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Can we live life without expectations?

  1. profile image61
    ezba29posted 21 months ago

    Can we live life without expectations?

    Expectations make us to worry lot but still we are expecting something in life. Is it possible to stop expectations?

  2. WithMetta profile image82
    WithMettaposted 21 months ago

    I think so. We can at least decrease the intensity and number of our expectations, which increases happiness. The trouble with hope is that it's an expectation based in desire, which is magical thinking, and a recipe for disappointment. Better to live in the present moment. No hope needed, no expectations needed. The present is always here. Meditation is a way to take a break from hopes and expectations, and discover how little we actually need them in order to be happy.

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      ezba29posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Thank you metta...nice one

  3. WordCrafter09 profile image78
    WordCrafter09posted 21 months ago

    It depends on what the expectation is.  People can't/shouldn't just sit back, do nothing, and start expecting all kinds of things to happen for them that will make them feel like they're (as you implied, I think) getting something from life.

    There is, however, a type of expectation that is reasonable and realistic.  For example, expecting reasonable justice from a System that calls itself, "Justice system" is one.  Expecting people to do their jobs with a level of conscientiousness and integrity and trust is another one.  Expecting respect as a person from others, particularly when one respects other people is another one.  Expecting people like parents to protect children or people like those in "The System" who are supposed to protect children, elderly people, and/or other victims/potential victims to do that isn't expecting too much.

    Neither is expecting too much in a country that claims that people have rights it unreasonable to expect that those rights mean something (and if they're ignored then the person/people involved shouldn't be expected to just sit back and say, "Oh, well...".

    These are just a few of the "zillions" of expectations that people not only SHOULD have but should not allow anyone else to tell they shouldn't have them, or that they have no right to them.

    Reasonable and realistic expectations should not be confused with "plain old hope" (which can be at sometimes realistic enough but which may not turn out well; also, there can at times be the kind of hope that people have when they're well aware that things won't work out but when they choose to err on the side of hope as long as a shred of it remains).

    Hope is not necessarily "magical thinking", as someone has suggested.  And, the fair and reasonable and realistic expectations of someone who has done everything he could possibly to do to assure that he has (and has earned) so many things that help that person feel as if he is getting all kinds of things out of life (and by "things" I don't mean "stuff"/"material belongings, although they're sometimes part of it) is something that person SHOULD have and should never be talked out of.

    There may be two kinds of people who think you should not have reasonable expectations:  The kind who passively, weakly, and hopelessly sit back and say, "Oh, well..."; and the kind who would NEVER do that but who think that YOU should. The ones who think you should are often the same ones who have failed you and/or failed to do their job.

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      ezba29posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Awesome whelan. .if we think life on the whole expectations are must but as per old proverb "Too much of anything is good for nothing"

  4. Vernon Nugent profile image69
    Vernon Nugentposted 21 months ago

    It's the only way to live. Once you realize you control NOTHING.

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      ezba29posted 21 months agoin reply to this

      Ya you are right we can't control anything. ..

  5. peachpurple profile image81
    peachpurpleposted 21 months ago

    with expectations, you the dream and desire to accomplish them
    Rather than sitting on the couch, idling your life like a potato, I think expectations are helpful to boost a person's dull life