As a single mother to a younger child (under 3 years old), how do you balance da

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  1. Jade89 profile image83
    Jade89posted 3 years ago

    As a single mother to a younger child (under 3 years old), how do you balance dating and parenting

    Is it possible to balance the two without neglecting either? How do you manage?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Having dated women in the past with young children I think it's actually easier for them when they are not of school age.
    (No homework or after school activities to rush them to)
    Most dates take place after 8PM and toddlers are usually put to bed by then or soon after by a babysitter, aunts, or grandparents.
    In other instances if there is co-parenting between the mother and father some women plan their dates around days/nights they don't have the child. It's also healthy for the child to spend time with their father. Ideally a child should bond with both parents.
    Leaving kids with sitters helps prepare them for school separation.
    If the dating evolves into a relationship they introduce the child to the man and gradually include the child on some daytime outings.

    1. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Dashing smile

  3. savvydating profile image94
    savvydatingposted 3 years ago

    Take your time in introducing the child to the men you date, or more accurately, don't introduce them at all unless the relationship becomes very serious---that way the child does not become attached if things don't work out. Personally, I never let any man spend the night if my child was there. I think it's disrespectful to the child. Long story short, you can date when the child is spending time with his father. If things get serious, you can introduce the child to your boyfriend little by little.

    1. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you smile

  4. brakel2 profile image77
    brakel2posted 3 years ago

    I had a friend who sent her child who was a little older to my house for the night when she had a date. This child was about 7, and she spent a lot of time at home on her dates - with her younger child . Her older child was my daughter's friend. Her dates were after her younger child was in bed, and she dated mostly on weekends. She had no problems. At times, she had sitters.

    1. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Audrey. smile

  5. gmwilliams profile image84
    gmwilliamsposted 3 years ago

    I am going to take the old fashioned route.  Your child comes first.  Your child is at the stage when he needs you the most.  Your child is developing & you should devote all the time to his emotional, intellectual, mental, & psychological development.  This is not a time for boyfriends.  I would suggest that you forget about dating until your child is MUCH older.  Boyfriends & dates aren't important at this stage, YOUR CHILD is.   

    This is what is wrong with young mothers today.  They want to date although they have children who need them so much.  Look after your child, educate him & spend as much time with him as possible.  These are precious years which cannot be regained.  Your child is the priority here.  Dates aren't important & boyfriends ARE less important. Boyfriends come & go but your child is forever.

    1. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Grace smile

  6. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 3 years ago

    concentrate on caring your child. Give your life a second chance when the child is in kindy or school age. You can't balance both at the same time unless you have a maid

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      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this


    2. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Peachy

  7. word55 profile image71
    word55posted 3 years ago

    If you involve your child in activities along with the mate then that should make life much easier for all three of you for instance, the three of you go to the park, church or shopping  then you are functioning more as a close knit family. The child gets a father figure and you're not splitting too much time between the two but spending quality time with the two. Of course, for this to work the dating must be narrowed down to one person that you should introduce your child to. Your date should accept that you must raise your child around people with good morals and setting good examples. The balancing should smooth out to blend one big happy family and no one being neglected.

    1. Jade89 profile image83
      Jade89posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome answer. Thanks a lot smile


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