Why do women STILL change their names

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   Les Trois Chenesposted 8 years ago

   Why do women STILL change their names
   
   Angelina Jolie has taken Brad Pitt's name but not vie versa. Why do women still change their names - sometimes several times?

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   I imagine they love the tradition and have dreamed of being Mrs....etc
   Amal Alamuddin changed her name after marrying George Clooney.
   Even with all the push for equality among the genders there will always be a large segment of the population that seeks tradition when it comes to (love and romance).  They want the fairytale!
   Some women have never been the (first person) in a relationship to say: "I love you". Others could never imagine proposing marriage and many would never initiate a date or ask a man to dance. {They'll wait}.
   Even with a divorce rate hovering around 50% and the removal of the stigma of living together and having children out of wedlock millions of people choose to get married in the U.S. every single year!
   Tradition is always a (desire) and not a requirement.
   Women who change their name because (they) want to.

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      Les Trois Chenesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      Amal Alamuddin is certainly a person in her own right. What a pity she didn't set an example to other women. I don't suppose men dream of being Mr (somebody else). I wonder if this is her first marriage - has she also been Mrs X rs Y and Mrs Z?

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      dashingscorpioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      "Amal Alamuddin is certainly a person in her own right"
      - Very true!
      Therefore she should be able to do what (she pleases) without having to worry about setting examples. Having "the option" to go with tradition or not is all that matters.

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   peter565posted 8 years ago

   That is a good question, I myself grew up in Asia and that is not common practice in Asia, some women do it, but not all. When I first came to the west, I found it very odd all husband and wife got the same last name. Until I realized wife always change their last name to husband after marriage and then in sitcom, you see if a wife don't take the husband's last name, even if she only hyphen it, is is WW3. The oddest thing is that, even western girls that married Asian, they still choose to take their husband's last name. All of my Asian friends, who married western girl, when their wife asked them about changing last name they always respond "change it, don't change it, I don't care" but most of the western girl still change their last name.
   
   It is very weird indeed, I have lived in the west for over 10 years now and I still don't get what is the deal here.

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      Les Trois Chenesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I really can't understand it when women now have the choice. I can't help but think of slaves and dogs that change their name with their owners. Thanks for your comment.

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   nochanceposted 8 years ago

   My husband and I both changed our last name. I didn't want to have his last name (Smith) because it is so common. I didn't want him to have mine either (I have a bad relationship with my father whose last name I had.) So we compromised and combined his last name with my maternal great grandfather's last name.
   
   I wanted us to have the same last name so any future children we may have will have the same last name as both of us. My mother remarried when I was in middle school so it was awkward having a different last name from her and my step-siblings.

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      Les Trois Chenesposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      We kept our own names, although we thought of combining both names for both of us. We gave our son both our names - but that can't go on indefinitely! If BOTH partners change their names or keep them there is at least some equality. Thx

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