Does it affect a relationship if one partner is more attractive than the other?

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   sholland10posted 14 years ago

   Does it affect a relationship if one partner is more attractive than the other?

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   rhondakimposted 14 years ago

   I think it could affect it, yes...there can be jealousy, of course, and it can be frustrating for the less attractive partner when the more attractive one gets more attention - there may be more pressure on the more attractive partner to "prove" their loyalty.

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   TimMEyposted 14 years ago

   Normally it does affect the relationship from the beginning on because it is part of being in a relationship. There is a theory about the reacher and the settler, which means that theoretically in every relationship there is a reacher, somebody who reaches up and a settler, somebody who settles down. In case you are familiar with the hot scale, where a model like girl for example scores a 10, than you consider that for example a model like girl, who scores a 10 normally would not come together with somebody who scores at least a 7 on the same scale.
   
   The reason for that is that people are in general attracted so somebody who is considered to be equally attractive. Of course there are other reasons too to have a relationship, like status or money but this is all just a theory.

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   Ashantinaposted 14 years ago

   Its very individual......
   it depends on gender, men def prefer this... ; and
   it depends on emotional security, a woman would either love it or hate it... usually more the latter

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   dashingscorpioposted 14 years ago

   I think it would be rare when a relationship has "equally attractive" people. There aren't too many Brad Pitt/Angelina Jolie couples running around.
   
   Traditionally men place more emphasis on getting the most attractive woman they can find and women placed more emphasis on getting the most financially stable man they could find.
   Therefore you see lots of young men buying and reading "get rich quick books" and attending wealth seminars while young women are focused on diets, fashion, cosmetic surgery, and various cream/lotions that promise to hide "perceived flaws".
   
   Generally speaking in the majority of relationships women are more attractive then their men. (That's fairly normal)
   Attractiveness may be an issue in relationships when men are more attractive then their mates.

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   lovelife08posted 14 years ago

   It should not matter at all what they look like if they are in love.  If the more attractive one is with the less attractive one at all, that person must be pretty satisfied with how their partner looks.  Or it just doesn't bother them.  Either way, looks should not determine the quality of a relationship.  Although I will admit good looks do help.  But it should not be the basis of your feelings.

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   Kaniel Loughranposted 14 years ago

   I'd say it does. It's really based on evolutionary needs. Like some animals who only mate with the most symmetrical partners, humans are genetically pre-programmed to search for suitably attractive mates that would allow for the most ideal off-spring. Accordingly, the more attractive partner in the relationship will generally succumb in time to the scoping out of other suitors that might more fulfill the intrinsic animalistic value of that person. Granted the attraction to a person's personality can be equally as compelling, but in this day of superficiality and nip-tucks, do you really think people are looking for smarter and not more attractive mates?

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   nightwork4posted 14 years ago

   i don't think so in most cases. i'm ugly but my wife is beautiful and we are doing great. i think if she was anal about her looks we wouldn't work out but luckily she isn't.

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   Cat Rposted 13 years ago

   One would hope it wouldn't. A partnership shouldn't be about superficial stuff, but what two people feel for eachother.

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