Do opposites really attract, or is it more important to have things in common?
Is the answer different for dating than for marriage? Is it more important to have some things different or in common than others? Which things?
I believe opposites do tend to attract, but you do need some things in common, such as morals, standards, values, etc..But it's intriguing being with someone with different interests than you, so much more to learn.
A good balance is best. Having something in common keeps you glued together, while being opposites keeps you interested.
i guess it depends from person to person. Generally.. through experience i learnt that having some things in common may help to build up a conversation and get to know each other better, but having too much in common makes you like brother and sister and yo might feel that friendship is what you obtained.
The best would be having some things in common as well as being opposite in ways of thinking. It is important to share your opinions and find out what the other person thinks without necessarily agreeing with you on everything.
I think it's important to have values in common about the important things in life. Other than that, having different interests makes for a fun relationship.
People are usually facinated by others who are different from them in the beginning. However in the long run you are much better off being with someone who "naturally" wants what you want and "agrees" with you on how to obtain it.
Life is too short to be trying to fit square pegs into round holes, changing water into wine, fighting or trying to persuade someone to see things your way. If you want to go "right" and your mate wants to go "left" then the two of you are in for a bumpy ride. Life is much easier when you are with someone who (naturally agrees with you) on the major issues. Of course there are others that confuse "drama" with "passion" and "jealousy" with "love". For these types a "smooth sailing" relationship would be too boring.
I think it is important to have things in common that you like to do together. Spending time together and building a relationship is easiest when you have similar interests.
Psychologically, opposites cause divorces. The first thing you learn when it comes to training for finding a mate in psychology class is that common traits bring people together. It is ok if there are a few things that are different such as food likes, styles. However, the people have to meet in the middle to create a good couple.
They must have the basics the same though. Their beliefs, values, morals, etc. This is why eharmony.com does so well for couples.
by Singlesstreetlife8 years ago
Is this just a saying or a reality?
by Ruchira6 years ago
Do opposites really attract or is it just a theory?
by Jenny6 years ago
"Opposites Attract" Do you believe in this saying and why?
by Vandana4 months ago
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by JosieLee6 years ago
What’s more important to a relationship?What’s more important to a relationship: common values or other commonalities (like tastes in music, interests, etc.)?
by sarahsherlock7 years ago
This is a long debate that I have been having with somebody I work with - I would be interested to hear your views!
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