Is it possible to have a relationship without any expectation?

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  1. Vishaaa profile image72
    Vishaaaposted 13 years ago

    Is it possible to have a relationship without any expectation?

  2. Jonathan.Clayton profile image60
    Jonathan.Claytonposted 13 years ago

    Sure. A relationship framed with a lack of expectation is common. It also depends on the type of relationship. However, a person should "expect" to be disappointed if they are completely immersed in the relationship, to begin. Take your time...

  3. Max_Power profile image59
    Max_Powerposted 13 years ago

    Great question, and I suspect that the answer is No.
    I am independent and self-sufficient. I can easily go for a couple of years on my own, with no expectations of others.
    However when I am in a relationship, expectation slowly creeps in. It is easy to have feelings hurt by something that a partner does or doesn't do. Yet when I am on my own I just deal with things, and do not expect anything from anyone.
    So I think that there is an expectation in a relationship that people will each behave in a certain way.

  4. ThunderKeys profile image64
    ThunderKeysposted 13 years ago

    Expectancy is distinct from need. In marriage or related closely emotional relationships, the communication and meeting or continuous negotiation towards needs-meeting is relationship defining.
    The less a relationship is defined by a central interdependent emotional attachment, the less likely it will be that expectation will play a role in its maintenance and definition, if those involved agree.   

    - Duddy.

  5. dashingscorpio profile image69
    dashingscorpioposted 13 years ago

    No! Everyone has expectations!

    It doesn't matter if you are buying a product or exchanging vows you expect that what you are being given will live up to (it's "promise").

    Most people "expect" relationships to consist of Honesty, Trust,
    Loyalty, Love & Devotion, Intimacy, and Emotional Security.

    Not many people would want to enter into any relationship without most if not all of the above traits. Imagine someone saying to you, "I promise you nothing! Don't expect anything from me! I bring nothing to table and I'm here for me only!"
    Odds are they aren't going to have too many friends.

    In fact we "expect" strangers to be polite! (not rude)
    Early on in life we're taught how to "behave"

    There is nothing wrong with having expectations as long as they are leveled at someone who has made a promise, assured us, offered a guarantee or pledge to us. It's only natural to "expect" honesty in any type of relationship.

  6. TinaTango profile image69
    TinaTangoposted 13 years ago

    Yes.  I for one do not want any kids or marriage, yet I still dwindle into relationships without any expectation at all.

  7. maria.rose profile image40
    maria.roseposted 13 years ago

    only in one relation that is  your parents relationship. Otherwise it's not possible to have a relationship without any expectation.

  8. 6hotfingers3 profile image61
    6hotfingers3posted 13 years ago

    I don't think so. Whether the relationship is one based on friendship or on an intimate basis, expectations arise. People give of themselves with the expectations of receiving something in return. It does not necessarily have to be a relationship based on sex,but something has to be given in order to continue to receive.

  9. dianne143 profile image38
    dianne143posted 13 years ago

    all we need to expect is that they are honest to us. Fidelity and honesty is a must in a relationship. Trust also once it is broken I don't think relationship will work out.

  10. akuigla profile image61
    akuiglaposted 13 years ago

    This is a great question that made me think.
    Theoretically it will be the best kind of relationship.
    But we are filed with emotions and sooner rather than later some expectations will anchor.

  11. sonia05 profile image60
    sonia05posted 13 years ago

    Yes, a business relationship can be without any expections. Personal relationships involving emotions are based on trust,understanding and tons of expectations!!!

  12. Loveslove profile image61
    Lovesloveposted 13 years ago

    YES.....I think it is possible to have a relationship without expectations .

  13. chaunatye profile image61
    chaunatyeposted 13 years ago

    I think it depends on a few different things.
    First of all, what kind of relationship is it? Some people are happy to just have someone they can call their partner, and really don't expect anything out of them at all except the open invitiation to be labeled as such.
    Were there boundries set in the beginning? I know a lot of people, young and old, that, while they do love eachother, agreed that they will be together as long as it is convienent for them, kind of a no strings attached type thing.
    Now, as someone else answered, expectations can and will arise eventually. The longer that two people are together, the more they are going to ask out of one another. It's almost impossible, in my opinion, for two to have a working relationship without the effort of making the other happy, and if that is done often enough, you will begin to expect it.

  14. Ranzi profile image69
    Ranziposted 13 years ago

    Yes! Definitely. You just have to put your ego aside and remember that the world does not only revolve around your needs alone.

    This is easier said than done. And of course you'll have to attract the same sort of partner who is a mirror of yourself.

  15. profile image0
    Jussara Scottonposted 13 years ago

    No, no and no!
    Even the most distant relations are full of expectations. In my opinion, is part of the human condition.

  16. TimMEy profile image68
    TimMEyposted 13 years ago

    I would say, yes it is possible to have a relationship without any expectations but it would be a bad one.

    Expectations are the things that you want from somebody else. Like loyalty, honesty or passion. In case you do not expect anything then you won´t get anything. You can still have a relationship, like being "Sex Buddies" but basically there is no point in a relationship if you do not expect something from your partner.

  17. sameeksha kalkarn profile image58
    sameeksha kalkarnposted 13 years ago

    i cant say anything
    i dont know and i am not treined in that

  18. lostohanababy profile image56
    lostohanababyposted 10 years ago

    That depends on what kind of relationship you are in!  There are different types of relationships,  you make it to suit you and what you are wanting or hoping from that relationship.   Like friendship that may lead to marriage, if that's what you want.   I should say what I mean.  That is it its up to you..Every relationship has some level of expectation!


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