Is it true that marriage vows are no longer important in today's marital relationships?
Depends on what you mean.
If you mean the traditional 'death do us part, sickness and in health' vows (the well known ones) - then it's not that they arent important but more that they've been made more specific with people personalising their vows but still going along the traditional lines. Makes them more important to the people saying them I feel, not less.
If you mean marriage vows in general - be they the traditional ones or more personal ones - I think that most people consider them important.
I certainly do - and I've said them twice to the same person due to marriage law changes in my country - I meant them when I said them at our civil union, and I still meant them when we got that changed to marriage on the change of law (marriage equality in NZ). They are as important to me today as they were the day I said them.
But I can't speak for everyone.
If people felt vows were unimportant then no one would exchanging them.
In the U.S. approximately 2.3 Million weddings take place each year! Recently the Supreme Court struck down laws against "same sex" marriage. Odds are we're going to see even more people exchanging vows! Lots of people are also writing their own vows too!
As long as there are weddings there will be vows exchanged.
Because words are just words, and many people get hung up on traditions and rites instead of what it actually means to be with someone in a long term relationship.
I do not need the church and a set of scripted vows to know I am happy and in love with my partner and that we will grow old together. We have already been together for 10 years, no official marriage needed or wanted. In fact, my partner was down that road twice before, married in the Catholic church and both marriages failed in less time than we have been together. So why bother when neither of us need the expense of a fancy ceremony and the sanction of a church that we don't follow? (I am religious but not a follower of any particular specific church.) An outside institution does not need to sanctify our relationship and dictate how we choose to live it.
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