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Will our lives improve if we adopt astrologically arranged marriages for happine

  1. threekeys profile image81
    threekeysposted 23 months ago

    Will our lives improve if we adopt astrologically arranged marriages for happiness and longevity?

    Free range romance and love ends in over 50% divorce. Being aware its not only two people making a life together but also the amalgamation of two families makes you think more seriously about the consequences of your "love". Does anyone know if or what the longevity or divorce rates are of astrologically arranged marriages?

  2. manatita44 profile image84
    manatita44posted 23 months ago

    So sorry, I don't know. But let me tell you a story. A certain famous and accurate astrologer had told a disciple of a Master, that he would die on a particular date. Naturally worried, the disciple told his Master of the prediction, and the Master said that he would not die.

    The Astrologer had never been wrong, and so he promised to become a disciple of that Master if the disciple did not die. The day came and nothing happened and so the Astrologer kept his word and became a disciple of the Master.

    One day, still puzzled, he went to the Master and told him that he was baffled. He had never been wrong and so he wanted to know what changed the disciples fate. The Master told him that he was correct; that the disciple should have died, but that there is a higher thing called Grace. He further told him that this same Grace had operated in and through the Master, to save the disciple's life.

    So will our lives improve? All I know is that in the way of Yoga, you alone have to do the work. This applies equally to the husband or wife. Of course we come influenced by the law of Cause and Effect; Action and Reaction, but by and large, happiness and longevity depends on us, and the Will of the Supreme.

    The whole of life is an inner journey, and our joys or sorrows, are all tied up with God's Love and His laws. The highest Truth is the Absolute, and like my story, it is far superior to Astrology, which after all, is one of it's own Laws. Much Love.

    1. threekeys profile image81
      threekeysposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      We do...we have to do the work in our relationships. "Pull our weight".
      AND I have seen when people believe in Astrology over knowing a person a lifetime and still ignoring their direct experience over the story or the beliefs given by Astrology.

    2. manatita44 profile image84
      manatita44posted 23 months agoin reply to this

      Yes, yes, work is necessary. Thank you.

  3. Aime F profile image86
    Aime Fposted 23 months ago

    First of all, no, the divorce rate is not over 50%.  Divorce has been on a steady decline since the 80s but for whatever reason no one feels like keeping up to date on the statistics.  I guess it's just more fun to cling to the dramatic statistic.  Saying 25% of marriages end in divorce doesn't sound as exciting, I suppose.

    Secondly, arranged marriage is most definitely NOT going to keep up a nearly 75% "success" rate that we currently see with marriages.  It's absurd to suggest as much.  Often when you see success with arranged marriage it's because the culture also doesn't acknowledge "getting out" of it as a valid option.  If you have no option but success you will succeed - though being quite unable to remove myself from an arranged marriage doesn't sound like success to me.

    I would say if you're looking for a higher success rate that the answer probably lies in people knowing each other for a certain amount of time before getting married, and people getting to know THEMSELVES before marrying someone else. 

    You will always, always have at least some divorce, however, since people are not static beings and some who may have been very much in love and compatible at one point may grow in opposite directions.  For now I think a 3/4 chance of your marriage surviving is not so bad, and you are not an unsuspecting victim of the statistics, you ALWAYS make your own choices when it comes to your own life and your own marriage.

    1. threekeys profile image81
      threekeysposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      Yes... I feel too, having a 75% chance of your marriage or long term committed relationship lasting that distance with everything pulling you away from intimacy, is a pretty good chance.

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 23 months ago

    Shaunti Feldman found that less than a third of first marriages end in divorce, and it is less than half of second marriages.
    And no, astrology has no bearing except to the degree one believes such pronouncements.

    1. threekeys profile image81
      threekeysposted 23 months agoin reply to this

      Thankyou for clarifying the stats Tamara.
      Belief...thats the key. How strong or weak....