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Would you break up with someone you loved if the sex was bad?

  1. profile image0
    LoliHeyposted 2 years ago

    Would you break up with someone you loved if the sex was bad?

  2. adrianna vaughn profile image59
    adrianna vaughnposted 2 years ago

    no i wouldn't because that is something that doesn't mean nothing to the  relationship. i believe that the main thing is that you two are together and making it through life, sex can fall last. when it does come to that time i don't know what to tell you.

  3. Annsalo profile image85
    Annsaloposted 2 years ago

    Nope, that can be fixed. While I believe sex plays a large role in a romantic relationship, with communication even the worst of lovers can get better.
    It will just take time and practice!

    1. Say Yes To Life profile image80
      Say Yes To Lifeposted 22 months agoin reply to this

      That only works if both partners care.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 2 years ago


    I guess it would depend on how "bad" it was.
    Is it a matter of them being selfish? or lacking skills/experience but willing to find out what I like and put in the effort? or Is it we've tried everything and it is just no chemistry in (that department)?
    The sound of crickets or watching paint dry???
    If one finds them self fantasizing about past lovers or feels tempted to cheat in order to be satisfied then breaking up is much more dignified.
    The reality is many people in such a scenario would choose to cheat rather than breakup or run down to the courthouse to file for divorce.
    Just because sexual incompatibility isn't a "deal breaker" for them does not mean they're prepared to go without sex or live out the rest of their life sexually frustrated.
    Cheaters in this situation are looking to complement what they have. They want to hold onto all that is "good" in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" on the side.
    Most cheaters don't believe they will get caught so they "go for it".   
    It really comes down to each individual determining just how important "good sex" is to them for the remainder of their life.
    Some people with regard to sex have a "take it or leave it" outlook.
    Ideally one wants to be with someone where the desire and pleasure is (mutual). No one would intentionally pursue sexual incompatibility and frustration. Many believe you can "teach the mechanics" but ultimately "chemistry" can't be taught. It's either there or it's not.
    Life is a (personal) journey.
    Each of us gets to have our own "deal breakers'.

  5. Say Yes To Life profile image80
    Say Yes To Lifeposted 22 months ago

    That depends on the situation.  I actually have done this.  My partner was selfish and uncaring.  Looking back, I realize I've done the right thing.  There were other issues, like his irresponsibility with money, plus he was into drugs.  He wound up marrying an Asian who can't speak English; talk about control issues!