer is no. I have been with people who are my exact opposite. It was fun for awhile but it soon turned sour.

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    aashiq_majboorposted 13 years ago

    hi

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