How do you break up with someone who will potentially harm themselves?

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  1. Celeb Scoops profile image69
    Celeb Scoopsposted 7 years ago

    How do you break up with someone who will potentially harm themselves?

  2. ronbergeron profile image84
    ronbergeronposted 7 years ago

    You can express your concern to them and recommend that they seek help.

    It's important to understand that you're not responsible for their actions. Don't stay trapped in a bad situation out of concern for what they may do. Don't give them that power over you. If anything, that type of concern is a red flag that should warn you to get away from them.

    1. Michaela Osiecki profile image69
      Michaela Osieckiposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      This! Exactly this! You are not responsible for what they do afterwards. You need to put yourself and your safety/feelings first.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image85
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Accept the fact you have no control over what another person chooses to do with their life. If someone is suicidal they need {professional help}.
    Staying with someone because you fear what they might do is allowing yourself to be manipulated and placing (your happiness) at the bottom your priority list.
    Friends, family, and various out reach programs exist for those who (want) help.  You can't live for someone else.
    Life is a (personal) journey.

  4. krillco profile image88
    krillcoposted 7 years ago

    Just do it, and inform them if they threaten to harm themselves that you are immediately going to call a significant person in their life to  let them know of the life or self harm threat.

  5. Jade89 profile image81
    Jade89posted 7 years ago

    Having someone threaten to harm themselves if you leave (whether directly or indirectly) is emotional blackmail. They are forcing you to stay with them which is a form of abuse and imprisonment.
    A good approach would be to make contact with a close relative or family member (or friend etc.) of theirs informing them of the fact that your partner is threatening to harm him/herself and requesting that they provide support to that person.
    Speak to your partner and let him/her know that things aren't working out but that you will always be available to them on a "friendship" or support level.
    If you fear that he / she may hurt you as well if you leave (there are numerous reports of murder-suicides worldwide), then do not break up with him / her in person or in person alone.

  6. adrianna vaughn profile image59
    adrianna vaughnposted 7 years ago

    most likely the main way to go is to be real with them and let them know, because at the end of the day you are hurting yourself by pretending.


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