Why would these women take their husband's last name after marriage?

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   peter565posted 9 years ago

   Why would these women take their husband's last name after marriage?
   
   In common western custom a woman is suppose to take her husband's last name after marriage. A lot of feminist felt very strongly against it, saying it is sexist. But the odd thing is, in Asia, it is not a culture practice for woman to take husband's last name after marriage.  As a result, the husband never ask the wife to take his last name, but most western women that married Asian men choose to take her husband's last name anyway. If they felt so strong against it, from a feminist point of view, why would they still take their husband's last name, if married to a country, where it is odd?

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   dashingscorpioposted 9 years ago

   You said: "in Asia, it is (not a culture practice) for a woman to take husband's last name after marriage." There you have it!
   In most countries the vast majority of people follow their culture practice. Western culture accepts the fact that women can keep their own last name or even use a hyphen if they want to designate their maiden name. No one forces a woman to take a man's name.
   However as you noted (culture practice) dominates behaviors.
   Most people in the U.S. will be having turkey on Thanksgiving as opposed to pizza, hamburgers, hot dogs, or grilled steaks. It's not because they can't have those things but rather it's not the "tradition" they grew up with. Some traditions people want to hold onto.
   Most women work and consider themselves independent and yet many of them expect the man to initiate and pay for dates as well as make marriage proposals. They don't want to eliminate all traditions.
   I imagine if women in Asia grew up dreaming about becoming Mrs. blah blah they'd probably long for keeping the tradition their parents and grandparents had.
   Being a "feminist" is more about "having the option" than it is about choosing to take advantage of the option.
   A woman can be "pro-choice" but opt not to have an abortion when she has her own unplanned pregnancy.
   The same holds true for (choosing) to be a "stay at home mom" as opposed to working in the corporate world and busting through the glass ceiling. Equality is about having the same opportunities.
   Having the option doesn't necessary mean one will take that option!

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      peter565posted 9 years agoin reply to this

      make sense

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