Is love blind?

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  1. ronny2005 profile image81
    ronny2005posted 21 months ago

    Is love blind?

  2. Ashish Dadgaa profile image19
    Ashish Dadgaaposted 21 months ago

    Dear Ronny,

    Lovers are often blind to the beloved's negative traits and tend to create an idealized image of the beloved. We often love the idealized object rather than the real one. Are we then blind when we fall in love and when we maintain it?

    In a surprising number of cases, people fall in love with their idealized vision of their lovers, or with the idea of being in love, rather than with the actual reality of their lovers. Indeed people often say that they are living out their dreams with their beloved. Positive illusions are in fact central to romantic love. Lovers do not see clearly, if at all, their beloved's negative traits and tend to create an idealized image of the beloved.

    One reason for idealizing the beloved is that we tend to evaluate positively that which we desire. Our inclination toward something often leads to its positive evaluation. The idealization of the beloved may also be considered as a kind of defense mechanism, enabling us to justify our partly arbitrary choice. A similar defense mechanism is typical of people who have recently bought a new car and subsequently spend a lot of time reading its advertisements and avoid reading those for other cars they might have bought instead.

    Men seem to idealize women more than women idealize men. For example, a survey of love songs has found that females were more often described as "heavenly" or "angels" than males.

    The idealization of the beloved is more typical of love at first sight and the initial stages of love when a spontaneous evaluation, made on little information, has an important role. If the person fits into the schema underlying the spontaneous evaluation, then the person is evaluated positively. When more information is available, this evaluation must also take into account negative aspects. The initial ignorance of the person's characteristics, which is expressed in idealization, is later replaced with a more realistic picture based upon new and more detailed information. Many divorcees testify that they cannot understand how they could have been so blind to their partner's characteristics. The lover's blindness is not necessarily due to misperception of the beloved's traits; it may also be a matter of distorted evaluation in the sense of focusing on positive qualities only.


  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 21 months ago

    It's not so much that love is blind as much as it is people believe what they WANT to believe. This is true not only in relationships but just about everything from politics to religion.
    Many see what they want to see and hear what they want to hear.
    Naturally if someone is "infatuated" with a person they will tend to ignore "red flags" or give them "the benefit of the doubt" over someone they have little or no attraction.
    Having said that with a divorce rate in the U.S. that hovers around 50% it clearly suggests the "love is blind" symptom is oftentimes a (temporary condition).
    "Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly." - Sam Keen

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 21 months ago

    No, it is too often based on how one looks and the physiological response that causes.
    I'll say that the hormonal rush whether lust or oxytocin DOES blind you to reason.

  5. CapCooL profile image92
    CapCooLposted 21 months ago

    I'm ugly as hell, so I hope it is blind!

  6. profile image57
    Taramaeeposted 21 months ago

    I wouldnt consider it blind . its something you and feel . you feel it in your body . your soul cant denie it . you know when its there . you cant see itbut you sence it you know wen its thete .

  7. Rydhyna Dwivedi profile image61
    Rydhyna Dwivediposted 20 months ago

    Might be, might not be. Totally depends on the nature of the person who is in love.

    According to me, it should not be. Excepting a person for who he is important but that does not mean one should ignore if it gets out of hand.

  8. profile image61
    Saad Abdulsalamposted 19 months ago

    Love this days is based on how much money you have or how good looking you are

  9. Hufflepuff profile image83
    Hufflepuffposted 19 months ago

    I think it is. You overlook every fault, try to justify every action and no matter how obvious it is, you think the person you love can never be wrong.

  10. eirofficial3112 profile image82
    eirofficial3112posted 19 months ago

    If it was, I'm sure the world isn't as it is.

    People fall in love because something attracts them from the other party, though most realize this slower than the others. When people say 'love is blind', it is because any person in love acts irrationally and often is driven by emotions, rendering them any capability to 'see' things logically.


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