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Is love blind or just willing to see less?

  1. wordsscriber profile image60
    wordsscriberposted 6 years ago

    Is love blind or just willing to see less?

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    reeltaulkposted 6 years ago

    Love is never blind, we can all attest to having used Love as blinders even though we see all the red flags and warnings.  If the truth be told Love will warn, alert and open your eyes!  But unfortunately we's rather not listen and in return blame Love for all the pain we intentionally put ourselves through.  In the end only to build walls and neglect ourselves of the one thing that is bound to set us "free" God Damn that's really backwards Smdh!

    Vonda G. Nelson

  3. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 6 years ago

    I think it's definitely willing to see less. We all see the faults in our relationships, and possibly with the people we love, and we choose to overlook them, make excuses for them, or otherwise make them not matter. It doesn't seem to matter how much those "faults" hurt, we just look through them to see the parts of the person that we love the most.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 6 years ago

    During the "infatuation phase" of most relationships I believe most people just "roll with" whatever ever unfolds.

    If they are super attracted to a (new person) they will say "YES" to just about anything in order to not "jeopardize" their "opportunity" to get to know them better.

    You'll see women attending sporting events they have no interest in and guys attending musicals or going shopping just to get closer to the new person. The "infatuation phase" generally lasts up to 6 months if a couple consistantly sees one another. It can last longer in a long distant relationship. It's during this phase where more often than not the first "I love you" is expressed by one or both parties. Naturally it's during this phase when both people are bending over backwards to "impress" each other that we start to believe we have found our "soulmate". We really believe we have found someone who enjoys doing "all the same things we do". Everyone "agrees" in the beginning of a relationship or else a relationship would never come about.

    The next phase which I will call the "attachment phase" begins once we know our mate is "emotionally invested" in the relationship. We express our "authentic self" confident in the knowledge that we won't lose our mate by saying "No" to a variety of things because they would be hurt by the breakup as much as or more than you.

    Love is not "blind" we just tend to put up with more crap from the people we love. We justify it by saying no one gets to "have their cake and eat it too". Unfortunately many of us have learned to accept crumbs. It takes more courage to walk away from an unhealthy relationship than a lot of people have. Quite often it's NOT the person who is mistreated that ends the relationship but it's the one who is doing the mistreating. When someone believes she/he loves their mate "too much"...etc What they are really saying is "I Don't Love Myself Enough" to walk away.

  5. phoenix_028@yahoo profile image61
    phoenix_028@yahooposted 6 years ago

    well I don't believe that love is blind, it would always be a matter of choice whether you are willing to see the truth or live in a world where nothing can go wrong. The thing is we are all quite aware of the choices we make its just a matter of accepting what is in-front of your and making a move.

  6. overcomeshyness profile image58
    overcomeshynessposted 6 years ago

    Can I say, "Neither?" smile 

    I don't think a person in love is absolutely closed or blind to things. If anything, it should open a person up even more.

    Someone who chooses to ignore red flags is going to take on a similar perspective in other areas of their life - not just in their relationships. Love isn't to blame.

  7. Seeker7 profile image95
    Seeker7posted 6 years ago

    I think if someone is still in the 'high' phase of being in love, it is such a great feeling, that maybe some people are 'blind' and don't want their wonderful bubble to get burst. Eventually even the most infatuated come down to earth.

  8. KateWest profile image78
    KateWestposted 6 years ago

    You choose to be blind to faults with someone new because you are still excited about that stage of the relationship. When you stop caring about someone, those same flaws will start to annoy the heck out of you. It's also very easy not to see when someone is wrong for you, just because you are lonely or "in love with love" and not seeing the actual flesh and blood person in front of you.

  9. ibbarkingmad profile image84
    ibbarkingmadposted 6 years ago

    My mom told me to go into marriage with my eyes wide open and then once I am married keep them half shut. So far so good!

  10. stricktlydating profile image81
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    I believe love is willing to see less (of the bad things).

  11. platinumOwl4 profile image75
    platinumOwl4posted 6 years ago

    I have heard the saying "love is blind" , however, I don't believe it. We see many things whether we acknowledge them is another matter altogether.