As witness to divorce OUTSIDE of your family, how did that experience affect you

  1. Billie Kelpin profile image87
    Billie Kelpinposted 19 months ago

    As witness to divorce OUTSIDE of your family, how did that experience affect your own relationships?

    I'm wondering especially how 35 and 45 year old people would answer this question.  Did you have a friend whose parents went through divorce? Do you think that affected you?  How? What did you see that perhaps changed your view of marriage, your dedication to your own relationships, or your fear of relationships? Were there secrets you felt you had to keep? How did the actions of the people you saw affect you?  Of course, no matter what age you are or what age you were when you witnessed divorce OUTSIDE of your own family, I'd like to know what you saw and felt and how you it affected you.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 19 months ago

    In all honesty I have never witnessed a turbulent divorce.
    The ones I've observed you could see the couples gradually drifting apart. Neither of them really seemed "happy".
    They were just going along to get along.
    The divorce was a legal hassle not an "emotional heartache".
    In one instance the wife moved back to Denmark and the husband stayed in the U.S. where he was from. Most guys don't get into a lot of details about their divorce process unless it's nasty with the ex making financial demands or it involves cheating.
    My parents got divorced when I was seven and most of my friends had divorced parents. When something seems "normal" there is no "after school special" effect. Maybe it would have been different if my situation was unique in my neighborhood.
    When it's all said and done a divorce is a public admission that a (mistake) was mad in one's mate selection process.
    Human beings make mistakes in every area of their lives  including mate selection. In other instances it's a matter of sticking to one's principles or values. Staying together is easier than starting over.